Would you take this as code for he's not interested? How would you respond?

[Appleskyy]

I met a bloke through a mutual friend. We had a chat via WhatsApp and discussed seeing each other again, with him then saying "well let me know when you are free".

It's a blow off isn't it?
How would you respond to this

Yep just tell him when you're free

With full context I see your point OP. I wouldnt be sure how to take that either. I'd send a lukewarm message about when and leave it so he can either act on it or not. If he's interested you should find out soon enough

Why didn't you put the "context" in your op?
I think it does change things a little, but there's still only one way to find out 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ffs OP. I would prefer this approach. Maybe it means he is happy to be flexible around you?

Don't play games, just say when you're free! You're never going to find out otherwise.

Has he been waiting since 6pm for a response?

Why is it left up to the guy ? Just tell him when you are free.

Jesus wept. This is another 'send the text' thread isn't it!

How is this a blow off? Just tell him when you are free.

@ItsCokeFFS

I may be way off here, but I think it means "let me know when you are free"

I would respond by letting him know when I was free.

Or maybe just ignore it and then he will know that you aren't interested/can't respond to a simple question.

Since when did "let me know when you are free" have so many possible connotations?

Bloke should run for it - big red flag.

I don't think blokes are that complex. You're over thinking

Just give him some dates or say any time other than xyz good for me

Just tell him when you're free! If he doesn't respond then you know he's not interested. He sounds interested to me.

If you want to get a date request out of him, reply to that text with, “What did you have in mind?” Then he’ll be forced to actually suggest some kind of date.

If you replied, “I’m around this Friday or Saturday,” he’ll suggest something crap/lazy/inexpensive/likely to end up in bed.

If you’re not sure if he’s interested, stop initiating things. Leave him Diane to do what he wants to do - then you’ll know.

reply to that text with, “What did you have in mind?"

Yes, reply with when you're free plus this.

I wouldn’t respond with “what did you have in mind”, it doesn’t follow the flow of the conversation, i.e.

“Shall we meet up again”
“Sure, let me know when you are free”
“What did you have in mind”.

It surely makes for OP to respond with a few options of when she is free.

Oh god this is hard work and makes me realise 2 things. I'm glad I'm single and don't date.
And
I'm beginning to realise why men say they don't understand women.
You asked whether he wants to do something he said yeah, when are you free.
Surely you the say I can do x or y but I have plans on z.
He will either say oh y is good for me too or ok I'll let you know (or something as equally vague). Either way you have your answer.
Why all the angst, I mean I haven't dated for a couple of years but surely it doesn't need to be so complex.

@Appleskyy

Thank you all for your replies. For context, I was the one to indicate seeing each other again and that Is when he replied "well let me know when you are free".

I mean what else could he say, right!
I took it as a polite blow off.

With the full context, what would you think? As he did not say it off his own back so to speak, but a response to my initiation.

JUST TELL HIM WHEN YOU'RE FREE LIKE HE'S ASKED.

Suffering God, I can't believe this is even an issue.

Is this guy STILL waiting to know when OP is free?? Christ on a cracker I'd have blocked her by now. Hard work.

@JorisBonson

Haha I haven't heard "suffering god" since my Irish nanna used to say it and it made me smile - thank you!

I really don’t understand how people younger (than me ) communicate as you have the words of the message, but not the intention behind it.

If you were actually speaking to this person he could he said those words in a deadpan “yeah whatever “ manner, which would clearly be a blow off comment.

OR .
He could have said it with the excitement of a puppy going out for its first trip to the park 🐶 ...

You just have to reply and find out ..

I replied with along the lines of - great! Well let me know what works for you and we can figure something out.

If it wasn't a blow off he will get in contact to see me again, right?

It's of his own accord now without me initiating it.

OMFG!

You are going to go back and forth, back and forth, with the pair of you saying
No...you tell me.
Whenever you like
OK, well let me know what's good
I don't mind, I'll fit round you

It is exhausting. I do not know how you can do with the passive aggressive drama. If I were him I'd not reply to your last text now. It's too much bloody hassle to get a date with you.

If he's interested he will get back to me with a date/suggestion (that I will become available for as it shows he is interested).

The reason being is that I save face if it was a blow off as I will still see this bloke from time to time due to having a mutual friend. If it was a complete stranger then that would be different.

Fucking hell when did dating become so hard