Dating Thread 205 - dusting off the gladrags

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@SpringlikeBunk

One guy who has liked me on Tinder has a photo of him with his hand between his legs whilst he is in a hospital bed with one leg in a plaster cast.

Dear Readers, I did not match with him...

Ugh! 🤢🤮🤮

@Onesmallstep67 - I had that. Sent MsS a very brief and breezy email a few months post-relationship only to get no reply. I left it at that but was left a bit weirded out and wondering whether they were ok.

Haven't read but I'd hate to receive one 'off the shelf' so to speak - bit of a red flag

Oh totally, you'd definitely only use them as a guide. Half of them don't make sense and many sound imbecilic ("it's been super cool hanging with you" etc).
They also do the big no-no of "not really ready" which I think is insulting, especially as they can then see you back on the apps later.

But - red flags don't really matter if someone is ending a relationship I don't think?

I'm really good with words usually, write a lot for work etc, but this I find I cannot do. I can think up whole emails in my head when I'm trying to sleep at 4am, but try to get them down on paper the next day - nada.
I do have a draft text to MrWG ready to go that I dreamed up a few nights ago, but I'm holding off for now as he seems to have stepped up slightly. He sent me a video yesterday from his weekend away, which, while the video itself was really dull, I thought was a promising sign.

Can't get a plumber for love nor money - so Tinder wouldn't help!

I have a TON of catching up to do! It's my Birthday today (34) funnily enough while trying to buy prosecco with my son i was still asked or ID. This made my day!
So I got a 'Happy Birthday' txt from the old MrS, not heard anything in pretty much two months, just vanished a day or two after we spent the night together and everything seemed 'fine'... ghosted! But i will not be responding, he neeeds to be gone for good! Waste of my energies.
Also tonight i have agreed to meet my first new iron from the app. We can call him MrElf i'm 'at' work and so nervous. He seems really nice and easy to message with. Haven't spoken over the phone he's foreign but speaks english and has sent voice messages. I'm meeting him in the evening (stupid late evening meeting to get through first) Will be a tricky one to sit through being a bundle of nerves. First actual 'meet-up' with someone new in a looong while and it's on my birthday! I feel about 25 today! Right now to catch up with how you're all doing! See you!

@Naimee87 - happy birthday! Good luck with the meet.

Happy birthday @Naimee87! Hope you have a wonderful day 🎁🎂🍷🍾🥂🥳🎉

happy birthday @Naimee87

@SpringlikeBunk my tinder gold was £5.30 for a month. But looking at Google they have no real pricing structure and it's luck if you get offered a half price month and depending on age and location depends on the price.

Out of 1000 swipes so far I have swiped right on 16 and have 5 chats. My furthest away match has been in Australia. It feels like slim pickings of those I'm actually attracted to and who are close enough to meet.

@naimee87 happy birthday 🎁🍾💐🎂

Happy birthday @Naimee87 🎉🎊

Oooh @GaraMedouar ive got a date zero tomorrow too, with Mr Shack. Here’s wishing us both luck ☺️🍀🍀

@Naimee87 happy birthday 🎂

@SpringlikeBunk I've paid for Tinder Gold, and have not swiped on a single one of the ones who had liked me. 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️. May try and get a refund😂

As for Bumble (you can pay for a day at least) two and they live an hour away from me.

I'm sticking with matching with "ok see what happens guys" and letting them message first.

I don't mind sending first messages, but often the response is "polite" but I think they're messaging others they like they look of more so the chats fizzle out?

But - red flags don't really matter if someone is ending a relationship I don't think?

That was my idea of a quip regarding the futility of quibbling over the exact way that someone breaks up with you.

I've had the same thing happen with the pipes in the bathroom. Some vigorous unblocking dislodged some of the push fit pipe work. If you have a decent Stanley knife you should be able to cut through the soggy plaster in the downstairs ceiling [if it's not lath] and then get a saw in and cut around to make a bigger hole. It's a mess so protect underneath. You should be able to reach the leaky joint and push the bits back into place and at least be able to have a shower. Patch of the ceiling should be around an hour of work for a plasterer so might set you back £100.

If you have a decent Stanley knife you should be able to cut through the soggy plaster in the downstairs ceiling [if it's not lath] and then get a saw in and cut around to make a bigger hole. It's a mess so protect underneath. You should be able to reach the leaky joint and push the bits back into place and at least be able to have a shower. Patch of the ceiling should be around an hour of work for a plasterer so might set you back £100.

This is useful, thank you. Yes, the plumber has suggested going up through the kitchen ceiling.

I don't have a Stanley knife, I'm a bit off knives at the moment as my poor finger is still healing!

But hey, at least I know a decorator!! (And he knows a plasterer)

Thanks EVERYONE!
@VanGoghsDog your post made me laugh and think of the friends episode where Ross dates the blonde girl and her apartment is beyond rank. Joey just says if you like her 'you goin to have to do it in the mess'
With Hinge i was on it for a few months but it kind of was a little dull. I found it more 'up-market' though to Tinder and actually didn't find as many of the same faces on it. But the conversation flows were really minimal the men just seemed 'über-posh' with photos of them at the Polo drinking wine, with shinier hair than me or at some distant desert island that i'd never ever be able to travel too. Got ghosted on here too by the only man i did actually want to meet.
@SpringlikeBunk
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards @Dancerinthemoonlight @Isitreallyme77 @ Shayelle2009 i think we'll have to have a HUGE party to celebrate everyone's success stories. I've luckily not been feeling too down lately but perhaps because i got this match and was really forward with him. He asked if i use whatsapp after we exchanged a few messages on the app and i immediately gave him my number which was last monday. We kept up chatting for the week as well. I was at my parents place with my sister so there was a lot going on which kept me nicely away from my phone. Not wanting to come on too strong and scare him off. Let's see how it goes then later... trying all i can to keep busy with other things! Should be focusing on work!
@Isitreallyme77 i felt the same when MrS txt the birthday message. I knew it meant that he'd been able to message this whole time but hadn't...

New thread - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4270631-Dating-Thread-206-picking-up-tradesmen-aswell-as-dates?watched=1

Happy Birthday @Naimee87

Its been about a year since I was last on here (under a different username) and I am ready to get back into the dating game.

I had a FWB over the winter but that's not doing it for me anymore.

I was back on the apps for a few weeks and had very little in the way of matches and the ones I got soon fizzled.

Anyway, I see this same guy on the apps often. I feel some pull to him but I've not swiped right as he reminds me a little of a guy I dated last year. He looks similar with the same hobby (think geek chic on a bike)

Anyway, swiped right yesterday and matched. Chat has been great. He is very on the ball, asks lots o questions, replies etc and has asked me out on Tuesday. I am looking forward to it but I'm quite nervous. I know that is normal, but my luck with dating has been dire and I dont have the energy for any more disappointments.

So lets call him Mr GeekChic