Husband touching someone else

[Pollypocket89]

I need reality check. Without context initially, if you saw your partner hugging another woman with his arms around her but underneath her jacket, what would you think? Would you be OK with that?

I'll flesh that out but I'm just curious on the initial gut reaction

I'd be really pleased if I saw that, but then I'm looking for a reason to divorce the bastard.

@C152

My first thought would be that he fancies her, even if it hasn't gone beyond that yet.

And her him if she put her arms up around his neck first. That is kind of how a kiss is initiated .

I’d assume they were shagging tbh.

So are they shagging or what?

Sounds very intimate, not a friend hug.

My first thought was who gets close enough to hug these days.......

Sounds as if there is a bit of chemistry on both sides!
Back in the olden days of time when I hugged people other than my DH I wouldn't put my arms around their neck!

So if he's not your husband OP how does this concern you? I'm confused

So if it’s your friend presumably you know whether she fancies him or not ?

I'm going to call it and say they've definitely slept together.

Unless the jacket was especially bulky - it's dodgy.

But I'd say it was her putting her arms around his neck that invited it - that in itself puts them very close together with her open jacket, so in a way it's be odd for him to go around the jacket.
But if this was lengthy and he visibly relaxed into it - of course it looks slike they fancy each other then.

I’d be furious I’d have been over there and pulled him away tbh if my husband did that

Unsure well if he's married, the friend may not have shared that with OP, fancying a married man.

@isadorapolly

I’d assume they were shagging tbh.

Yup.

I can't imagine anyone other than my husband hugging me under my jacket... Even close family wouldn't hug me that way. It feels weird to think about. Much more intimate than a normal hug, especially it it stretched out for more than a few seconds. I'd suspect there was more to their relationship than casual friendship/work colleagues.

If this is about your partner again OP then isn't it time you called quits on the relationship? It's not making you happy.

If it was about your friend wouldn’t the title be friend hugging someone else’s husband?

Just asked DH.

Immediate no, not right, that's too close, one step from putting your hands under whatever's under the jacket.

Nope. It's like topping up someone's drink without asking - it suggests a certain level of intimacy.

I read sometime in some kind of sociobiology book once that said that we only put our arms around peoples necks if we are very intimate with them as it’s such a vulnerable position to be in. It feels weirdly wrong otherwise as our spidey senses are telling us we’re unsafe.

Arms under jacket - could you imagine him doing that to another heterosexual man? No. Me neither.

If it’s about your friend, why have you called them your husband in the title?

Was he tipsy/drunk? Is she a very close family friend?

Hang about....was the OP the hugger? lol

I agree with @CatAndHisKit

If her arms were around his neck and she was pressed in, her chest would have been pressing against his.

For what it's worth I have a very old friend (of 30 years) who's my DS's godfather. We live in different countries, I'm single he isn't. If we saw each other we'd greet like that, and we'd kiss on the lips. I know that seems odd in UK but it's not for us.

Looking at the title and that your OP asks if you saw your DP hugging like this, I seriously doubt this is about a friend.
I think a hug like this indicates these two have either been, or are planning to be, intimate.