Polly and her Dollies continue to improve in every way

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Can’t believe it, but here we are on Thread 5!

Thread 4 here

Just back from a 4.5 mile run - bit cold this morning! I’ve sea monkeys growing in the kitchen, soaps hardening in the bathroom, and the carpets are full of glitter. They had a great weekend!

The thumb also seems to be improving. Phew.

All on today to prep for tomorrow’s meeting with Geller. He really does seem broken. But I will not waiver.

Hope everyone had a good weekend and all health ailments are on the mend. Time to slap on some moisturiser - caught the sun this weekend - but look much better for it!

Cliffs, that just made me snort!

And because it never rains but it pours... Oh look. Woken up to a message from FWB, who has been silent for days and rejected my opener of dates...

Hey you, are you still free tonight? Heading down to your part of the world x

Ahahahahaha. Nope. Who the fuck does he think he is? Have some respect for me. I may need to claim the second patch on the patio - great idea!

Love to hear the dating success stories! That sounds so great - and yes, I have a base layer picked out 😂

Taking the girls to vote with me in the way to school- always have, think it’s important they see and understand- we’ve had a debate about the different parties over the breakfast table.

Must get my hair dry.

Good luck tonight Polly🙂

Just one word on the condoms (not for tonight) - have you brought the right size?
When I had my sexual revolution I brought normal and large, latex and non-latex.
When all bases are covered there is never an excuse for a man not to wear one.

And your non-FWB can do one. Fancy ignoring messages and then asking for a booty call the day he's in town. Someone needs to understand that a woman wants to feel wanted and that includes good conversation all the time, not just when it suits🤬

Good for you telling him to jog on. Having a FWB is an awesome thing (I had an on off one for six years before I met DH following a sexless miserable long term relationship and the confidence boost, spring in my step and just fun it gave me was brilliant) but he clearly needs to know your worth... and even more importantly know YOU know your worth. Terms of engagement can vary but bottom line is you’re no-ones last minute hook up!

I was going to vote on the way back from the school run but am stealing your idea as we walk past the polling station. DD has been talking about elections all week so is likely to be excited!

You keep going Polly, keep on going. Have you gone back to your original thread? You may want to try it, see how far you've come, since then. As a PP said upthread, you are emerging. You are almost free of the biggest encumbrance, and you are becoming the person you should always have been. I have nothing but the utmost respect for you, especially in the way that you've handled this. I applaud you, and so will your Dollies, I promise. Big respect. And xx even though it's very unMN! I don't care. If I can't manage a Big Grin, there's no way I can do a Big Gin!

OH!! But hey! Doesn't this mean that you have TWO offers for tonight?????? The guy taking you to the pub, and FWB?
Yo! You go girl!

OH! AND! I had my 2nd Prick Day last week. Only because I'm very old and decrepit. I think it's because we are not so heavily populated out here in The Fens. At least, I hope it's for that reason! LOL! I wish I could do the emoji things, but it just comes up with a link. It's rubbish, having to revert to test speak.
Hey ho. C'est la vie and all that malarkey.
AND!!

LOL! Just had a BRILLIANT idea!!
My friend's patio thing. How about, if we stood them up? I know it involves a deeper hole thing, i.e. at least least 6', (bending of knees may be involved) but we could fit more in, don't you think? Instead of only 8, laying down, (they would have been a bit squished together) (not my primary concern) if they were stood, a little bit bent at the knees, we could possibly (still a bit squished) fit in about 24. I think. Maths is not a strong point I admit. Worth a go? LOL! If any Constabulary are reading this, it's a JOKE!!! Obviously, M'Lud!

I thought you were talking about a bad date @BobISMyUncle! Context really IS everything! @StuckInPollyannaMode you will be magic. Everything you touch is sprinkled with fairy dust. We’re like mother hens right now. Do you have any hand warmer thingies?

Maths is not my thing, because I lost 5 chickens, once. They were frozen chickens, so I knew they weren't running. I lost them on paper. I could not get my invoices to add up. Until I took my invoices home, to have a closer look, over the weekend. I was counting aloud, to myself, and The Bloke was sat, reading. When I counted to myself, 6 x 5 = 35, he stuck his head up and said, no it's not, it's 6 x5 = 30.
I had suddenly found my 5 bloody chickens! I know I'm an idiot where maths is concerned.

Sorry x verbal diarrhoea! And EEK! what is that word, that spells out something?
Necessary = 1 collar, 2 socks
Diarrhoea = Doesn't it always run horribly over each ankle
What is that called please?
I know the Oxymoron thing = Pretty Ugly
I even know a past participle.- I have cooked (I think)
Sorry x didn't mean to hijack x

Shutting up x

BobISMyUncleyou mean mnemonic? eg "Every Good Boy Deserves Favour" for the lines of the treble stave?

Justilou! You make me smile, I have been on this thread from the beginning, and your advice has been excellent. Sadly, I tried to add an emoji and it failed miserably. Or, happily. It didn't work when I tried. I'm not here for that. I wanted to add my support for Polly and her Dollies. I can't actually do anything, sadly, except perhaps, add a little smile and amusement.

• Doesn't It Always Run Really Horribly Over Each Ankle

twosheds!! Thank you!! That's the very thing! Thank you!! Gosh, thank you. I knew that I knew it, thank you. I'm really shutting up now xx

Oh @BobISMyUncle you have made me laugh!

Decided to keep FWB on the back burner...you never know...he’s just invited me out for dinner next Thursday! Racking them up 😂 not going to reply til tomorrow, see how tonight goes.

My hair has decided to play ball, hurrah. I’ve got some new Moroccan oil curl stuff and it’s brilliant.

In another plus, on the scales this morning I’ve now lost 1.5 stone 😄 still another half to shift but feeling so much better for it.

Good idea whoever said to go back and look at my old threads by the way - might do that this weekend.

Felt a little sad last night. The girls were saying they felt like they hadn’t seen much of me and I reassured them and that this is the new normal...DD2 said but this is never going to be normal again cos you and Daddy aren’t getting back together.

And then turned into a raging teenager for an hour.

It WILL be a normal, for them, as well as you. I promise. It WILL happen. It's a new normal, for all of you. Your Dollies will not understand yet, that they need one of you (that would be you) to be a constant. I'm sorry to say, as they approach their teenage years, it actually becomes more difficult, just as you think they have finally reached some kind of understanding, I was the victim of such abuse, from my 3. Not physical, they wouldn't have dared that, for all my small stature. I will openly admit, that at 4' 11" and 7 stone wringing wet, I was scared of my 2 sons, who towered above me. I was the one who stayed.

Honestly, from my experience, I don't have anything to offer, you are so unique, in different ways, to all of us. Thankfully, times have changed, a little. I don't have answers, I am only a small person (literally) and I used to have a lovely man as a husband, I thought. Until I found out, because of him, that he was having an affair. That was the first and ONLY time he punched me.

Good luck @StuckInPollyannaMode cheering you on from behind a bush . Like other posters have said, as long as your friends know where you are and you check in with them to let them know that you are safe all should be well .
your outfit sounds good , are you adding a wrap just incase it gets cold then at least you can put it in your knees if you're cold .
Have a lovely time and if all other chat fails you can mention "line of duty " that should give you something to talk about 🤞

Oh @BobISMyUncle, you have made me giggle and then want to cry. I can't imagine being scared of my kids, and I've got almost two inches on you. (I'd feel like a giant hanging out with you!). You tolerated so much, and I wonder if you had found out earlier and left earlier, if your kids would have behaved more respectfully, perhaps..... I'm shocked. I really am. You sound so utterly lovely. I would have given anything for a lovely mum. (I am lovely to my kids - most of the time, I promise!). I think you need to be much, much kinder to yourself. As kind as you are to @StuckInPollyannaMode, even!

Good luck tonight @StuckInPollyannaMode!!

I’m home! Bloody frozen

@BobISMyUncle you sound lovely and I’m so sorry you had to go through that.

Had a good evening but I’m not sure there’s a spark. I’m willing to give it a coffee or something to double check.

He is really nice, interesting, intelligent, a qualified yoga teacher (hmmm, must be bendy!) bit alternative, spiritual etc...lots to talk about. Perhaps a bit too alternative and intense for me, I can’t see him buying into the fuck buddy / FWB thing. I’m just not sure I want any more - and THAT, my friends, is progress!

Plus, it was like all of a sudden I said something or did something and he wanted to leave - felt very rushed. But he did compliment me on my perfume and give me a kiss on the cheek. We’ve had a couple of texts since - I messaged first to say thank you for dinner.

I'm glad it went ok, shame about the lack of spark and that you nearly froze to death.

Its great you recognise that all you want right now is FWB/FB, when you've left a horrendous marriage it's good to take time to be you.
No need to rush into anything.