Would you take this as code for he's not interested? How would you respond?

[Appleskyy]

I met a bloke through a mutual friend. We had a chat via WhatsApp and discussed seeing each other again, with him then saying "well let me know when you are free".

It's a blow off isn't it?
How would you respond to this

Thank you all !

Yay! Fucking hell though that was hard work 🤣

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I hope it all goes well Apple! Took long enough 😂

@EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall

Tell me about it! 🤣

No more fuck ups moving forward.

Thank you all for your advice

@KurtWilde

Thank you

Let's us know how it goes. I feel strangely invested now 🤣

Hi everyone. Just to update and get more of your opinions. So we have been on a few dates - so far so good and he always seems keen to get together again. However, I do not hear from him in-between dates, not a peep, until he messages to arrange another date.

I've never known this before with past dates etc.
Any ideas for the reason behind this?

To add sometimes I arrange/suggest a date so I don't leave it all down to him.

Do you contact him in between?

Do you contact him in between

I don't but I'm a lot more reserved than him.

This man is hard work! Has he just come out of a relationship? Is he normally very chatty?

He is very outgoing, loves to talk etc so I'm surprised I don't hear a peep in-between dates.

Sounds like you want him to do all the chasing (give you dates he's available, make all the contact between dates).

@Ginger1982 I've always given him the dates I'm available.

@HollowTalk

This man is hard work! Has he just come out of a relationship? Is he normally very chatty?

They are both hard work. She thinks he should send first text, he probably thinks she should. Both should stop thinking and start communicating

[quote Appleskyy]@Ginger1982 I've always given him the dates I'm available.[/quote]
No you haven’t!

When he asked previously when you are free you replied “great let me know what works for you”. 🙄

@Appleskyy

Hi everyone. Just to update and get more of your opinions. So we have been on a few dates - so far so good and he always seems keen to get together again. However, I do not hear from him in-between dates, not a peep, until he messages to arrange another date.

I've never known this before with past dates etc.
Any ideas for the reason behind this?

In fairness, neither of you actually seem like written communication is your strong suit, so maybe he dreads being dragged back into some weird, tentative non-exchange of texts like the first one.

@Appleskyy

Do you contact him in between

I don't but I'm a lot more reserved than him.

You need to make more of an effort. You can’t expect him to do all the chasing, the first move, organising all the dates. You need to start up conversations in between dates to show that you’re interested.

"No you haven’t!

When he asked previously when you are free you replied “great let me know what works for you”. 🙄

Well apart from that one time.

CutieBear

You are probably right

You sound hard work!

As long as you are getting dates it’s positive.
Hopefully, as you get to like each other more you both can up the communication.

Following with interest!

The more dates you have - hopefully you’ll be more confident and then can communicate more freely eventually