Husband touching someone else

[Pollypocket89]

I need reality check. Without context initially, if you saw your partner hugging another woman with his arms around her but underneath her jacket, what would you think? Would you be OK with that?

I'll flesh that out but I'm just curious on the initial gut reaction

Its been so long since I bugged someone I am struggling to remember what I normally do!

If it's not your husband, then why are you so invested? Is one of them your friend or married to your friend?

I think that's part of my questioning it, momtoboys!

I hug male close friends with my arms around their neck but probably not arms under jacket. I wouldn't think much of it if they did though.

A colleague hugging a woman like that seems odd- she may not want to be touched that intimately (I'd think it is intimate if you're not very very close friends/in a relationship). That sort of touch between colleagues would suggest physical comfort with each other which seems suspicious.

Why haven't you asked your friend lol?

@cosmicbabe

Why haven't you asked your friend lol?

Probably to gauge a wide range of opinions in case she was wrong and ended up looking stupid like most of the threads I start

Her putting her arms around his neck is very intimate too. The only person I hug like this is my OH.

It's obviously an intimate hug.

So?

Why does it matter to you OP.

That’s a really intimate, if not overtly sexual, way to hug someone! I hug my husband by slipping my hand inside his jacket very specifically to touch him under his coat, he does the same to me. It’s not accidental and is probably something of a territorial indicator as I know no one else would hug him like that. I don’t know about the arms around the neck though as I would do this with a number of male friends but in a “loose” way, not insinuating myself around them, if that makes sense?

op, if this is in fact your dh and this woman from work you've posted about a million times, you need to get him told to sling his hook.

I'm so confused

Were you spying on your husband?

That does sound quite intimate. The arms under the coat definitely.

I'm not sure about the arms around the neck though — it's been so long since I've hugged a friend I'm not sure any more. That's a bit depressing really.

I think I might sometimes do arms around the neck (loosely) if they're tall, because we tend to kiss on the cheek as well, so I'm reaching up. They're male friends I know well though, I wouldn't do that with a colleague!

Well if she was holding her arms open which meant jacket flopped away from her sides, then fine - but if he deliberately push his arms under then no - weird.

No not acceptable at all!

How far does a coat ever flop open?

nope, I seem to remember hugs and there is no way arms round neck for anyone but someone I'm intimate with, and certainly never under a jacket. That is reserved for couples, methinks.

what you saw you were not meant to see.

Hmm, a quick huge where he randomly went under the jacket by chance I wouldn't care, probably an old mate.

If it looked as though he had his arms around her and was talking to her I'd be a bit unless it was a female mate I knew.

If I knew the woman and it was one of my DP pals then I wouldn't care as I trust them all.

Who is saying that under the jacket makes no difference?

If I went to hug a male friend and he slid his arms under my jacket I'd jump out of my skin!

During the pandemic?

Not weird, if it was a long jacket it was probably the way the jacket fell so that’s why his arms went inside instead of outside.

If it was a tight leather jacket and his put his arms inside that’s different but a long fooaty coat that hangs away from the side then no.

No. Asked DH, he said no too.

Sick of the "my DH says...." oh it must be wrong if your husband thinks so.

Something is going on , or they want it to Be

They are obviously familiar to be hugging during a pandemic