Is this symbolic of our entire relationship? Am I overreacting?

[Gathertherainbows]

I’m prepared to be told I’m overreacting
Several times in the last couple of weeks DH has left his key in the other side of the door so that when I get back with the dc we cannot get in.
He’s usually then busy on a work call (wfh) and although he knows we are there we have waited up to an hour for him to come and take his key out of the door so we can get in.
It’s usually been about half an hour but last week it was an hour and dd had to go to the toilet in the garden. We can get in the garden via the gate but still not into the house. She cried a lot because she just wanted to get in the house. In the end I took them down to the shop and came back but still couldn’t get in.
Maybe I just don’t understand how important business is but I don’t see why he couldn’t just say he had to go and open the door - he could even have blamed me and said he didn’t have his key.
I do feel it’s a bit symbolic of how we are, no way would I leave him outside with the dc - having been out since 7.30am themselves - for an hour just waiting around.

My partner would be fuming if I did that to him and/or my SC.

I work from home in a business environment. If it was an internal call, I'd just say I had to go to the door. If it was a client call, I would feel a bit unprofessional saying "I left my key in the door" however, I would make an excuse such as can you excuse me for one minute, or feign connection issues for one minute to go and answer the door, or quickly dash to the door when someone else was speaking.

I would never leave my partner standing outside for that long.

Do you love this man?
Do you even like him?
Does he love and like you?
If someone presented you with a magic wand that made him disappear would you wave it?
The reasons don’t have to be earth shattering to leave someone, you can just look and see that you would be happier, the kids would have a better role model, you would feel more self respect. You could also leave because life can be better, partners can be actual partners, equally, and life can be happier with them than without.
Surely you can see what you have with him probably isn’t worth keeping? Inertia will steal your life, and your children’s childhoods. Life is absolutely too short.
What would happen if you said you need to have a discussion with him? If you outlined that you feel unhappy with the relationship, that you don’t feel he treats you how you deserve to be treated and that he has grown full of himself and neglectful as a father.
If you said these things were making you reconsider your future with him? How would he react? Would he take on board your concerns and perhaps go to counselling with you? If not, again, what is this relationship holding for you?
Please don’t allow yourself and your children to just carry on. Things need to change for the better, and you are the one with the ability to do something...

I do suspect op won't be returning

I thought of you today OP as I sat through a vendor presentation and the presenter excused himself to answer the door. It was quick and no one minded.

It reinforced to me how truly dreadful your husband's behaviour is. Your poor daughter.

@AnyFucker

I would get a brick and put it through that window next time. I am serious, btw.

This would be me too. Give him a taste of his own medicine.

I can't believe you were locked out with a child for over an hour!!!
My husband wouldn't hear the end of it if he did this even for 15 minutes... screw work. Family comes first

I'm baffled by this.
What is his job OP??
Unless he's a surgeon performing live surgery via webcam, I don't see why he can't excuse himself for 10 seconds from a work call to let you in. I'd be livid.