That's the thing Legs, hating someone you have loved for so long feels so alien.
We all when in relationships have those feelings within us, to a lesser degree.
But a betrayal really stops dead that alternating of love and hate.
Hate dominates, but it wears itself out, it cannot keep burning forever.
It's not wrong to feel hate, let it come and pass over you, in time it will lessen though.
I think part of the problem is you want them to feel just a bit of that hate but they don't, hate didn't come into it for them, they have no idea how destructive it is upon your soul.
Time eases things Legs, your illness and problems are still things he will go through, he is not immune in that bubble, the pains of normal life will still affect him.
His problems will come I've no doubt, but he will not feel as safe and in comfortably company as you do.
You have your children, your blood, your home, everthing he has is new and unfamiliar, and when crap arrives, as it always does when older, he will feel isolated, you can't try when you feel ill for example.
The familiarity of close family is one of the best comforters as you get older, not needing to try, to relax in the knowledge you are loved and they love you, unconditional love. Heaven.
He's placed himself in the role of a young man with aims and demands that a new relationship brings, uncertainty and newness, now why would anyone in their right minds do that at his age.
I still think he's made a very stupid choice.
I think one day he's going to understand what hate feels like, mark my words.
xx