OP, before I went on maternity leave we each had our own accounts and a separate one for household bills. He paid all the mortgage as was by far the main earner, and we deliberately kept our mortgage at an amount that he could afford to pay on his own (for when we had kids. I know this is a luxury most don't have now due to stupid house prices) and we split the rest 50-50 and each paid it into the joint bills account, so direct debits for bills and food coming out of that account. Whenever we went for nights out he generally paid. I paid for all my own personal expenses and we would split holiday costs with him paying slightly more. We both paid into savings.
When I was pregnant we sat down and had a big discussion about finances. At first he thought it was a good idea to take over all the bills and then just pay me an extra amount into my own account each month to cover personal expenses. But I pointed out that a) it would make me feel weird being paid an "allowance" and b) I would be doing all the food shopping from now on (we previously did it together), and paying out for baby groups, baby clothes etc and I wouldn't know how much I would need until I was in that position. He immediately said "Well, it's simple - I put you as a joint account holder on my personal account, and you can have access to what you need for the children's expenses, and supermarket shopping etc. You can use the child benefit paid into your personal account as your own disposable income, just for you, eg hair cuts etc and when you need a bigger purchase eg new coat, shoes etc, just pay out the joint account."
That there is a proper trusting partnership. He trusted me not to be frivolous and off buying designer handbags on the joint account and I trusted him to ensure I had access to what I needed when I needed it. He basically paid for everything, bar my own personal expenses, which gave me a bit of "dignity" eg I could buy my own family presents, and pay for my own nights out with friends etc. If ever I was a bit skint but wanted to go on a night out he just bunged me cash towards it no questions asked.
As I slowly increased my working hours over the years, he still pays for all the bills (including food), I chipped in nearly half to the mortgage and we split savings 50-50. My salary paid for my own expenses, and all the kids' stuff like shoes, school dinners, clubs etc, and I paid for our holidays too.
It's worked really well for us. Due to gaining an inheritance, I was able to pay off our mortgage early, and will also enable DH to retire earlier than he otherwise would have. So it works both ways.
He was generous with me, I have been generous with him. It's about trust. And doing right by the other person. OP, it doesn't sound like you have that at the moment, but have you actually TOLD him how you feel, and what you need?