Strange unannounced visit

[santamarga]

Can I ask what you would have done or would do in this situation?

I dropped in unannounced into my husband's place of work (he owns it) with our children as we were in the area and thought it might be nice to pop in. Everything was nice, children having a chat with their dad, and a couple of male colleagues.

Suddenly this woman comes in, strides basically between where we were all standing chatting, and plonks her bag and some papers on DH's desk. The conversation between us all stopped, as I was looking at the woman, waiting for someone to speak.

It suddenly felt really awkward, DH said nothing, just stood there, and the woman was kind of waiting at the desk, as if she had an appointment and just assumed me and the children were customers so was waiting for us to finish.

One of the colleagues said to her something like 'it's a family conference here' in a jokey kind of way.

She then looks up, never once looked at me, looked the children up and down, and asked DS how old he was! When he replied she said 'oh, that's interesting'.

Then she picks up her bag and said something, I don't know what, and proceeds to walk out. It just felt so awkward, and DH said nothing during this.

Apparently she was a rep who had called in unannounced.

Would you have concerns about this?

I really hope it's innocent, but my spidey senses would be going off.

My first thought was something along the lines of "the kids are teens and when they are both 18 I will be free" .... she asks youngest looking child's age and realises that it will be years off.

However, I wasn't there and it isn't my life, I hope you are OK.

Sorry but I'd be doing some digging here. Dodgy as fuck. Rekon he prob said some bullshit about kids relating to not being able to leave.

That awkward moment when your side chick walks in on you with your wife&kids........

I worked in a independently owned bar.The owner of the bar use to go out with a group of his colleagues every Saturday night and bring them all in including his mistress who was his secretary from his other business.Everyone knew about his affair.

There were a couple of very awkward moments when very occasionally his wife would join them on a Saturday night out;funnily enough the secretary would stay the furthest away from them.

I honestly felt like telling the poor woman what a scumbag her husband was.

@FrumpyBetty

Orrrrr maybe she is in bits because she has found out the truth and has better things to do than update a bunch of vultures whi are waiting with baited breath for the juicy gossip ?

Who knows eh ?

Indeed. The behaviour of a lot of posters on these kind of threads is an embarrassment and in no way supportive of women.

If they’re not begging for updates or ‘shamelessly placemarking’ with cringeworthy posts saying how worried they are while tagging the OP in the hope that she might return with a nice, juicy update, they’re posting wild speculative scenarios made up in their own fevered imaginations.

No wonder MN is full of fake CF threads, pervs and ridiculous trolls these days when members are incapable of posting with any sense of sympathy, restraint or sensitivity and expect to be updated for their own entertainment.

Meanwhile hijacking a thread to virtue signal and bitch about others is fabulous etiquette

Hope you’re okay op - seems like odd behaviour to me as well but who knows the context

The family conference comment was odd. Does she have kids with him? Long term affair?

It's extremely familiar to do that putting your bag on his desk.

I think I'd be asking DH not to use her company again due to her weird, rude behaviour.

And drop in randomly more often.

What I would do is I'd find out who she was and try to find out all I could about her.

@santamarga have you spoken to your husband about it yet?

Thats weird! What does DH say?

Sure I'd be concerned. If she was a known sales rep going in without an appointment, nothing wrong with that, but why did she hightail it out of there? Why not just engage in conversation to find out whether it was a good time or not? Pretty bad sales rep, just giving up on a potential sale there.
Sounds like she had a lunch date with someone. Whoever's desk she put her stuff on - that's who the lunch date was with.

Always trust your gut...and him taking reps out to lunch without telling you already shows he capable of deception.

She might have strode in because she already clocked her AP chatting and laughing with a woman so thought she'd make a territorial showy entrance. Then when it's pointed out to her that it's actually the wife, she's doubly pissed off so takes it out on the kid and she's also upset at seeing the family together maybe so hightailed it before getting upset?

Bin him.

It feels to me like she was marking her territory, I’m sorry to say. The fact that he sat there like a stunned mullet is doing nothing to make him look less guilty.

The only time that sort of weird conversation has happened to me, it transpired my boyfriend had once snogged the person. But we were much younger. People can be weird at work though. It can sometimes be socially awkward at the best of times. I have visited my own workplace with my kids and colleagues I actually worked with barely acknowledged me or made crap conversation then bumbled around awkwardly.

I think she had a lunch date with him too and realised he hadn’t mentioned to wife. However in all honesty I used to have a lot of lunch dates too with Male clients/reps and didn’t always mention them as to me it was part of work . It may be perfectly innocent - just awkward

Sounds like something's not right.

You’d imagine that a rep would want to be friendly and polite to the family of the person who might be buying. Definitely sounds like some historical or current shagging. A lot of it may have been face to face if she pops in like this - you may have difficulty finding evidence.

You won't know unless you talk to him and he answers honestly

Walking in bag on desk shows she's used to being there, doing that, and doesn't need an appointment. Everyone there seemed to know who she is.

The "family conference" comment is really strange... Bigamist?

Sorry, this definitely sounds like something dodgy going on.

@Bebelle9

The "family conference" comment is really strange... Bigamist?

Sorry, this definitely sounds like something dodgy going on.

Oh for god's sake. The colleague was quite clearly saying the woman walked in on a family conference, not that she was part of the family.

I hope you're ok OP.

I think the 'family conference' was the colleague's way of warning the woman that you are 'the wife'

@sunnyblackwidow

I think the 'family conference' was the colleague's way of warning the woman that you are 'the wife'

Of course it was. He couldn't say 'have you met Sally?' because it's not his place to, if the husband is there, it's his job to introduce his wife to his colleague. So he says the first thing he can think of on the spot.

The husband owes that man now.

Wankers, the lot of them (not the OP and her children).

Kama is hopefully hot on the tails of this one .

I'm a medical sales rep and have known consultants and doctors for 10 years now, meet them every 12 weeks and there is no way I would land my briefcase/bag down on their table when I am in their company/office