Bf does not like giving oral

thedukeofed · 2021-05-12T13:15:00+00:00

We're a few months in and all is wonderful. He told me from the first intimate occasion that he didn't Like giving oral but he felt that he had too. He said that it's so warm , clammy down there and in the past didn't like the smell. I'm not pushed on oral sex. It's never given me any pleasurable moments so I'm not upset that Im missing out. I could take or leave it . He is a generous lover,always and we enjoy a spicy and varied sex life . Is my Bar too low or would you be offended? I explained that I would never want any intimate partner to feel that they' had' to do something that clearly disliked .

Gymsmile21 · 12/05/2021 14:23

I wouldn’t be offended but wouldn’t stay with someone who didn’t give oral, as to me and my body that’s how I orgasm the best orgasms. Penetration orgasms are ok but not compared to oral so I would find someone else who is happy to do it.

If it makes no difference to you then there is no problem.

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/05/2021 14:26

He doesn’t like it so it’s best he doesn’t do it. Up to you if it’s a deal breaker, we’re all into different things.

PurpleDaisies · 12/05/2021 14:27

If you’re not bothered, why would it be an issue? I don’t get why you’re overthinking this.

PurpleDaisies · 12/05/2021 14:27

If you’re not bothered, why would it be an issue? I don’t get why you’re overthinking this.

MonkeyPuddle · 12/05/2021 14:31

If you’re not bothered and he’s not keen then I don’t see the issue.
My DP doesn’t enjoy giving oral and I’m not that fussed. But he has other ways to make me cum 🤷‍♀️

ElspethFlashman · 12/05/2021 14:39

There are people on here for whom it's a deal breaker.

Then there are people who aren't that pushed as long as they orgasm in other ways.

But definitely I think it's a reality that more guys than let on just don't like giving oral, same as quite a few women don't like giving it. And it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the particular partner - it's just the whole thing doesn't appeal regardless of participant.

Gymsmile21 · 12/05/2021 14:51

I wouldn’t be offended but wouldn’t stay with someone who didn’t give oral, as to me and my body that’s how I orgasm the best orgasms. Penetration orgasms are ok but not compared to oral so I would find someone else who is happy to do it.

If it makes no difference to you then there is no problem.

Meruem · 12/05/2021 14:58

I’m not keen on oral full stop. However my issue would be if he was unwilling to give but expected to receive! If your not willing to do something yourself you can’t really expect someone else to. Although if you’re one of the woman that likes doing it I guess it’s up to you!

osbertthesyrianhamster · 12/05/2021 15:04

It's up to you what's a dealbreaker. I had one BF who only wanted oral as part of 69. I hate 69 so broke it off.

Umberellatheweatha · 12/05/2021 15:12

Wouldn't bother me. As long as he puts in the effort in other ways. And as long as you in turn are not doing anything you dont want to do just to make him happy.

ComtesseDeSpair · 12/05/2021 15:16

In sex, the only bar too low is where one person feels they have to do something they dislike doing because of pressure from their partner. Beyond that, it’s all just preference. Agree with others, it really does seem you’re overthinking this if it’s not something you’re particularly fussed about in the first place.

ComtesseDeSpair · 12/05/2021 15:17

In sex, the only bar too low is where one person feels they have to do something they dislike doing because of pressure from their partner. Beyond that, it’s all just preference. Agree with others, it really does seem you’re overthinking this if it’s not something you’re particularly fussed about in the first place.

Gymsmile21 · 12/05/2021 15:20

I wouldn’t be offended but wouldn’t stay with someone who didn’t give oral, as to me and my body that’s how I orgasm the best orgasms. Penetration orgasms are ok but not compared to oral so I would find someone else who is happy to do it.

If it makes no difference to you then there is no problem.

MonkeyPuddle · 12/05/2021 15:23

If you’re not bothered and he’s not keen then I don’t see the issue.
My DP doesn’t enjoy giving oral and I’m not that fussed. But he has other ways to make me cum 🤷‍♀️

Umberellatheweatha · 12/05/2021 15:23

Wouldn't bother me. As long as he puts in the effort in other ways. And as long as you in turn are not doing anything you dont want to do just to keep him happy.

Opentooffers · 12/05/2021 15:31

Sounds like you are very compatible. No issue, wouldn't be for me, but I'm not you and would miss it.

hummingbirds49 · 12/05/2021 15:36

Whilst we are on the subject I can not stand giving BJ - I am convinced this has ended many relationships as all guys want one. What is wrong with me? I am so scared I am doing it wrong and the whole thing repulses me as does oral on me

hummingbirds49 · 12/05/2021 15:39

Whilst we are on the subject I can not stand giving BJ - I am convinced this has ended many relationships as all guys want one. What is wrong with me? I am so scared I am doing it wrong and the whole thing repulses me as does oral on me

gamerchick · 12/05/2021 15:40

As long as you're happy, he doesn't expect to receive and he can get you off other ways. It doesn't matter OP.

Opentooffers · 12/05/2021 15:41

If it's not your thing, then it could work out fine, sounds a good match actually.
Wouldn't work for me as I get a lot out of it and certainly would not give if I didn't receive. But if you are fine with it and he floats your boat in other ways, there's no issue really.

AramintaLee · 12/05/2021 15:48

I wouldn't be offended but I certainly wouldn't appreciate if he had expectations of receiving oral in that case. Why don't you suggest a shower together followed by a 69 session and see how he feels about that if smell is his concern?

ComtesseDeSpair · 12/05/2021 15:48

In sex, the only bar too low is where one person feels they have to do something they dislike doing because of pressure from their partner. Beyond that, it’s all just preference. Agree with others, it really does seem you’re overthinking this if it’s not something you’re particularly fussed about in the first place.

Gymsmile21 · 12/05/2021 15:50

I wouldn’t be offended but wouldn’t stay with someone who didn’t give oral, as to me and my body that’s how I orgasm the best orgasms. Penetration orgasms are ok but not compared to oral so I would find someone else who is happy to do it.

If it makes no difference to you then there is no problem.

AramintaLee · 12/05/2021 15:50

I wouldn't be offended but I certainly wouldn't appreciate if he had expectations of receiving oral in that case. Why don't you suggest a shower together followed by a 69 session and see how he feels about that if smell is his concern?

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/05/2021 15:54

If you're not bothered, it's a match made in heaven.

I do think you need to keep an eye on whether he has expectations for what you do and none for himself.