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Ex is refusing to bring 19 month old son home!

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Notlong2go · 24/03/2021 22:29

I posted a thread yesterday about how my ex is demanding to have our 4 and a half month old every weekend which I won’t agree to.
Today he picked up our 19 month old like usual and then later called me to tell me I won’t be getting him back until I take him to court or let him see our youngest.

So I have never refused to let him see any of the children but, I just don’t want him having our youngest overnight at this young age, especially when he has never spent any time alone with him.
He told me last night he was going to pick both children up and I told him it wouldn’t be possible to have my baby today and we would have to arrange something but, because of this he has said I am stopping him seeing his son so now refuses to bring our older son home!

This has made me even more certain I don’t trust him to take my baby away from my home alone!!

OP posts:
BlueDahlia69 · 21/04/2021 22:43

@Notlong2go

Will update again once child custody hearing has taken place.

You did great .. in difficult times you did yourself and your kids proud 🌸

Queenie6655 · 21/04/2021 22:45

It's horrendous

You oh poor thing

You have good family around now
Stay strong xxxxxx

Nat6999 · 22/04/2021 00:09

Well done on getting the order, don't be afraid of going back to court if he breaches it at any time. You have shown him you won't take any crap, keep it up. I hope you get a judge who makes your ex earn his contact by having to do supervised contact to prove himself.

BlueDahlia69 · 22/04/2021 14:08

@Nat6999

Well done on getting the order, don't be afraid of going back to court if he breaches it at any time. You have shown him you won't take any crap, keep it up. I hope you get a judge who makes your ex earn his contact by having to do supervised contact to prove himself.

totally agree 🌸

BlueButtercups · 02/06/2021 01:58

@Notlong2go

how are you OP 🌸

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Notlong2go · 02/06/2021 09:53

@BlueButtercups I am good thank you.

I have been really busy and forgot to update but we had an initial urgent hearing as CAFCASS were really concerned about ex being around our children. They said that all contact with the kids should cease until an assessment has been undertaken meaning he also couldn’t be at his mums house if the kids were there.
The judge granted an order for the time being to stop my ex being allowed to remove the children from my care or anybody else’s without my permission.

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CandyLeBonBon · 02/06/2021 09:56

[quote Notlong2go]@BlueButtercups I am good thank you.

I have been really busy and forgot to update but we had an initial urgent hearing as CAFCASS were really concerned about ex being around our children. They said that all contact with the kids should cease until an assessment has been undertaken meaning he also couldn’t be at his mums house if the kids were there.
The judge granted an order for the time being to stop my ex being allowed to remove the children from my care or anybody else’s without my permission.[/quote]
That's excellent news op

WitchDancer · 02/06/2021 10:15

That's brilliant news, thank you for sharing it with us Thanks

mrscoxaools · 02/06/2021 11:29

Well done Not, sorry he put you through all that

SpringCrocus · 02/06/2021 19:08

Excellent news!

Minfilia · 02/06/2021 19:31

Bloody brilliant update!

Maybe now he’s spectacularly losing control, he’ll just sod off.

MrsRockAndRoll · 02/06/2021 21:26

So relieved for you

BlueButtercups · 02/06/2021 22:05

That's fantastic @Notlong2go

You have done an incredible job of protecting your kids and asserting your role as protector. I'm so glad you stood your ground and fought tooth and nail, because lets be honest, this was not easy for you.

I hope anyone who finds themselves in your position, can use this Thread as a helpful guide.

Well done again Flowers

Original poster
Notlong2go · 03/06/2021 00:01

Thank you everybody. Yes it hasn’t been an easy ride but with the non-mol and the court order stopping him from removing the children a huge weight has been lifted!

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Iecydda · 03/06/2021 00:34

@Notlong2go Is your child back with you now? I know from experience that sadly the police won't get involved if dad has PR.

Original poster
Notlong2go · 03/06/2021 11:26

@Iecydda yes he brought him home after 5 days of taking him but now I have a court order in place to stop him from being able to take them from my care again without my permission.

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Iecydda · 03/06/2021 11:33

@Notlong2go Ah great news, you did very well to get that put in a court order.
My ex took my eldest for seven days seven years ago so I know how scary it is. He was just 6 at the time and he didn't tell me where he'd gone with him. Still haunts me to this day.
Went to court and he got 50/50 custody.
He's done it again since sadly.
So happy you little one is back with you x

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