Dating Thread 206 - picking up tradesmen aswell as dates

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Dancerinthemoonlight Thanks for the new thread.

@Eesha How's the job going?

I've already picked up my tradesman, Mr K is a builder and has some very fit friends who are also tradesmen. I think they're all married or in LTRs though.

I'm still reading Mr Unavailable, I'm now at the part where I find out why I'm emotionally unavailable myself😱

@Onesmallstep67 - I did think after I posted that I should have qualified that I wasn't really trying to make equivalence between the situations. Given your long friendship with Mr Cocky and Ms S being clearly in the 3 month wonder camp they surely weren't. More that it reminded me of how I wasn't sure how to react to a non-response.

My new relationship life as a gangster moll has begun

@Iamclearlyamug

Hi guys checking in for new thread

I’m up to date 6 with mr lorry and he hasn’t blotted his copybook so far - he seems just as ace as he did to start with 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ today we went to the beach for a couple hours and did some swimming and had ice cream and it was all very chilled 😊😊

Fingers crossed it continues to go this well 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Fantastic news, @Iamclearlyamug ❤️

@SpringlikeBunk

My new relationship life as a gangster moll has begun

@SpringlikeBunk- he sounds like a dream.😟

And @DudeFromThatLondon I wasn’t trying to play “top trumps” with my RS with Mr Cocky. It’s been on my mind today and sometimes my posts are a train of conscious thought. I think a friendly check in with someone who hasn’t caused you any distress always deserves a friendly non- commital reply but I find it difficult to be too hard line with some people.
Lots of lovely updates from people. So good to hear 👍💕

@SpringlikeBunk tell Al Capone you will only be able to travel a certain distance and be home by 8pm because of your tag

@Onesmallstep67 I think its hurtful of him to not even respond, did he reply to your second email? I really hate that feeling of being left hanging it not like there’s no history between you.

@Iamclearlyamug that’s really sweet 🥰 really glad it’s going so well for you 😄

@Onesmallstep67 i do think he seems like an idiot if he hasn't replied both times. Clearly he doesn't see the friendship as you have viewed it. Not a good bloke.

@Shayelle2009 yes our history has made his actions pretty hurtful. @Eesha, I agree, if he’s simply read my messages and decided that they don’t warrant even a brief reply then it says a lot about him. The only confusion on my part is that he’s never done this before and we have had several run ins over the 7 years but never ignored one another.
But I am 99% clear now that he isn’t and never will be what I want or need and even without Mr V on the scene I should close the Mr Cocky chapter of my life.

@Onesmallstep67 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Thanks for the new thread. They do fill up so quickly; so much dating advice flowing
Quick update from me - still seeing Mr TG. After I posted here a few weeks ago saying I thought we were at the end of the line, it’s like a switch flicked in him (or like he read my mind or my post!)
He became more attentive, more fun and engaging in messaging , we had a lovely date where he brought dinner, had a really chilled funny night together, he just seemed so much more enthusiastic about seeing me and generally happier. I put it down to him being on holidays from work as I know he was stressed in the weeks before that.
We had another lovely date Saturday again, felt like we are really connecting emotionally which has been missing so far, and it just feels nicer all around. Who knows where we are headed but I’ve just decided to enjoy the loveliness for now and take stock in another month or two.
I have loads of plans myself with my kids and family and friends for the summer so he is not my all and I think that has helped clear my head a little.
We shall see

Good luck with it @Mayzee 😊

So I'm talking to two guys at the moment, Mr Football is an ex pro footballer, he seems okay. Mr Fun (his first question was did I have anything fun planned for today). Mr Fun lives closer, Mr Football works nearby and lives fairly close. Both are 34. Mr football has 3 kids so it's safe to say i doubt he'll want more so the age gap wouldn't be an issue.

Mr Confused is still trying to get me to go to his 🤦‍♀️ apparently I'm absolutely lovely but hard work(neither of us are budging from what we want). I get where he's coming from, and unlike Mr Racing he is actually really nice about it, but I think I might have to pull back from this one. He obviously isn't going to change his mind on the no strings bit and I'm not one for turning up to a guy's house just for sex. Shame as I like our banter.

Mr Cricket and I were messaging yesterday, apparently his ex is being difficult about the house sale and is cancelling viewings and he spent yesterday round there doing gardening and cutting the grass. He is getting a bit frustrated with it all. We did flirt a little bit on Friday (for two people who said let's just be friends😆🤷‍♀️) .

Nice drink with the decorator, he's not gif me in terms of a relationship but now we've both relaxed a bit it's a bit more fun - though he still has zero conversation other than about his kids or work. (And I do not usually mind people talking about their work big how much exactly can you say about decorating??). Mind you, we did talk briefly about the football as it was on in the pub (yawn. Top tip to footie loving guys - don't start dating just before a major tournament!).

I’ve seen this thread on and off for years but never joined because I didn’t like online dating. However, I think I was in the wrong place mentally and not meeting the right people.

I went on my first ever first date where I came away excited last week! It will probably still come to nothing but now I finally understand what I’m looking for and I’m excited!

Please may I join ☺️

@RamonaLark - welcome, pull up a chair but strap in, it tends to be a bumpy ride!

I made a mistake Mr Football is 32. Is 11 years too big an age gap? Is it even worth talking to him?

@Onesmallstep67 and @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

It's what happens when you don't ignore the "shirtless pic" warning flags - you go gangsta.

Date in for Friday and plenty of chats going.

@Mayzee

That does sound nice, glad things are more relaxed overall. The main thing is how things are working for you emotionally so if it's fine stick with it.

Welcome @RamonaLark just jump straight in!

Welcome @RamonaLark we are a nice bunch here.

@Mayzee

Thanks for the new thread. They do fill up so quickly; so much dating advice flowing Quick update from me - still seeing Mr TG. After I posted here a few weeks ago saying I thought we were at the end of the line, it’s like a switch flicked in him (or like he read my mind or my post!) He became more attentive, more fun and engaging in messaging , we had a lovely date where he brought dinner, had a really chilled funny night together, he just seemed so much more enthusiastic about seeing me and generally happier. I put it down to him being on holidays from work as I know he was stressed in the weeks before that. We had another lovely date Saturday again, felt like we are really connecting emotionally which has been missing so far, and it just feels nicer all around. Who knows where we are headed but I’ve just decided to enjoy the loveliness for now and take stock in another month or two. I have loads of plans myself with my kids and family and friends for the summer so he is not my all and I think that has helped clear my head a little. We shall see

Great to hear from you again, @Mayzee. 😘Sending you luck and love ❤️

[quote SpringlikeBunk]**@Onesmallstep67* and @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards*

It's what happens when you don't ignore the "shirtless pic" warning flags - you go gangsta.

Date in for Friday and plenty of chats going.[/quote]
@SpringlikeBunk indeed. I don't know why guys post pictures like that. I just makes them look like vain twats 🥺 Mr. Fit, who on reflection, had an ego the size of a small country, used to post a lot of pics of himself shirtless 😟

Lovely to hear about your upcoming dates. Looking forward to hearing about them 🙂

It's my first day on Hinge (signed up this afternoon while at a loose end) it's been okay. Got one chat going so far. ❤️

And welcome @RamonaLark! 🙂 great to have you with us ❤️