I’ve been reading but haven’t felt like posting as I’m still all over the place!
There is such a spectrum from the loved ups to the sea of twat swimmers - I don’t know where I fit in!
I’m going to dump the contents of my brain on here with the hope that someone wise will help me:)
Mr TG, saw him on 2 May had a lovely evening, drinks chats dtd he went home. I start out feeling great and then the doubts start.
We haven’t messaged much since, some days I just can’t be bothered and others I do initiate chats but they don’t really go anywhere. He sends a few messages at bedtime every night without fail but I feel like it’s become a habit now rather than building connection.
I still haven’t raised the ‘what are we’ conversation but a couple of things he said are playing on my mind. He returned home last year after a career break and says he’s planning another as soon as he can, he doesn’t see his life here in future definitely wants to move countries. So long term prospects aren’t great.
He is a teacher so has 12 weeks off and I was asking what is he going to do when he is off and he had many plans, but no suggestions that we do anything or even interest as to when I might be off - so short term not great either.
Lockdown is ending and I want plans, fun, time away etc. I have drafted a message about all of this and plan to send it to him Friday evening so we can meet up Saturday or Sunday and chat face to face if he wants to.
I’m thinking it’s run it’s course but then I would be giving up without talking to him first so I owe him that much.
To complicate things, I’m still hung up on Mr BE, have been thinking a lot about him and then he messaged today. He seems to have sorted himself out so much since we were together, has proper access with his kids, lovely place, new job. He hasn’t asked to see me, we’ve just had a life catch up, but I know he is building up to it.
I feel disloyal to Mr TG and it could be my interest in Mr BE is heightened because of my dissatisfaction with our situation. if he was any way enthusiastic about me/us I wouldn’t be considering anyone else. It’s a head wreck