Husband touching someone else

[Pollypocket89]

I need reality check. Without context initially, if you saw your partner hugging another woman with his arms around her but underneath her jacket, what would you think? Would you be OK with that?

I'll flesh that out but I'm just curious on the initial gut reaction

Under clothes is far too intimate. No I would not be ok with that and I'm not a jealous person at all.

I wouldn't like that, OP.

No, I would not consider that acceptable.

Nope.

Under jacket rather than under top, if that makes any difference

Nope, it sounds like a bit more than a greeting type hug or even a comfort hug to me.

No definitely not. Hugging is fine but not like that. There's only one man I'd allow to hug me like that & were in a relationship. That shows a level of intimacy, you don't hug a friend or acquaintance like that

@Pollypocket89

Under jacket rather than under top, if that makes any difference

No it doesn't

No, underneath the jacket is crossing a line.

Trying to look at it innocently: Has the woman's jacket ridden up because of the hug? If she's stretched her arms up the back might be pulled up? And then the hug was where the jacket would have been?
Anyway I'm probably still a firm no, not OK.

Depends how long the hug was, who the person was, where I was at the time, who else was there. Context would be key for me.

No. Literally no reason for hands to be under anyone else's clothes in a hug.

As in, " ooh, I'm coming in your jacket to share your warmth" - that kind of hug?

Firm no!!!

Probably a leavable offence

It sort of needs context. Who is she, why was it under her jacket, was it in public where you and others could be expected to see or was it meant to be secret?

No

Very intimate and inappropriate.

Nope, it’s weird.

As in, her arms went around his neck and he moved her jacket with his hands as he put them underneath and round her waist under the jacket... For a reasonable amount of time

No one being comforted or anything, just leaving

Weirdly if she was just wearing a jumper/blouse a hug would seem innocent, but wearing a coat over the top of her jumper/blouse and him diving inbetween, seems like crossing a line to me.
I would feel uncomfortable if anyone but a lover did that to me

Yeah, I'd not like that much

Her arms went round his neck? I'm sorry that's far too intimate too. If I saw a couple standing like that I'd assume they were a couple. I'd say there's something going on between them

Still needs fleshing out. Cropped jacket? Was it open? Did he open it?

I wouldn’t be comfortable with that.

Who is the woman? Sister/mother/aunt - obviously weird but not something to be too concerned about.

Colleague/friend/ex - not at all acceptable.

Very strange. No I wouldn't like that at all.

For me that would be crossing the line and I'd have to say something. I'd prob dig a little first.