Would you take this as code for he's not interested? How would you respond?

[Appleskyy]

I met a bloke through a mutual friend. We had a chat via WhatsApp and discussed seeing each other again, with him then saying "well let me know when you are free".

It's a blow off isn't it?
How would you respond to this

This is the thread that keeps on giving 😂😂😂

You're messing him about OP. Either you want to see him again or you don't. If you do then ask him if he's free on a specific date and suggest something you'd like to do on that date. That gives him plenty to work with if he is still interested in you.

[quote Appleskyy]@Tealights I assumed he would suggest a day/date since I asked him what works best for him.[/quote]
But he asked you when you are free before you asked that. 🤦‍♀️

[quote Appleskyy]@Tealights I assumed he would suggest a day/date since I asked him what works best for him.[/quote]
But he'd already asked you the exact same thing!

Why would he respond when you hadn't?

Christ. How does anyone ever go on a date with anyone else when they have to play games and have expectations and when they can’t possibly be the ones to suggest etc etc etc.

He said “let me know when you’re free.” So why didn’t you? Why should he be the one to suggest a date. “If he was interested in me he would have suggested a time and date.” Well, if you were interested in him you would have suggested a time and date.

A blowoff would have been if he’d replied “I’ll let you know when I’m free.” He left the ball in your court but as that wasn’t what you wanted you sound like a petulant child.

[quote Appleskyy]@Tealights I assumed he would suggest a day/date since I asked him what works best for him.[/quote]
OP he asked you that first and you didn't tell him!

A heart emoj shows he likes you.
Just suggest a day and time and leave it up to him to come up with an alternative if what you suggest doesn’t suit him.

Life is too short for overthinking these things.

Just take the plunge and tell him when you're free... I know everything in society tells us that men are suppose to do all the chasing, all the texting, all the organising of dates but some men are probably scared of rejection too. Just be proactive here, you've got nothing to lose. Give and take! And try not to take everything so seriously, act like you would organising something with a friend, don't put to much pressure on yourself or him by analysing every small minor detail. You might even get to go on a date 🤣

Oh fuck me 😂😂 this is outstanding

Who would have thought that "let me know when you're free" would cause such drama.

Going through life trying to save face is a problem. You won't need to save face when your self esteem can handle telling someone you like them and them not reciprocating. Be brave.

Yah agree with you OP. A def blow out.

He's too scared to say, actually don't think we had chemistry. So is keeping it ambiguous, letting it die a death.

But uncomfortable as it's through mutual friend.

I'd answer with when do you fancy, and then see what happens. But nah he's not that into you. He'd be chomping at the bit to see you again.

Oh sorry didn't see update. That's exactly what you did!

Sometimes I am confused why I am still single. Even I am not this hard work

I'd be chuffed with a 'when are you free?'. To me it means he values my time and isn't railroading me into a time/day that suits him. I don't get OPs weird response to it

I'm meeting a guy later who said to let me know when I was free...I told him Saturday so he said OK, and we arranged something. You're making it a lot more complicated than it needs to be!

@KurtWilde

I'd be chuffed with a 'when are you free?'. To me it means he values my time and isn't railroading me into a time/day that suits him. I don't get OPs weird response to it

No, me neither.

When are you free sounds like a perfectly normal response to me.

Going against the grain here, but, if I’m dating a guy and really early on he asked me that, I wouldn’t be impressed. It demonstrates a lack of confidence and seems to imply that he wants you to take the lead. I don’t like that. I wouldn’t ask an open- ended question like that to a guy either. I prefer things to be direct and clear. Because to me that shows the guy is on the ball and knows how to organize things and get stuff done.

This might all sound really ott and like I’m being overly harsh with the guys that I date. However, I will say this - every time I’ve made an exception and given the benefit of the doubt to guys who are vague about making plans, they have all ended up dithering and not being able to make a solid plan. They then want input on where to go, what time to meet, blah blah blah. Just make a decision ffs!

Appreciate this makes me sound like hard work. Maybe I am. But reading this comment from a guy, for me it sets a tone of “I can’t be bothered to make a proper plan” and that’s the kind of guy I try to avoid because I know I won’t be compatible with them.

He messaged and asked if I'm free Friday!

"They then want input on where to go, what time to meet, blah blah blah. Just make a decision ffs!"

But isn't that good? That means you get to choose.

And what did you say ?

"And what did you say ?"

I told him yes. I'm not fucking it up this time !

Well done OP! Just relax and don't overthink I things.

Well done, OP. Just go and enjoy. Don't chase but don't be so aloof that you send signals that you're not interested. I hope it goes well.

Yay! Fucking hell though that was hard work 🤣