Has anyone never been hugged by their mother?

[cucumberella]

If so, what is your relationship like with her? I've never ever been hugged by my Mom as far as I'm aware, and I get that not everyone is a hugger or affectionate, but just on a whole she really is so cold and unloving and I'm jealous of those amazing mother daughter relationships I at least believe are out there.

My mum doesn’t hug me no, It brought it home how weird it was when I saw everyone saying how excited they were to hug their family again, none of my family have ever hugged me (or each other) 😕

i have a very challenging relationship with my mother. It's not easy dealing with rejection or indifference from a mother. I am sometimes jealous of those who are close, but then I also suspect I'm just not great at being close to people anyway.

We don't hug! I'm close to my mum though, she was there at the birth of both of my children...

No never. I'm used to it now.

No. We just sort of get on, not close but I see her every week.

My mum doesn’t hug me. Just an unspoken thing.

I'm close to my mother but she never hugs me and can't remember her ever doing so.

Very close to my mum and dad but we don't hug. I don't really like it. I last hugged them pre- teenager.

Occasionally my dad will kiss the top of my head goodbye if i'm sat down. And my mum taps my hand in a goodbye way.

That's all I want. I don't want to hug. Maybe they would.
I guess i'm on the other side of the fence.

We're not a hugging family, in fact the last time I remember being hugged was 2008 when I passed my driving test and my mum hugged me! Doesn't overly bother me, but because I think it's a bit strange I've made a point of being a bit more tactile with my DS's as I don't want them to grow up wondering why we never hug!

I don't remember ever burning hugged by either of my parents. We're not close.

I haven't been hugged by my mum since I was very young (I think toddler, maybe 3?). She would say we're not a family of huggers but are very close, I don't feel we are particularly close. We get on well enough when we see each other.

Not a hugging family. I hugged my DF when I got married, so 20 years ago. I can’t recall ever having hugged my DM.

And that’s ok.

Is it a generation thing? I’m in my 50s and we never hug in my family (parents/siblings) but we might give a kiss on the cheek on a birthday. I wouldn’t be surprised if none of my friends’ families hug either.

My mum hugs me and I pat her back, I'm not a hugger.

My mother has never been a ‘toucher’ . No problem at all, I’ve always known she loves me.

I'm really close to my mum but I don't hug her, her and my brother hug I'm just not a hugging person, she must just know not to try to hug me! (Not that I'd push anyone away). It never occurred to me that said something about my familial relationships.

I'm very close with my Mum, we own a business together and we talk everyday. We don't hug and I could probably count on one hand how many times we have hugged as adults.

I'm not a hugger and I'm not very touchy feely in general and neither is she.

Never. She's never said she loves me or anything and I can't remember her holding my hand/hugging/anything like that
Sometimes I wonder why she had me because she's the least maternal narc person ever but great with other children

Yep we hug and kiss on seeing each other. Not all the time if we've seen each other a lot but always if there's been 2+ weeks in between seeing each other

Me and my mum haven’t hugged since I was a small child. She’s not tactile at all and it’s just an unspoken thing like other PP’s have said. I wish we did tbh. We are close though and she hugs / kisses my 3yo son.

Not hugging doesn't necessarily equate with not caring. Some people just aren't huggers. It's also the case that some people are very demonstrative but won't put themselves to inconvenience for anyone else, it can be superficial sometimes.

@DDIJ

My mother has never hugged me that I can recall. Our relationship is poor, I would say. She doesn't like me hugging my own DC and gets very upset if I try to talk to them privately.

That is really concerning and I would be taking steps to reduce the time my children spent with her.

We weren’t hugged or given much affection as a children, mum started hugging and saying I love you as adults in our 20’s which was just very weird.

I’m not the most tactile person but I always make a point to show affection to dc, to let them know they’re loved.

My DM was not a hugger, or even a touched. Til I came along. Every picture of me as a child I am touching her or holding her hand.

In her last few months she was in a home and didn't often recognise us when we visited or mistook us for her sisters. She no longer wanted to be touched and we respected that

One day she opened her eyes at me and said 'I was never very keen on hugs but then you came along and you just needed hugs to keep you going'.

I'm very grateful and would offer anyone who has missed out a few hugs on the account.