Am I being unfair - buying a house without DP

[sunshinesally11]

Currently I live in a tiny house with my 2DC. My DP of 5 years (who has 1 DC) shares a house with his brother (his DC has their own room there).

We can't afford to buy a property together for the size we need as DP says that his DC needs their own bedroom and can't share with my youngest of a similar age. I'm not prepared to go from owning a home to renting.

My parents have offered to purchase me a bigger house than I have now. This would be a 3 bed, so a bedroom each for my DC and one for me. If this bedroom was a 4 bed, my DP would have moved in and contributed towards the household bills. But because this would be a 3 bed, it would mean his DC wouldn't get their own room, and he would refuse to move in on that basis. In fact, he was pretty cross that I'd consider moving to a 3 bed in the first place.

Am I being unreasonable here? I feel in a really awkward position as potentially to live with my DP and his DC have their own room, I would have to turn down the offer of a 3 bed from my parents. But if i do accept the offer then I know my DP would not react well.

Does anyone have any advice?

TWO THUMBS UP!!! Excellent analysis and response.

Why would you consider his feelings in this? Practically every person on here has told you he is taking the absolute piss, expecting you to SELL your house and rent somewhere so HIS child has its own room for 4 NIGHTS A MONTH! But is happy for you (and him) to share a room with YOUR child for the majority of the month in the meantime! WTAF are you seeing in this twunt?

Obviously I don't know the OP's situation - however, in the (similar) situation of my ex, she stated she could "change his life for the better" and, indeed, the fact she was "rescuing" him was a big part of the attraction (even our marriage counsellor pointed this out).

Also, in fairness, he does get on very well with my kids (well, I guess to a certain extent, he's a big kid himself).

I don’t the op is coming back…

*think

The poor parents biting their tongues as they try and protect their grandchildren from their mother! ......and her need to accommodate her waster "partner"🙄

I feel so sorry for her parents trying to protect those children in their retirement.

Some parents never achieve a little peace no matter how hard they try.
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@sunshinesally11

how are you... 🌸

Did you accept the house?

Accept the offer, improve quality of life for you and your DC, that must always come first. If DP starts sniffling, tell him to buy a house then and you will move in with him.