Dating Thread 203- Love is in the air!

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@pineappleonpizzaornot

So many success stories on this thread!! So happy for you!

I am losing the will to live....hardly any matches - Zero conversations going on.

Fate, please will you step in now...I have had enough!

I don't envy you - I've been there! It's almost the apathy that bites more than anything else

Hope all goes well @VanGoghsDog

@onwardseverstridingonwards happy birthday 🎂💐

[quote Dancerinthemoonlight]@onwardseverstridingonwards happy birthday 🎂💐[/quote]
Thank you @Dancerinthemoonlight ❤️😘😀

@BelladiMamma - I feel like banging my head on a brick wall!

I'm sure something will come up soon enough, but oh my god I'm bored!!

Thanks for the welcome back! Forgot how quick this thread moves. Well I set up on Tinder and the. Saw my ex so deleted, rejoined hinge and he’s on there too!!

I have recently ended a 2.5 yr FWB arrangement which was great but a massive head fuck.

Had a month off and decided to get back on it. Had 2 dates since and they both ghosted me after 🤦‍♀️

I’m feeling good though. I know what I want now

Happy birthday Onwards. How exciting to have clicked so well with your iron.

I did meet up for another walk with Mr village,our third meet,but he had grown this very long beard and moustache which did nothing for me at all. Really gave me the ick infact,also with the fact he still wipes down grocery bags but wont have his jab he is now relegated to friendzone.
Strangely since our last meeting he has really got very keen and has txt the last few nights wanting to meet for a walk. I'm going to have to tell him straight.why is always the ones we dont want who want us!

@Marlboroandmalbec34

Thanks for the welcome back! Forgot how quick this thread moves. Well I set up on Tinder and the. Saw my ex so deleted, rejoined hinge and he’s on there too!!

I have recently ended a 2.5 yr FWB arrangement which was great but a massive head fuck.

Had a month off and decided to get back on it. Had 2 dates since and they both ghosted me after 🤦‍♀️

I’m feeling good though. I know what I want now

If you're friends with your ex on Facebook you could join Facebook dating and opt to not include friends? Perhaps works for blocked members too but not sure about that sorry

@kerkyra

Happy birthday Onwards. How exciting to have clicked so well with your iron.

I did meet up for another walk with Mr village,our third meet,but he had grown this very long beard and moustache which did nothing for me at all. Really gave me the ick infact,also with the fact he still wipes down grocery bags but wont have his jab he is now relegated to friendzone.
Strangely since our last meeting he has really got very keen and has txt the last few nights wanting to meet for a walk. I'm going to have to tell him straight.why is always the ones we dont want who want us!

Thank you @kerkyra ❤️😘😀

@Marlboroandmalbec34 i remember you too! Was this the same ex who you partied quite hard with?

Haha eesha that was the FWB. The ex I keep seeing is ex husband. Good memory 🙌

Thanks frankie we are not friends on fb but I tried fb dating and it was a horror show for me.

Ooh kerkyra that would be a no from me too!

Happy birthday onward

Thanks for the new thread too, and zero news/irons/dares here as I’m off all apps. Maybe May will be time to get back on it. Anyone else thinking of re joining the fabulous would of OLD for May?

Well I’m checking in as I’ve just got back from my date with Mr Haircut. Went to a pub - woohoo - bit nippy outside but I had layers.
I was all dressed up, make up on, contacts in - pulled out all the stops - but I just was not attracted to him . Nice guy, conversation a bit dull, but not physically my type - his photos made him look better.
Felt a bit awkward on the goodbye- I just quickly said thanks for the evening - quick peck on the cheek and drove off listening to (and belting along to) ‘Don’t Rain on my Parade’ by Barbara Streisand! I’m disappointed- aargh - back on the apps.
I’m hoping he doesn’t message to suggest second date.
@pineappleonpizzaornot - I’ll join you back at square one .....

@Marlboroandmalbec34

Haha eesha that was the FWB. The ex I keep seeing is ex husband. Good memory 🙌

Thanks frankie we are not friends on fb but I tried fb dating and it was a horror show for me.

Ooh kerkyra that would be a no from me too!

Happy birthday onward

Thank you @Marlboroandmalbec34 😀❤️😘

@GaraMedouar

Well I’m checking in as I’ve just got back from my date with Mr Haircut. Went to a pub - woohoo - bit nippy outside but I had layers. I was all dressed up, make up on, contacts in - pulled out all the stops - but I just was not attracted to him . Nice guy, conversation a bit dull, but not physically my type - his photos made him look better. Felt a bit awkward on the goodbye- I just quickly said thanks for the evening - quick peck on the cheek and drove off listening to (and belting along to) ‘Don’t Rain on my Parade’ by Barbara Streisand! I’m disappointed- aargh - back on the apps. I’m hoping he doesn’t message to suggest second date. *@pineappleonpizzaornot* - I’ll join you back at square one .....

Sorry to hear that, @Gara. Onwards and upwards, you'll find someone soon

@VanGoghsDog Hope today has gone as well as it could do and that everything goes well at the hospital tomorrow 🤗

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - thanks - Two dates down and five hundred to go ....... - oh goodness I’m swiping but no-one. I don’t think I ever will meet anyone (she says negatively ).
Plus Mr Haircut has sent a ‘hope you got home safe had a lovely evening’ msg , and replied again.
I’m going to have to say something but don’t know what. I have a feeling he quite liked me.
I don’t want to do a slow to fade as Mr S did to me - nicer to just come out with it. Maybe tomorrow- if he’s still texting.

Of course he would text that @GaraMedouar. Put the poor sod out of his misery and let him get back to it too:

“thank you for a pleasant evening, but I’m sorry I don’t feel that things can go in a romantic direction. I hope you can go on to meet someone that does want that with you. Take care and good luck”

[quote GaraMedouar]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - thanks - Two dates down and five hundred to go ....... - oh goodness I’m swiping but no-one. I don’t think I ever will meet anyone (she says negatively ).
Plus Mr Haircut has sent a ‘hope you got home safe had a lovely evening’ msg , and replied again.
I’m going to have to say something but don’t know what. I have a feeling he quite liked me.
I don’t want to do a slow to fade as Mr S did to me - nicer to just come out with it. Maybe tomorrow- if he’s still texting.[/quote]
@GaraMedouar It's awkward, isn't it? I'd do what @HairyArsedMan suggests and just write him a pleasant message thanking him for a nice evening, and tell him that you don't feel the same.

I had to do this before with Mr Geek so I know how hard it can be. Its better it's done now than further down the line if there's a chance of the other person getting over invested.

And, @Gara you will meet someone. This man just wasn't the person for you. You just need to find the right person that you can click with. ❤️

Thank you @HairyArsedMan - that’s a lovely message - I do need to do that - it feels harder this way round than the other way round

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - I did click with Mr S hugely (well I thought ) but not on his side. But then I do realise you need both parties to feel the same - bugger !
Maybe it’ll be third time lucky

[quote GaraMedouar]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - I did click with Mr S hugely (well I thought ) but not on his side. But then I do realise you need both parties to feel the same - bugger !
Maybe it’ll be third time lucky[/quote]
@GaraMedouar 🤞🏻

@GaraMedouar - definitely let him down gently. I ask for a second date 90% of the time and totally fine if get a no. Much preferable to not knowing. Re MsS, I find the fact that connections can be quite 1 sided quite perplexing.

Tinder - the gift that keeps giving ..

Logical that he thinks it’s a hoax since he hasn’t worked out it’s you’re and whose.

And with this I’m going to pause the apps for a while, maybe the algorithm will take mercy on me if I’m off for a week or two..