Dating Thread 203- Love is in the air!

[Heartbeats0708]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

[OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]

@Myfabby

Tinder - the gift that keeps giving ..

Logical that he thinks it’s a hoax since he hasn’t worked out it’s you’re and whose.

And with this I’m going to pause the apps for a while, maybe the algorithm will take mercy on me if I’m off for a week or two..

[PyjamasOClock]

@GaraMedouar yes I think it's deep breath and send a nice thank you but no thank you message, wouldn't we all rather know?

I had a video call/date with Mr NoPlans last night - unlike probably 98% of the adult population he's used video calling technology only once before during the pandemic. Spent most of the call only able to see his forehead and he was really nervous and chattered away with it. He's also in healthcare and we talked a lot about that. But going to take advice from upthread and meet him and just see.

My other 'iron' Mr ItchyFeet still messages first most mornings and last most evenings and it feels rare to not be the one doing most of the 'work' in being in contact. It'll be good to meet him on Saturday.

[frankiefirstyear]

Got a bit of a rookie conundrum if anyone wants to put their views in to help a girl out.

Been chatting online with a guy - will now name him Mr Kids, for a week or so, have mentioned him on here briefly, he seems nice, isn't my usual type but all fine. He's indicated moving to next level of meet/calls so thought I'd check in with what he's looking for and got a casual gf/FWB with exclusivity and honesty as an answer.

Normally I'd be ok with that as a starting point, however...

MrM has been back in touch over last few days as though nothing has changed between us, had a couple of hilarious calls and he asked to come over one night which he did, led to awesome sex and hilarity thats memory has me literally bursting out with laughter daily. I've put my guard up with him to some extent so I'm able to enjoy our time and no longer fantasising about blended families etc. All good. MrM has also indicated he wants exclusivity but understands he's messed me about and is flakey.

MrKids knows about MrM being a a fling but doesn't know he's been back in touch.

MrM knows nothing of me chatting to other men, nor does he know I'm on the apps (I use a fake name and no photo).

WWYD?

[VanGoghsDog]

Meet MrKids, see how it goes, take it from there.

No reason not to at least meet him.

[cravingthelook]

So I'm on my child free time and I'm literally meeting all my chats to determine if yes or no.

First one Monday - chef, seemed nice enough - would have had a second date, but as soon as he realised that he wasn't getting round here he suddenly got very busy the next few weeks.

Last nights, seemed so lovely on message, great chat, kiss was wow! Then I got the gut feeling and after prompting this morning he said it's not the dynamic he's looking for, I kindly said don't snog someone you aren't interested in you knob.

I have got 4 more date zeros this week... I'll name anyone who gets to a proper date.

[Eesha]

@frankiefirstyear what happened with Mr M to annoy you?

[BelladiMamma]

@cravingthelook

So I'm on my child free time and I'm literally meeting all my chats to determine if yes or no.

First one Monday - chef, seemed nice enough - would have had a second date, but as soon as he realised that he wasn't getting round here he suddenly got very busy the next few weeks.

Last nights, seemed so lovely on message, great chat, kiss was wow! Then I got the gut feeling and after prompting this morning he said it's not the dynamic he's looking for, I kindly said don't snog someone you aren't interested in you knob.

I have got 4 more date zeros this week... I'll name anyone who gets to a proper date.

Nice work craving - get through the list and if they're all a no hit the refresh button. And agreed what a knob to snog if no interest. I mean really we are not teenagers 😳

[GaraMedouar]

Well I’ve had no messages at all this morning from Mr Haircut , not the norm for him, he had been sending morning messages every day - so I’d imagine the feeling is mutual then, which actually makes me breathe a sigh of relief …..

[frankiefirstyear]

[quote Eesha]@frankiefirstyear what happened with Mr M to annoy you?[/quote]
He had a wobble when one of his kids heard us on the phone and freaked out, which was ok (everyone has a wobble and to involve kids is even worse to deal with) but it was the fact he totally shut me out, I didn't hear from him for days other than a vague 'I'm alive don't worry' text and brief reason for shutting it down. Communication is paramount to me, as he knew, so was extremely hurtful and caused sleepless nights not having a clue what had happened.
Since then I think we've both had time to step back and reassess what we want, and what we can manage within our family limitations so have probably come back or are on our way to coming back stronger.
In the meantime though I went on the apps thinking it was over with MrM. Who has crept back in gradually.

[OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]

@cravingthelook

So I'm on my child free time and I'm literally meeting all my chats to determine if yes or no.

First one Monday - chef, seemed nice enough - would have had a second date, but as soon as he realised that he wasn't getting round here he suddenly got very busy the next few weeks.

Last nights, seemed so lovely on message, great chat, kiss was wow! Then I got the gut feeling and after prompting this morning he said it's not the dynamic he's looking for, I kindly said don't snog someone you aren't interested in you knob.

I have got 4 more date zeros this week... I'll name anyone who gets to a proper date.

That's awful behaviour, @craving. I really hate people who think it's okay to do that. Total mixed messages

Wishing you the best of luck in your other dates though. I've got my 🤞🏻 for you

[SpringlikeBunk]

@Myfabby he can join my WhatsApp “covid nutter match” group

also the “why do you match and not talk” group



Met up with MrSaw last night and definitely still a spark there was a great night! I didn’t stay over but lots of pashing and chilling out in his lovely apartment.

MrPM said to meet tomorrow evening so I’ve suggesting booking somewhere. I have stubble rash from all the pashing so putting green concealer on it.

Having an evening solo with a film so not too much of a sausage-fest, saw a great exhibition today.

[cravingthelook]

Good update @SpringlikeBunk

I met the next zero at lunchtime for a quick walk. Nice normal guy, more attractive in real life, seems sweet. We going to meet again - I'll call him Mr PM

I'm meeting an electrician this evening.

[bangheadhere40]

How are you finding so many men you like craving to go on dates with ? ?

[BelladiMamma]

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@Myfabby he can join my WhatsApp “covid nutter match” group

also the “why do you match and not talk” group



Met up with MrSaw last night and definitely still a spark there was a great night! I didn’t stay over but lots of pashing and chilling out in his lovely apartment.

MrPM said to meet tomorrow evening so I’ve suggesting booking somewhere. I have stubble rash from all the pashing so putting green concealer on it.

Having an evening solo with a film so not too much of a sausage-fest, saw a great exhibition today.[/quote]
Good update! Love a bit of stubble rash 🤗

[SpringlikeBunk]

@frankiefirstyear

I’d say keep both in touch discreetly - put yourself first?

Until they’ve actually delivered the goods in terms of moving towards the kind of relationship you want it’s all a bit speculative really.

[OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@Myfabby he can join my WhatsApp “covid nutter match” group

also the “why do you match and not talk” group



Met up with MrSaw last night and definitely still a spark there was a great night! I didn’t stay over but lots of pashing and chilling out in his lovely apartment.

MrPM said to meet tomorrow evening so I’ve suggesting booking somewhere. I have stubble rash from all the pashing so putting green concealer on it.

Having an evening solo with a film so not too much of a sausage-fest, saw a great exhibition today.[/quote]
That's great to hear, @Spring! I'm so happy for you ❤️😘

[SpringlikeBunk]

Lol thanks @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

But one or a couple good dates is just that really - nothings serious till it’s serious

Hope you had a nice birthday 🍰

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

I have loads of chats on the go but no dates.
A strong potential last night kept going on about the size of him and looking for someone who could handle it so I sent his an eye roll emoji and then unmatched. Don't want to hear about the size of his dick, he probabaly wanted to send pics aswell as asked if I have Snapchat.

Oh well onto the next. It's my Birthday on Sunday so might get some zombies popping up. Me Paddleboard is texting me off and on. Still undecided on him as he hasn't been so negging since.
It's looking more positive on the job front as contacted by 2 recruiters in 2 days for positions that excite me and are within a 30 minute drive from me.

[OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]

@SpringlikeBunk

Lol thanks *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards*

But one or a couple good dates is just that really - nothings serious till it’s serious

Hope you had a nice birthday 🍰

It's all positive ❤️

Yes, I had a wonderful birthday. Thank you

[OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]

@Dancerinthemoonlight

I have loads of chats on the go but no dates.
A strong potential last night kept going on about the size of him and looking for someone who could handle it so I sent his an eye roll emoji and then unmatched. Don't want to hear about the size of his dick, he probabaly wanted to send pics aswell as asked if I have Snapchat.

Oh well onto the next. It's my Birthday on Sunday so might get some zombies popping up. Me Paddleboard is texting me off and on. Still undecided on him as he hasn't been so negging since.
It's looking more positive on the job front as contacted by 2 recruiters in 2 days for positions that excite me and are within a 30 minute drive from me.

Ugh, he sounds like a charmer, @Dancer 🤮

Happy birthday for Sunday 🎂 well done on the job news as well. Sending you the best of luck 🤞🏻😘

[frankiefirstyear]

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@Myfabby he can join my WhatsApp “covid nutter match” group

also the “why do you match and not talk” group



Met up with MrSaw last night and definitely still a spark there was a great night! I didn’t stay over but lots of pashing and chilling out in his lovely apartment.

MrPM said to meet tomorrow evening so I’ve suggesting booking somewhere. I have stubble rash from all the pashing so putting green concealer on it.

Having an evening solo with a film so not too much of a sausage-fest, saw a great exhibition today.[/quote]
Tea tree oil is god for stubble rash 👍

[SpringlikeBunk]

Booked MrSaw in for Friday night.

MrPM has not replied to my message asking any preferences for booking and it's a fucking nightmare so I've just gone for an Italian restaurant - it's a bit too much tbh I'd prefer to go for drinks but everywhere is booked for next MONTH!

[Shayelle2009]

Wow lots of activity for lots of us on the dating front...
I’ve taken the plunge and opened a tinder profile, given everyone seems to having some luck with irons!
@cravingthelook I need to take a leaf out of your book! FOUR date zeros planned!!! Good going 😁😁

[SpringlikeBunk]

Thanks @frankiefirstyear x

[Eesha]

@frankiefirstyear I'd definitely give the new guy a chance and tentatively see both. You see time and time again here on this thread how the ex comes back, the poster dumps the new bloke, then the ex disappoints again. It sounds a bit like your Mr M is aware you are moving on and wants to keep hold. I would observe and see whether he makes any improvements.