How much did he/should he spend on your engagement ring?

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Just curious what everyone's thoughts are nowadays? I've heard of the '3 month's salary rule' (although i also heard it was 2 months and 1 month, so who knows!), but that's from a long time ago. Is it still relevant now? If not then what is better?

How much did he spend (either in £ or relative to salary)? Was it more or less than you thought/hoped he would?

Does it matter to you (honestly!)? Should it matter?

I disagree with the x number of months salary. You need to like the ring. My husband erred on the side of caution and bought me some jewellery (not a ring) and then we went ring shopping after having agreed a budget which had no correlation to husband's salary.

I don't think the cost is an important factor. It is how much you like the ring. I wouldn't expect to know the cost. I chose my own ring and I still love it. It was around a month of his wages at the time but I would have picked the same ring even if it was the cheapest one there.

For me it's not about the cost but if you like it and the sentiments behind it. Your post comes across like you are a bit disappointed!

Realistically I don’t think anyone spends 3 months wages. Like PP I think £2/2.5k is the norm. Also more money doesn’t necessarily equate to a bigger diamond, it could mean better clarity.

I don’t think there’s a “should” in terms of cost. Surely it’s whatever you both want to spend?

I'd add that it is more about the commitment than grand gesture. I know a number of people who have blown budgets only to divorce very quickly!

What you can afford .

Matters to me because I want a specific thing - I will probably end up putting my own money into it too . Which is fair and fine .

The cost was totally irrelevant and I hope to God that buying it didn't cause any hardship financially (or otherwise!)

Didn't get one. Just got married.

Seriously who gives a shit.
My DH proposed with a haribo ring, he wanted me to choose one, I told him not to bother, we got married within the year.
It was the marriage that was important not a statement to other people.

£87. Almost 50 years ago. I still love it, and can’t quite understand people who want a new engagement ring.

This is so incredibly materialistic...DH proposed without a ring and it couldn't have been any more romantic. Sorted the ring some time afterwards as it was totally not the point of the whole thing.

Anyone thinking the op won’t be back?

Mine cost a couple of hundred to reset a diamond ring that he'd inherited. It's worth around £2000 now but it's worth far more than that to me. Honestly, if your biggest issue is how much he spends on the ring, don't get married. I'd have said yes with a Haribo ring if that's all he could afford.

Mine cost £500 which was a lot of money as we got engaged relatively young (23). A lady I worked with got engaged at the same time and had a huge diamond. A colleague taught me a cute ditty, "it's the size of the cock, not the rock" 🤣 I like looking at it (the ring!) as it reminds me of where we started and what we now have.

@PurpleDaisies

Anyone thinking the op won’t be back?

It's only been about 25 minutes, there's hope 🤣

The girlfriend or my BIL has picked out her ring...it’s £10k. Needless to say she’s still a GF!!!

Mine was £100. We found it when looking through antique shops and he bought it without me knowing. I love it more than any £10,000 ring from a jewellers.

Mine cost less than £200 14 years ago. Not ‘traditional’ - but then again, I asked DH to marry me, so maybe I should have bought him a ring instead?

Does the cost or the size of the ring matter? No. Not in the slightest. DP is dying so we are marrying ASAP, the size and the cost of any ring he buys me will be immaterial when I get to bury him in the not-too-distant future.

Mine was £500 which was probably 2/3 weeks wage.

The cost didn't matter to me. Having a nice ring that I liked and would last mattered.

My ring was the one I loved regardless of what it cost - it wasn't actually that expensive. It got nicked when we were burgled about 15 years later so probably just as well it wasn't a hugely expensive rock as with a house and children I'd never have been able to justify replacing it.

You can spend a lot of money without taste but you can't spend a lot of money on taste.

I really don't know how much he spent because he got the actual stone from the Far East and the setting from an antique jeweller but from the retail price for it right now is probably 7k but he didn't spend that much. So I'm assuming maybe 1.5 months of his wages.

@bloodywhitecat

We bought a tent. It's still serviceable 45 years later.

As is the marriage.