Dating thread 204 - surfing the SeaofTwits

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I'm out tonight with MrSailor - really unusual for me to go for a meal first off with someone but the table reservation is limited to 2hrs so what's the worst that can happen. He's travelling probably 2/3 of the way to me so can't complain. Like @Isitreallyme77 's guy he's not much of a one for messaging whereas I am - will just see how it goes.
I think a tailored jumpsuit will do? But will probably change my mind later

Mr Thespian disappeared after the video call and Mr Army is still messaging occasionally.

@Bythecooker that's really rubbish behaviour- so hurtful.
@Shayelle2009 hope you enjoy your coffee date!
@oprahwindfuryy well done you, I'd maybe point out sulking is unattractive but that would also probably get me blocked

@PyjamasOClock

I'm out tonight with MrSailor - really unusual for me to go for a meal first off with someone but the table reservation is limited to 2hrs so what's the worst that can happen. He's travelling probably 2/3 of the way to me so can't complain. Like *@Isitreallyme77* 's guy he's not much of a one for messaging whereas I am - will just see how it goes. I think a tailored jumpsuit will do? But will probably change my mind later

Mr Thespian disappeared after the video call and Mr Army is still messaging occasionally.

Good luck @PyjamasOClock ❤️

[quote oprahwindfuryy]@VanGoghsDog, I told him to change the reservation. I definitely won’t be pushed, but what do I do about the sulking? I almost feel like telling him to piss off now, but maybe I’m being harsh ?[/quote]
See how the drinks goes? How is the sulking manifesting?

Hope you enjoy your date @Shayelle2009

@Onesmallstep67

Oh *@Mayzee I am really sorry to hear this. He's been around for a significant chunk of time and it's always sad when you realise that things may have run their course. I know you have said you sometimes find it difficult to have a conversation about such things but do you feel it's worth one last shot ? Are you on the slow fade ? I've been in those situations where not everything was wrong but there just wasn't enough that was right* to keep us going.

I think that’s it @Onesmallstep67 - it’s not all bad, just not good enough and I’ve been ignoring my worries about it because of lockdown as nothing is normal. But we are finally coming out of lockdown and no sign of him wanting to change the status quo. I have been avoiding a conversation and need to have one with him because if his effort levels were to improve it might be worth giving things a proper go. Or I might just never suggest a meet up and we can stay WhatsApp friends who wish each other goodnight forever

I genuinely was excited about it but did a complete 360 as soon as we were alone. ewww hard to get out of my head actually!

Same. Also need to get it out of my head. Luckily I've taken MrWG into my bed since so it's no longer my most recent memory!!

Good luck @Shayelle2009

@Mayzee I agree it seems like you’ve given it a decent amount of time and patience ...I personally don’t mind planning or suggesting stuff it’s not all the mans job

but equally feeling like I’m solely stuck with the mental load of organising is a bit grim! I don’t want to live in someone’s pocket but I do want to look forward to a meal out or a cinema trip or weekend away.

You’ve not been single that long as I recall so I guess you can consider all your irons this last year “practice runs” under difficult dating circumstances!

Maybe MrTG would be a good person to “bench” and keep on your radar as if you get on fine when you are seeing each other it seems a shame to completely lose touch.

Have a lovely dinner date @PyjamasOClock

Good luck @PyjamasOClock

@VanGoghsDog i did the same! Went back to 'old flame' i knew was dead good in bed but wanted nothing more to make sure the other experience got wiped from my memory as soon as possible.
Hearing all these stories even though there are obviously still a lot of oddballs out there and the possible 'let down' scenarios are all a reality it's certainly making me get a tad excited about getting out there again!

Thank you everyone - have had the crisis of "but I'm so fat and unattractive" and keep reminding myself he's seen my full length photo on the app so I've not pretended to be anything I'm not. I've had too much liquid and have a jumpsuit with a back zip on

Good luck @PyjamasOClock

Wasn’t really feeling the date too much.. seemed a nice enough guy but came across really fucking patronising at one point which ground my gears so don’t think ill be meeting up with him again even if he wanted to. I feel quite pissed off 😠

Thanks @VanGoghsDog he’s changed the table to drinks outside, and asked if I fancy a meal there one evening next week, watch and wait now I suppose.

@Shayelle2009 oh no. Consider it 1 closer to a good match

[quote Naimee87]@VanGoghsDog i did the same! Went back to 'old flame' i knew was dead good in bed but wanted nothing more to make sure the other experience got wiped from my memory as soon as possible.
Hearing all these stories even though there are obviously still a lot of oddballs out there and the possible 'let down' scenarios are all a reality it's certainly making me get a tad excited about getting out there again![/quote]
I had a fab FB a few years ago. I'm considering dropping him a line to get a good rogering.

But I'm holding out for MrWG being a bit more forthcoming in the next week or so.

@Shayelle2009 oh no! You're better off without people like that ❤️

🤣 a good rogering 🤣 haven't heard that for ages!!

Thanks @SpringlikeBunk that’s a good way to look at it - practice runs I started online dating this time last year - had my first ever first date last July so still early days I guess. I’m just very emotional about it all this evening:(
I’ll guess I’ll be swimming in the SoT in no time

@Shayelle2009 that’s a pity. Dive back in

Oh no that's a shame @Shayelle2009 but your are worth more than that and he isn't worthy of you.❤Xxx

What made him come across as patronising? No worries if you’d rather not share. Definitely a shame to hear it was a waste of time... but move on and you got the weekend to enjoy!

Also laughing at ‘a good rogering’... classic 😄.

Ah he just thought himself highly superior to other people, that’ll teach me for being spontaneous and not sussing someone out better by messaging for a while beforehand!! But oh well it was an experience!

Thanks @Isitreallyme77.. you still chatting with cricket? Hope it’s still flowing nicely 💗