He did the mash. The Geller mash.

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Thread 4. Wow. Thank you for putting up with my ramblings thus far, and for all the support - I couldn't have done it without you all.

Previous thread here

I can confirm he has purchased a masher. He sent me a picture of it and asked if it was alright

I don't know how you didnt bury him under the patio OP.

Is he seriously that incompetent, but can somehow hold down a decent job but not figure out how to set his dc up with the homework. Is he that bad that he phones YOUR friends to help him out. Or is it him seeing all of this beneath him so trying to get someone else to take on the mental load of figuring it out, because he thinks he shouldn't have to?

Honestly I'd be sorely tempted to send him a message telling him he was the one that decided to buy a flash iPad for himself rather than getting the dc a laptop each - so fucking sort it yourself, and stop asking me and MY friends. You idiotic, selfish bellend

Go he winds me up and I don't even know him

Perhaps he is thinking that joint custody means sharing resources like your IT and your brain.

And of course, your potato masher

Who would've thought that a potato masher was so a monopolising item.

I agree the masher can be ignored, but isn't this basically warning you he isn't going to get them to do the homework, because he can't be arsed, & doesn't want the fight as now they are back at school he cares even less.
I would be putting my foot down on the 60:40, if he doesn't give them snacks, or get them to do the homework, & sends them back tired & bad humoured, having tantrums & messing up their sleeping habits.
You then spend the next couple of days trying to get them back into a relaxed harmonious routine. There already seems to be a pattern.
So telling him he has this responsibility in writing is a paper trail for when you tell him it's not working...

@WhoUsedMyName

Oh I need link to previous threads please? Tbh was only drawn in by the mash 😂

The OP provided a link in the first message of this thread, as she did on the previous threads.

He sent you a photo of his new masher? Wow.

@pog100 oh it just isn't showing 😬

Tbh I’ve been sent photos of much worse by men 🤷🏻‍♀️

I Lie! Sorry still don't get mn

I saw Hamilton in the West End AND on Disney...

During my first (!) divorce exH didn't even get pfb's birth date right on the paperwork, but tried to haul me into court over a £9.99 hatstand that I BOUGHT from MFI !

@drspouse

I saw Hamilton in the West End AND on Disney...

The other night I had a very vivid dream where I was in the Victoria theatre watching Hamilton giving a standing ovation and crying like a loon.

I WILL make this dream come true 💕

If you think he'll send the kids in with no homework and no explanation, I'd probably email the teacher and say "Dh is setting up a printer and wifi in his new home and normal homework will resume shortly." Then let him know you've done that and do nothing further.

@PomBearWithoutHerOFRS - well that dates your comment 🤣 I’d forgotten all about MFI!

Happy Mother’s Day @StuckInPollyannaMode

Your first in freedom and your very own space! I hope today doesn’t get Gellar’d for you. You’ve done a fab job all the way through your threads

Happy Mother's Day @StuckInPollyannaMode. Hope it's a gellar free one 💐

I'm chewing through data as I don't have wifi yet

Did you know you were about to experience signal issues, so the only way he can contact you is through email/wifi calling?

Funny that.

I too think you need to get a second phone. When he has the nippers ask a friend if they will act as his intermediary so he can call them in a proper emergency and they can call you on your other phone.

Be less passive and send a text saying that unless there is a vein open you don't want to hear from him. You are allowing him to treat you like his sounding board. Let him do a few hard yards for once. You have had nothing but.

Happy Mother’s Day all!

I just did a Bailey Brown workout. Not going to be able to walk tomorrow!

Oh my.

I just had a call from a very good friend - the one who did the printing. She and two other friends felt I should know that they are all absolutely incredulous I managed to put up with Geller for so long. That he is incapable of operating as a fully functional adult. They are going to start pushing back on him and just want to be sure that I am ok with it.

Geller is asking people to do all sorts.

So far, he’s asked:

• for help with his tv. Upon inspection it turned out he had plugged the input into the output. He has now managed this 3 times.
• whilst there, friend realised that 2 of the base plates were hanging off the wall. He got out a screwdriver to fit them back on and when Geller questioned what he was doing had to point out that leaving them uncovered meant there were live wires exposed in the sitting room.
• he has asked for lots of printing to be done. Change of address forms etc.
• he has asked various people about homework and what to put in packed lunches
• how many times a week the children should be reading

She said that it just revealed how much I have been doing for him and they are agog that he manages to even hold down a job.

I said push back all you want!

I just feel very sad.

I'm not surprised you are sad.

I think there will be new female installed as quickly as he can manage it.

I would honestly make a note of all of these things. Start compiling an “evidence of incompetency” file.

@swampytiggaa My Hamilton tickets were cancelled last year due to lockdown so I finally caved and watched it on Disney+. But I have replacement tickets for later this year!

Your friends must really love you, @StuckInPollyannaMode, to put up with such needy tomfoolery from your almost-Ex. He really thinks people owe him, doesn't he? It's time they start being less amenable and realise they are not HIS support system. I'm glad they are, finally, considering pushing back. Why, otherwise, would he consider being a proper grown up in the way you have had to be?

I do hope things continue to improve for you and your girls, OP. I truly think you have the strength, especially with your lovely friends, to weather the irritations Geller is causing and enjoy a better future. 🌹

Omg one of these men who had been having an affair.... moved into my rental flat and asked me to do so much for him as his landlord he's 58 and clearly has never lifted a finger!!
He didn't much joy with me 😂

Have to say my ex is also much the same... he announced rather proudly that his gf has moved in and keeps everything clean and tidy and bakes with with our Dc
My reply was: ahh that's sweet you at long last have a housekeeper you have sex with 😬
shes 26 and has given up working so she can dedicate herself to him literally ruined her life!! Honestly where the hell do they find these women