Has anyone never been hugged by their mother?

[cucumberella]

If so, what is your relationship like with her? I've never ever been hugged by my Mom as far as I'm aware, and I get that not everyone is a hugger or affectionate, but just on a whole she really is so cold and unloving and I'm jealous of those amazing mother daughter relationships I at least believe are out there.

@cucumberella
I can’t remember ever being cuddled by my mother. It’s damaged me, and I still feel the effects of it at 53.
I hope you are ok. I do hug myself sometimes, weirdly it helps

I think people not hugging as parents as adults is very different from what the OP has experienced. She has said she has never been hugged. I find that really sad OP. I can't imagine people not wanting to hug their own children.

My mum will accept a hug but she’s very stiff and awkward when it happens! She shows love more through actions like she’ll do lots of batch cooking when she knows I’m tired or stressed at work and bring it round..but she can be quite cold when it comes to physical affection but at the same time very thoughtful, it’s strange! I’m mega cuddly with my husband and daughter...

Sadly they are out there @Schoolnoshow
It’s emotional neglect. Awful.

Never. As a child she said i bored her and was never allowed to cuddle her in case i creased her dress.

My mum wasn't a hugger, I don't ever remember being hugged by her but I always felt very loved. I am not a hugger either if I'm honest but I do and did hug my children because I remember how I felt when my Dad hugged me so I like them to have the same feelings. They are adults now and I still hug them when they arrive and when they leave even though it doesn't come naturally to me

Not huggers! We kiss on the cheek (kind of a cheek press really) as a family. I get more hugs from people I work with!

We don't hug or kiss, or even end messages with kisses in my family. We all do with our own children though. I do envy those with huggie "love you" families. The closest we get is "lots of love" and xx on a birthday or Xmas card

No recollection of my mum hugging us either op, we are very close now but we still don’t. None of my side of the family do. Dh family are all huggers and kissers! I squeeze and kiss my dd every single day so I guess I am now too

I presume my mother did when I was little but I don't remember her hugging me, it would be really weird and awkward if she suddenly did.
I hug my DS like crazy and tell him I love him every day but I have no need for hugs from anyone else.
Even DH, if I'm honest, I know he likes hugs and I just go along with it but it's very much to fulfill his need, not mine.

My parents both hug now, but we were never tactile when young. My mum is really sad that in the late 60s / early 70s when we were born it wasn't the done thing (for her at least) to play with kids. If we cried the pram was wheeled to the end of the garden. Hugging really only started in our 30s/40s and the super cuddly grandkids sealed the deal.

This thread has made me realise that I don’t remember ever hugging my mum or dad. How bloody sad is that ?!? And yet we loved each other and were really close.

Dd and I hug all the time.

Wow I didn't realise so many people would have replied to this. Sorry to anyone who doesn't get hugged but wishes they did.

I hug and kiss my parents most times I see them (a few times a week) my own DC a few times daily and DH a few times daily too. My grandparents were the same. So I don't think it's generational.

Also can't think of any of my friends I wouldn't hug after a while apart or if they were having a hard time.

My in-laws are even cuddlier. Huge bear hugs for hello and goodbyes. My MIL cried her eyes out when she first hugged my DC after lockdown.

Sort of made me feel my family weren't very hug people. Maybe DHs family are OTT with it compared to most.

We hug on arrival and departure (live overseas).

I think it's a generational thing. We were never hugged or cuddled as children.

I am very tactile with my children. Several hugs each day - they are 20, 17 & 14. They all love hugs and give me cuddles. We tell each we love each other all the time too.

My mum started hugging me goodbye as an adult, but neither of my parents were touchy feely. The only time I remember my mum hugging me as a child was the day my Papa died. She hugged me, then we went to school/work. My parents are practical. I love them, they love me, there’s never any doubt of that. They just never needed to show it with physical affection. It’s never bothered me at all.

I personally loathe hugging people not in my family.

I'm close to my mum but we don't hug. We did when I was a little kid though. Wonder if it's a generation thing. I don't think her mim hugged her much either. I hug mine loads and hope to try and keep it like that

I'm 50 and have always hugged and kissed all of my family. We are not especially close, although do love one another, but have always hugged and kissed upon meeting.

I hug and kiss my DC every day and am sorry for those who have missed out on that as children

There is a massive difference between non-hugging adults and parents who have never hugged their children. I’d quite happily not have to hug non-family members again but I can’t imagine a child going without hugs. It’s makes me feel very sad to read some of these posts.

I’m sure I was hugged as a child. As I’m incredibly huggy now.

Never had a big of her. When my stepdad died in 2011 I hugged her and she said...don’t do that I don’t like it.
her friends came to the funeral and hugged her and she hugged them back.

Never. I don’t like her and never have, even as a child.

I hug my own children lots though.

Mum doesn’t hug me as her mum had OCD and never gave any affection so it wasn’t learned behaviour. I don’t remember any hugs as kids.

I now hug my mum (pre-corona) and she tolerates it 😂

But I know mum would do anything for me so it hasn’t affected our relationship at all.

However, I am VERY touchy feely and need lots of physical affection. Could this be a result of interactions with mum?

me 😔

Wheres @themadhugger when you need her?

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