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Dating Thread 203- Love is in the air!

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Heartbeats0708 · 26/04/2021 06:40

The Rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. Know your worth.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

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SortingItOut · 27/04/2021 14:29

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards Happy Birthday 🥳🎂

LongtimelurkerL · 27/04/2021 14:31

Happy Birthday @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards!

Glad to hear about Mr Bear @BelladiMamma - I can't remember the backstory here?

DudeFromThatLondon · 27/04/2021 14:40

Checking in to wish @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards a happy birthday 🎂 🥳

BelladiMamma · 27/04/2021 15:28

@LongtimelurkerL

Happy Birthday *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards*!

Glad to hear about Mr Bear @BelladiMamma - I can't remember the backstory here?

Met him on Hinge after my thing with Mr Ginger imploded. I came here originally to ask for MrGinger help - ex colleague, appeared really keen, met on Hinge. I'd been chatting to Mr Bear 🐻 when I'd first matched with Mr Ginger then joined Bumble and got distracted briefly by other matches as Mr Bear seemed as busy as me but after meeting I had a real connection. We got on really well and things have flowed really nicely. There was one amber flag early on when he made a comment about a tv interview I'd done but that hasn't been repeated. In fact he's quite socially at ease but is a total nerd so I think the telly thing was a red herring.

Anyway we are now in the commitment phase and will start doing sleepovers. Which won't be very frequent as we both have our DC 9 out of 10 nights. In fact it's a bit sad / bonding but each of us have DC's who refuse to see their other parent but in my case there's been a recent reunion.

Wish I'd never met MrGinger and had just gone straight to Mr Bear 🐻 but sometimes if it's a slow burn it gives everyone time to figure out where they are.

Anyway don't want to jinx it!!

LongtimelurkerL · 27/04/2021 15:33

Ah yes I remember now @BelladiMamma - fingers crossed it carries on going well - how long has it been now?

BelladiMamma · 27/04/2021 15:42

@LongtimelurkerL

Ah yes I remember now *@BelladiMamma* - fingers crossed it carries on going well - how long has it been now?
One month since date one ... Confused ... it's nothing is it?!!
VanGoghsDog · 27/04/2021 15:55

Happy birthday Onwards!

I'm off work next week, and also have a birthday. Feeling a bit fragile this week - today is first anniversary of my dad's death, tomorrow I have a hospital appointment to commence investigation potentially for the same thing he died of, Thursday is mum's birthday - obviously her birthday last year was two days after dad died, so a bit raw. And work is scratchy this week. Plus I have a headache today!
I've not been sleeping and am really tired.

Anyway, I called out MrDecorator last night asking him how he thinks Tinder works if he never moved on from chat. He said he thought I wasn't interested. I reminded him he'd asked if I wanted to meet again and I'd said yes and that all he had done since then was ask when I'm inviting him to mine. Obviously he said he was "only joking".

Weirdly, he's still not suggested anything. I'm not doing it for him.
He still messages a few times a day.

The other MrNonDynamic continues to be non dynamic and I only keep his chat to have a laugh at how useless he is, not that he has messaged at all. I won't meet him now.

MrNose I think might have arranged to meet after work Friday. I'm off Friday but doing some training for my private client, I'll be done by three. He sends one message a day ish.

MrWG - it's his birthday this week (no idea which day) so I messaged asking how his week is and would he like to meet up for a drink for his birthday. He said he's up north all week so not possible but thanks for offer. Felt a bit dismissive. I just replied "that's a shame".

Nearly two hours later, after midnight, he messaged again saying maybe we could do something at the weekend. So I said sure, and a note of what I'm doing Sunday. He replied this morning saying maybe Sunday after my walk. So we'll see how that pans out.

Also started a new chat last night.

It's so tiring!

BelladiMamma · 27/04/2021 15:57

@VanGoghsDog

Happy birthday Onwards!

I'm off work next week, and also have a birthday. Feeling a bit fragile this week - today is first anniversary of my dad's death, tomorrow I have a hospital appointment to commence investigation potentially for the same thing he died of, Thursday is mum's birthday - obviously her birthday last year was two days after dad died, so a bit raw. And work is scratchy this week. Plus I have a headache today!
I've not been sleeping and am really tired.

Anyway, I called out MrDecorator last night asking him how he thinks Tinder works if he never moved on from chat. He said he thought I wasn't interested. I reminded him he'd asked if I wanted to meet again and I'd said yes and that all he had done since then was ask when I'm inviting him to mine. Obviously he said he was "only joking".

Weirdly, he's still not suggested anything. I'm not doing it for him.
He still messages a few times a day.

The other MrNonDynamic continues to be non dynamic and I only keep his chat to have a laugh at how useless he is, not that he has messaged at all. I won't meet him now.

MrNose I think might have arranged to meet after work Friday. I'm off Friday but doing some training for my private client, I'll be done by three. He sends one message a day ish.

MrWG - it's his birthday this week (no idea which day) so I messaged asking how his week is and would he like to meet up for a drink for his birthday. He said he's up north all week so not possible but thanks for offer. Felt a bit dismissive. I just replied "that's a shame".

Nearly two hours later, after midnight, he messaged again saying maybe we could do something at the weekend. So I said sure, and a note of what I'm doing Sunday. He replied this morning saying maybe Sunday after my walk. So we'll see how that pans out.

Also started a new chat last night.

It's so tiring!

So sorry about your Dad and the upcoming anniversary. I just had the two year one for my brother. Will you be off for it? Thanks
Slothmomma · 27/04/2021 16:01

Sending you a hug vangoghsdog and hope it all goes ok tomorrow at hospital x

Mr non commital replied thanking me for letting him know and wishing me luck with my match ☺

VanGoghsDog · 27/04/2021 16:06

Will you be off for it?

No, it's today. I've pulled out of the walk this evening. I don't need any real prep for the hospital appointment other than drinking a certain amount of water tonight and in the morning and my Covid test which I've done, but it's still a bit too much on my mind.

Thank you.

frankiefirstyear · 27/04/2021 16:13

@VanGoghsDog Thanks

OnwardsEverStridingOnwards · 27/04/2021 16:22

@lovelost21 @SortingItOut @LongtimelurkerL @DudeFromThatLondon @BelladiMamma @VanGoghsDog thank you all so much for the Birthday wishes Smile❤️😘

OnwardsEverStridingOnwards · 27/04/2021 16:24

And @frankiefirstyear thank you so much to you as well. (Sorry, only just seen your post) ❤️😘

OnwardsEverStridingOnwards · 27/04/2021 16:26

@VanGoghsDog sending lots of love to you, and wishing you all the luck in the 🌎 for your hospital appointment ThanksThanksThanks❤️❤️😘😘

pineappleonpizzaornot · 27/04/2021 16:34

So many success stories on this thread!! So happy for you!

I am losing the will to live....hardly any matches - Zero conversations going on.

Fate, please will you step in now...I have had enough!

DudeFromThatLondon · 27/04/2021 16:43

Hope all goes well tomorrow @VanGoghsDog.

What's appropriate on a rematch if you forgot to delete an old iron's number? Wait for contact through site or ok to message to say hi? It was a case of not getting around to meeting in a lockdown.

pineappleonpizzaornot · 27/04/2021 16:45

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - Happy Birthday too Flowers

OnwardsEverStridingOnwards · 27/04/2021 16:50

[quote pineappleonpizzaornot]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - Happy Birthday too Flowers[/quote]
Thank you @pineappleonpizzaornot Thanks❤️😘

frankiefirstyear · 27/04/2021 16:54

@DudeFromThatLondon

Hope all goes well tomorrow *@VanGoghsDog*.

What's appropriate on a rematch if you forgot to delete an old iron's number? Wait for contact through site or ok to message to say hi? It was a case of not getting around to meeting in a lockdown.

I'd probably appreciate a reminder of previous match, my memory is appalling, then as you say a quick check number remains the same etc
Shayelle2009 · 27/04/2021 16:56

Happy birthday @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards FlowersCakeGrin lovely about mr bookworm HaloStar

Shayelle2009 · 27/04/2021 16:57

@GaraMedouar I think gray hair can look so super stylish and sleek! 🤍🤍 its really in now.

Shayelle2009 · 27/04/2021 16:58

Flowers for your week @VanGoghsDog

OnwardsEverStridingOnwards · 27/04/2021 17:00

@Shayelle2009

Happy birthday *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* FlowersCakeGrin lovely about mr bookworm HaloStar
Thank you @Shayelle2009 ❤️😘😀
GaraMedouar · 27/04/2021 17:11

@Shayelle2009 - thanks Grin - for once in my life I’m on trend with my grey hair !!

BelladiMamma · 27/04/2021 17:24

@VanGoghsDog

Will you be off for it?

No, it's today. I've pulled out of the walk this evening. I don't need any real prep for the hospital appointment other than drinking a certain amount of water tonight and in the morning and my Covid test which I've done, but it's still a bit too much on my mind.

Thank you.

Hoping it goes really well and that overall, it's a good experience & they look after you ♥️