Drinking in the morning - everyone does it, right?

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Even when they have young kids?
Totally normal yes?

Well he's just told me to ask around. Don't fancy asking my friends so here we are
I'm being told this is totally normal and everyone does it, so why shouldn't he.

I was with an alcoholic for years and he couldn’t even do the school run / grocery shop without sneaking a bottle out with him.

No words of wisdom other than of course he is a head melt.

Sorry OP this isn’t easy and arguing with him will only drive you crazy.

No. He has alcohol dependency.

Erm. No. That is not normal.

Nope. Christmas day and perhaps my / my partner's birthday. But not normal behaviour. Sorry

Only after a horrible night shift and even then only the one glass.

Christmas Day and New Year's Day Buck's Fizz with brunch (so late morning earliest), otherwise no.

Try and persuade him that it really is bad for him.
I am sorry if that is putting more work on you but as you live with him he has no one else.

I'm not trying to be goady but that's terrible advice.
It's not the OP's job to be responsible for a fellow adult who insists on making awful life choices.

He knows. He doesn't need telling.

And no, it's not normal.

God no way. Not normal at all, although I have known several alcoholics who do it.

It is normal on Christmas Day, maybe Boxing Day, at the airport, on the plane, on holiday by the pool with a good book, at a festival, or at a wedding.

Otherwise, no. It's trashy

No, never.

My Dad is recovering alcoholic. He used to do this but even so it wasn’t considered ‘normal’ . He was shouting that it’s his illness and he’s not able to stop.

Only when you’re going Mahoosive with the all inclusive.
Otherwise, no.

Completely normal for everyone I know who is an alcoholic or functional alcoholic - whether they accept the substance abuse or deny it.

For the 'general population' - I'd think it's quite rare and restricted to well-defined social occasions where there are responsible adults around for any safeguarding or care considerations.

Not normal here with the exception of a Buck’s Fizz about 11 on Christmas Day. And I like a drink

No. Only problem drinkers I'd say. Same with drinking every day.

We like a drink in this household so no puritanical judgements here but drinking in the morning or through the day is not normal. I don't know anyone who thinks it is. As others have said, Christmas morning and a glass of fizz is quite usual but that's about it.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this and I wish you well. I also wish your partner well and hope that he will find some road to accepting his issue and subsequent recovery.

No, unless Xmas day, wedding etc

On Christmas Day or a hen brunch maybe. Otherwise it's pretty firmly problem drinking territory

I've done it once one an all inclusive holiday (half a glass of bucks fizz one day). Never done it apart from that.

Morning drinking has happened in two circumstances in my house:

When DH got back from a difficult nightshift he’d have a whisky before bed.
When our alcoholic, two times in rehab so far friend would come visit.

It’s not a normal drinking habit to need an eye opener.

Xmas day MAYBE around 11am. On a Sunday maybe in the afternoon if we’re having our big Sunday meal at lunch. Other than that nope. And certainly not normal on a random March Sunday.

No, not normal.

Once in a while like Christmas or at a brunch is ok, if someone I knew was drinking in the morning regularly then I would have concerns.

Only at Gatwick before a holiday flight departing before noon. And I say that as a recovering alcoholic, three years sober. Exceptions are also allowed on Christmas Day.

Christmas Day - yes. Boxing Day - mulled wine after a morning walk yes. Rest of year? Definitely no.

So, he's an alcoholic in denial, with no plans or desire to change.

What are you going to do now?

Yep, totally normal in our house when I was little. Also the reason my dad never met his grandchildren, and died alone aged barely sixty. I didn’t go to the funeral.

Just go OP. Reasoning won’t work, getting angry won’t work, and ignoring won’t work.