Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

Ah right. I don't think so, I think they just put stuff in the profile that suggests that normally. Or outright say it. I've not seen a Pedro near me. Maybe you're just in a Pedro heavy area

Just a quick question.
Chatting to a man online for 6 weeks. Pretty intense at the start, chatting, messaging lots, plans to meet up once lockdown allows. In the last week, hes been falling asleep on an evening and not messaging and going all day without a text today.
I’m loosing interest as it appears he has already. I want to let him know how I feel but not sure how to phrase it. Any advice!? Lol x

Personally I would just pull back and not say anything. Just let it fizzle out. I don't think there's anything you could say to draw him back in if that's what you mean?

I was just wondering about putting that “its clear we’re both loosing interest and I wish him well..”..
but I am always a bit soft and lack assertiveness x lol

I think it's fine to say that, as long as you're prepared to say 'Sorry, no. All the best' if he suddenly wants to give it another go. Or as long as you don't think it will hurt your feelings if he doesn't say that.

This is why I'd let it fizzle on its own, because I'd rather avoid both of those situations

Finally had a message from Mr Physical late last night, saw it when I woke up and replied, he’s got a job with a lot of responsibility (and he is who he says he is, did a bit of digging on google last night and it checks out, so thats a relief), we’ve only been talking about a place in the world that we both really love so far, its good he loves it as it holds a very special in my heart!

Hope you have a great time on your date @OutingMyself goes without saying, give us the update after

Hope @pineappleonpizzaornot is ok and maybe caught up with homeless!

Hi, so pleased your still chatting to Mr Physical @Shayelle2009, long mat it continue for you!
Will be thinking of @OutingMyself, looking forward to her update 😊.
Messages Mr Homeless last night, he wanted to talk on the phone, or so he said Thursday night, but I said I was busy last night and he never mentioned the call, I backed right off, he's not said anything, so not even sure he has noticed 😂.
He said he wants to continue messaging today, so let's see? If it still feels awkward I think I'm going to say something, I think it can be easy getting crossed wires through messaging, so if he is losing interest, I would rather him say rather than me trying to guess what's going on.

Hi @pineappleonpizzaornot its so random him saying he wants to message, i mean why say it why doesnt he just message or call without announcing it first... i dont get that!!
Not sure mr physical and i will chat anymore, his last couple of messages have been a bit short and hes not asking any more questions, giving me nothing to reply to really so ill just drop that one fir now, besides his profile says he wants kids someday so i should have known better than to start chatting to him in the first place really (as im 90% sure i don’t )

@pineappleonpizzaornot he def wouldnt say he wanted to message you today if hes losing interest! They just dont bother if theyre losing interest, they just go silent don't they so just keep thinking he definitely is 🙂

Thanks @Shayelle2009, maybe he is also trying to gauge me too....like I say it's hard work messaging when wires can be crossed so easily! I think he is interested, but shy, and I am too, and maybe we both got too excited 🤷🏻‍♀️ butI like exciting! Not heard from him today yet. Shame about Mr Physical, it's such a wave of emotions this dating shit isn't it! I just feel the only way you can get anything going at the minute is through messaging, and if they can't be bothered then I'm not really sure why they are on the apps in the first place 🤷🏻‍♀️

I definitely think homeless will be back 🙂 its good youre hanging back a bit, im just seeing if physical messages again then ill know he is actually interested in chatting more... if not, then adios amigo 👋 !!

Hope we both end today on a good note @Shayelle2009....we bloody deserve it. Not heard from Homeless yet today, he must be so busy meeting all his family and friends, going to the gym, then the pub 😂😂

Me too @pineappleonpizzaornot... i actually did just reply to physical, only because I had a genuine thing to ask 😬 he does need to up his game with the actual crafting of the messages as i dont feel like hes asking questions despite us having a nice enough convo. We’ll see! Good luck today hope he gets in touch ... i think he will 💗

I'm back already. He was nice enough, I didn't feel any spark or get the impression he did. Oh well! On to the next one.

Ooh so after getting some more pics of mr spreadsheet I'm having some doubts 😕

I'm just not sure I will fancy him! He's still super keen and wants to message all day long and has suggested a call.

I'm not sure what to do!

Oh @OutingMyself-flippin heck! Was he good looking?? Did the chat flow? Will you see him again? He could be a grower 😂🤷🏻‍♀️x

We get on great though...no anxiety which i normally get!

Bloomin heck its so hard to tell from the photos.

I'm also worried about that @bangheadhere40-Mr homeless sent me a photo, and it wasn't the best, but I kind of knew that already, but I have found him on FB, and he isn't ugly, just not "hot", but I do fancy his personality, and that is what it's about for me, he doesn't look like a potato either! At least Mr Spreadsheet is still super keen, I think Mr Homeless might have found a new home 😡

He was okay looking, not a stunner but definitely attractive.

He said something like 'hopefully see you again' but didn't make any plans or say he would message me or whatever, so I don't think I'll hear again. I won't be disappointed if I don't hear from him, it was a bit 'meh'.

He's a bit too keen though....😒 never thought I would hear myself say that.

Happy Saturday all, hope you have a nice weekend. I hadn't heard from my last ex since we caught up last Saturday but he texted me good morning today and asked if I was horse riding as my daughter goes every saturday and its quite close to where he lives. I haven't replied yet....what do you think I should do?

Hi Linda, do you want to see him again? Go for it of so.

Messages Mr Homeless an hour ago....he's not even read it. If he does reply, he is getting told to step it up or don't bother! It's Saturday, no work, we are in lockdown, it's not that hard is it!
@bangheadhere40-why don't you just have a walk with him and see how it is?
@LuckyLinda3 I I agree with banghead 😁