Husband touching someone else

[Pollypocket89]

I need reality check. Without context initially, if you saw your partner hugging another woman with his arms around her but underneath her jacket, what would you think? Would you be OK with that?

I'll flesh that out but I'm just curious on the initial gut reaction

So this is your dh?

Did he know you were there?

@Pollypocket89

When pp are saying don't put arms around neck, do you mean you only go under arm?

Left arm over shoulder, and right arm under arm

Op, you keep posting threads in this vein. Is this your husband, and is it the same woman you keep posting about?

@Pollypocket89

When pp are saying don't put arms around neck, do you mean you only go under arm?

Generally, either like a cross. One arm over their shoulder and the other under their arm.

Or my arms around their middle and their arms around my upper arms and back.

Height dependent and relationship dependent.

No, this isn't my husband thankfully. This is something I saw my friend do while I was waiting for her and I was quite taken aback but couldn't quite pinpoint if that was my own experience clouding my opinion

Nope nope nope.

And I would probably have a hard time saying that as I would sound pathetic and jealous to my own ears. But sometimes you know that something gives you a weird vibe. I'm pretty flirty and I don't ever get my hands under men's jackets unless it's a developing bit of chemistry going on.

Thank you for the explanation, that makes total sense now. Feel ridiculous asking that but logistics are hard to picture when you're blanking

Ah! It's not your partner. That's good to hear!

@Pollypocket89

No, this isn't my husband thankfully. This is something I saw my friend do while I was waiting for her and I was quite taken aback but couldn't quite pinpoint if that was my own experience clouding my opinion

Who's husband then? Your thread title makes it clear that it's someone husband.

I wouldn't put my arms around a man's neck. It's a brief hug with my hands on the outside of their arms, if any hug at all. Going underneath her coat is odd too. It's not a friendly hug.

Oh dear lord can you stop drip feeding op?!

He's married and my question was how would pp feel in that situation though I appreciate reading it back it could definitely be read that way

It's hardly a drip feed, I did say without context and it's not exactly a massive backstory

Not acceptable.

I think that pp have confirmed it's not just me that found it an intimate gesture, however

@Redglitter

No definitely not. Hugging is fine but not like that. There's only one man I'd allow to hug me like that & were in a relationship. That shows a level of intimacy, you don't hug a friend or acquaintance like that

This

Who's hugging these days anyway

It does sound intimate but in (pre-Covid) times I was/am a very huggy person. I am quite short compared to most male friends but have often stretched up and put my arms around their necks for tight squeezy hugs. Most will reciprocate and that would usually be arms round my waist and -sometimes - lifting me off the floor. The coat moving is a little more intimate but I’d have needed to see it to make a decision.

Was it fleeting, by accident or did he actually seek to put his arms under her jacket? Trust your gut though if you witnessed it. But, who is hugging colleagues in a pandemic???

More of an embrace than a hug.

You could have said ‘friend touching someone else’s husband’.

Did they know that you were there?

Truthfully - I would bleddy hate it. Also when was it? I ask because right now we shouldn’t be hugging really and would find what he did odd and suspicious. Sounds pretty intimate!

No they didn't, I was in my car.

And it was intentional, going under her jacket

My first thought would be that he fancies her, even if it hasn't gone beyond that yet.