Would you take this as code for he's not interested? How would you respond?

[Appleskyy]

I met a bloke through a mutual friend. We had a chat via WhatsApp and discussed seeing each other again, with him then saying "well let me know when you are free".

It's a blow off isn't it?
How would you respond to this

I want tidy units!

Head in hands for you OP. I'm guessing you're someone who thinks a lot and doesn't like to be too direct.

Let us know if he gets back to you!

If you're both indecisive your no you say, no you say thing could go on for many months!

Oh fuck! I've fucked it up haven't I?!

Yes but its probably for the best!

@LalalalalalaLand123

I hope this poor bloke runs for the hills

Yup

Although if they do date the OP's updates will be hilarious.

I asked him what his favourite colour was and he said Blue! I was wearing a taupe blouse and pale green trousers! What do you think he meant by that. Is he being emotionally abusive?

Bloody hell

There seems to be threads like this every day recently. Has covid and lockdown made people unable to date without questioning every little thing!

I think I might pass on it all 🤣

Your reply should have been "I'm free any time, big boy...!"

@TedHastingsweeDonkey

Jesus, Mary, Joseph and the wee donkey indeed. This hasn't even begun and you've already over complicated it...just let the man know when you are free and take it from there???

OP putting the ball in 'his court' was a really silly unnecessary thing to do on this occasion. You have come across as being hard work and someone who won't accept any responsibility or take even the slightest risk.

Interacting with someone new or embarking on a new relationship always comes with an element of risk, but putting all the decisions or communication on the other person is incredibly draining for the other person, no to mention silly.

I once had this with a guy who couldn't decide what we were going to cook for a 4th or 5th date dinner, i'd given him loads of ideas of what I liked, sent him screen shots etc and that I really wasn't fussed but he wanted me to choose all the ingredients. He kept putting every last detail back to me. He was a trained chef!! Such hard work!! it was like emotional text ping pong and incredibly off putting.

I know you said you wanted him to do the leading but this is taking it to the extreme. You have come across as a bit of a wet lettuce tbh. And if you're having to think that hard about things before you've even been on a date I would suggest you need to work on your confidence and self esteem a little more. It makes no difference that you've got mutual friends, he's just a guy, what's the worst that can happen seriously. I think you're fretting too much.

@Appleskyy

Oh fuck! I've fucked it up haven't I?!

Yes probably, I wouldn’t bother answering your last message if I were him. Did you not think of the conversation as w while it went:

“shall we meet up sometime”

“Sure let me know when you are free”

“Great let me know what works”.

It doesn’t make sense, I wouldn’t even know what to say to you after that, hence I think I wouldn’t bother.

Wonder if he responded?

I doubt it. I wouldn't.

Me neither.

O....m....g...my stomach is so sore....the tears.... sorry OP, but I haven’t laughed that much in years! This whole thread is just so damn hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

The witty responses ....I’ve been ROFL for 10minutes 🤪

I don't understand how the OP posted on here and got loads and loads of sensible advice, yet still managed to send such a non-sensical reply to this bloke's message?

Gosh you sound like hard work. Let him know when you’re free.

He replied about 20 minutes later with a heart and a smile emoji but nothing since. Fuck!

@Appleskyy

He replied about 20 minutes later with a heart and a smile emoji but nothing since. Fuck!

Have you replied to that text? Or just sat staring at it and waiting?

Well have you told him when you're free yet or not? What do you expect him to say?

His response indicates he's still interested (which is probably a 🚩 given everything) but you do need to tell him otherwise he can't take it any further.

Send him this:

🎀🚓🎨

then cross your fingers and hope for the best.

@Tealights I assumed he would suggest a day/date since I asked him what works best for him.

OP I know you aren't meaning to be but you are hilarious. I really hope he's on a forum relaying the other half of this conversation from his POV

[quote Appleskyy]@Tealights I assumed he would suggest a day/date since I asked him what works best for him.[/quote]
Mate, seriously... just ask him if he's free this Saturday.

Just leave it now.

[quote Appleskyy]@Tealights I assumed he would suggest a day/date since I asked him what works best for him.[/quote]
You're hard work OP.

He asked you to tell him when you're free, why don't you just do that instead of pissing about?