DH not happy that I change clothes in the evening

[DataColour]

Not brave enough to put this in AIBU.

I'm sick of DH telling me off for changing into "lounge wear" typically a hoodie and trackie bottoms in the evening. He says I look nice during the day when I am at work ( casual dress code) but in the evening as the kids are going to bed 8-9pm I change out of day clothes. Isn't this normal? He wants me to stay "dressed" till I go to bed (which is what he does). I want to tell him to f off.
He's just stormed out of the house because I'd dare to put a pair of joggers and a hoodie on. I've had enough of his 1950s attitude. It really upsets me.

Get in a huff when he changes after work, say you'd rather him stay in his day clothes.

Jeans/trousers and top ok by him - he detests jogging bottoms etc.

He doesn’t get to choose what you wear. He is being ridiculous.

So it's all right for him to change out of his work clothes when he gets in, but he doesn't want you to do the same. What a steaming hypocrite.

@DataColour

Jeans/trousers and top ok by him - he detests jogging bottoms etc.

Tough shit for him... really doesn't sound like a nice person at all

He complains about you having a second shower too......!?

Anything else?

Does he throw a hissy fit or try to control your behaviour in other ways, OP?

He sounds awful.

I wear my huge dressing gown and pjs from about 6ish every night!

I tell him to f off everyday. But I hate the tension it creates and I feel pressured to succumb to his wishes to keep him happy. Fortunately Id rather be comfy so despite what he says I wear what I want.

How long have you been with him?

Do you live in Downton Abbey or something?

Is there a reason why you can’t tell him to fuck off? Are you scared of his reaction?

Tell him to fuck right off. What a twat.

I wear nothing but...

Couldn't be doing with that.

If I'm working from home I'm in joggers all day!!! If I'm in the office, I get changed as soon as I'm home into comfy joggers. Then pjs by 7.30pm!

Who on earth sits of an evening in their 'day clothes? I can't sit in jeans at home for any length of time!!

I feel pressured to succumb to his wishes to keep him happy.

Can you elaborate?

Gosh my DH doesn’t even notice what Im wearing, unless it’s a particularly low cut top which he always seems enthusiastic about..)
I’m a sahm and live in joggers and vests! Your husband is super weird. Like really odd. I’d be totally freaked out by him!

The only other person who said their husband controlled their clothes said she was abused badly in other ways too.

I always change after work into something comfy. He is being controlling and unpleasant, I would not put up with it at all!!!

We shower at around 6pm here and are in pjs before we have dinner. Evenings are to relax. All my friends do this too, shower and put pjs on if they're not going out.

Your DH has a strange idea about this. Does not sit right with me. Wear what you want in your own home.

@Betalife

Tell him to F off.

Or provide for you so you can be a housewife. Can’t have it both ways.

Don't do this. Sounds like you very much need to keep your own career .

He'd be staying gone. I'd have told him to go and fuck himself the first time he said that to me. Yes, I would have. Fuck that.

Even if he's coming down to dinner in a tuxedo, he needs to realise that his sulky face and foul attitude is making him the most unattractive person in the room.

He stormed out? Sorry but what a baby.

@DataColour

I've stopped having a second shower in the evening now as he always complains ( I guess it's not good for the environment or my skin) that I'm being ridiculous and it's always a precursor to getting into my lounge wear.

Second shower?? What do you do that's so dirty you need to shower twice a day??

Together for 21 years. It's the only relationship he's had, but he claims that no other women change out of day clothes before bedtime.

@DataColour

I tell him to f off everyday. But I hate the tension it creates and I feel pressured to succumb to his wishes to keep him happy. Fortunately Id rather be comfy so despite what he says I wear what I want.

If you're telling him to fuck off everyday, why not just bloody leave.

I get home from work and change into pyjamas!

My dh used to work really long hours and not get home before 7pm. One evening I was still in my work clothes and he said I looked nice. He never remarks on my clothes. I was only in my work clothes so couldn't work out at first why he was saying I looked nice. Then realised he hadn't seen me even in clothes on a week night in ages