How much did he/should he spend on your engagement ring?

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Just curious what everyone's thoughts are nowadays? I've heard of the '3 month's salary rule' (although i also heard it was 2 months and 1 month, so who knows!), but that's from a long time ago. Is it still relevant now? If not then what is better?

How much did he spend (either in £ or relative to salary)? Was it more or less than you thought/hoped he would?

Does it matter to you (honestly!)? Should it matter?

DH and I didn't get engagement rings. There was no engagement. We had a conversation about getting married not long after we got together (aged 21ish). Then when we had a second discussion when in grad school in our mid 20s about when we wanted to get married. We thought post PhD/residency would be a good time. So we got married and exchanged plain gold wedding bands. It cost maybe a few thousand pounds in total (we both earn fairly well).

Mine cost £27-50. It was 1972 though, and I think it was about 2 weeks wages.

Mine was off eBay. About £50. It's exactly what I wanted. A vintage 30's ring.

Nowt. We lived together and had a mortgage and nursery fees to pay. I'd have been completely outraged if he'd wasted several months' salary on a ring!

Haven't RTFT. Mine was about 2.5k. Probably about a months wages after tax but would have taken a long time to save for at the time. I love the ring and would have loved it just as much if it was £100
To be honest I find this whole topic quite sickening. The idea that more expensive means better and that someone should wince at the counter when buying it, and that the richer you are the more you should spend, urgh!
I'd far rather spend the money on something worthwhile like travelling, amazing holidays, put towards a house or savings for kids.
And I would actually hate to have a massive rock on my finger just like I would hate to wear Balenciaga trainers or carry an expensive designer bag, because to me it gives off an impression of being materialistic which is the opposite of the way I'd want to be seen. I'd be a bit embarrassed.
Not everyone buys into this crap.