Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

I met my last one on pof. I'm starting to think did I think he was so great as the competition was so awful...probably 😄

😂 yeah best of a very bad bunch perhaps ☺️☺️

i quite like the format of pof compared to the others though. Its more of a ‘browse’ at all the faces rather than swipe swipe swipe which cooks my brain a bit.

Hi everyone - I feel the pain of the best of a bad bunch situation....well, I think I am meeting the guy I used to go to school with this weekend, we both have dogs, so I think its a dog walk! Oh how exciting for a first date..... so we will see if anything comes of it or he just blocks me like twat head Homeless!
Hope everyone is ok

Heeeey ms pineapple ☺️ Oooh thats nice!! I dont know why but ive got a really good feeling about this one for you!!!

Really @Shayelle2009!

Well I hope you are right, he seems a really nice guy, he has a son, but he isnt little, he 15. He has a good job, own house, hes only about 5 miles away, we know mutual friends, he wasnt a dick at school. Hes been single 3 years, he says he just wants to find the right person next....we shall see!

Good luck pineapple...have you spoke on the phone? Sounds promising.

Thanks @bangheadhere40 - No we haven't, but he has videos on FB - He does a lot of sports things for charity, so I know what his voice is like and what he looks like (properly)!

Omg @pineappleonpizzaornot he sounds ideal!!! Oh i really do have a good feeling!! I bet it feels easy with him? Were you in the same class/year at school?

@Shayelle2009 - you are making me nervous lol!

He was a year above me, but in joint 6th form we all hung around together....so I know he wasnt an idiot. However I didnt recognise him on Bumble lol....he did me though!

Oh sorry didnt mean to make you feel any way 😬 he just sounds good! At least you kind of know what youre getting as you know him from years ago ☺️

It was nice @Shayelle2009 - I just hope is as nice in real life!!

Happy Friday everyone!

@pineappleonpizzaornot good luck for your date this weekend! Hope he’s a goody!!

Happy Friday!

How are you doing shayelle? Any new irons?

Hey @bangheadhere40 👋 nah no new irons for me.. im not on any apps at the minute though.
Opened a bumble account briefly yesterday and swiped thorough to the end.. one match who i messaged and he didnt reply, so i deleted the app again 😂

Hi all. Hope you are all well. I've had another interesting week. My ex has been in contact all week and rang on wednesday to say he would like to give it a go, doesn't want casual and was put off by me saying he couldn't tell anyone about us. He went on to say he would like to be able call to the house if the kids weren't there and eventually when they are. I'm undecided. He was definitely the pick of the people I have had interactions with since separating but I'm still a bit unsure.
On another note a fella I went to school with who lives in my general area contacted me about 2 weeks ago. We exchanged a few messages and then numbers and after a few days he asked if he could call me. We chatted for ages..but he straight up told me he was married with kids. Had left before but agreed to remain living together for sake of their girls. As luck would have it we got on a bomb. He asked if we could be friends but its a non runner. I'm really annoyed at this stage as I keep attracting attached men. Not fair. Can I have one of my own please??

Hey @LuckyLinda3 😊 how are you? Wow he cane through!! Do you still like him in the same way? Do you think you'll meet up? Hard to stay away when theres still chemistry ❤️

@Shayelle2009, you have it there. I really dont know. I'd love to be casual and go with the flow but I'm not good at that. He just seemed to say more in a few sentences than he had before but I suppose I'm hesitant from before. He rang last might and we talked for ages. We talked about maybe meeting up over easter and I'm off a good bit then from work. I'm also wondering should I tell my kids that I'm meeting him, not giving any detail or making it a big deal but just because I dont need to lie about where I am. He has his covid jabs so that's helps too.

@LuckyLinda3 how old are your kids? I think I’d say I’m meeting a friend at this stage and if it goes well you could tell them in the future.
I don’t think you have anything to lose meeting him and quite a lot to gain, especially if you are clear about what you want from him😊

Would you give him another chance Linda? I know you liked him... i reckon he’d have to prove himself to you you know, hes got to make the effort and show you hes ready to put the work in. Im glad hes seen the light though ☺️☺️ Well done for not running after him!

Thanks @Shayelle2009 and @Mayzee. The kids are 20 (boy) and 15 (girl). I would like him to step up and I'd like to have time without feeling guilty either. I'm glad I didnt purse him is right. Just wish I could roll with it.

@LuckyLinda3 you can roll with it. But on your terms. As your kids are older you absolutely do not need to feel guilty about having time for yourself. And you could probably be more honest with them -maybe wait until after this next meet to see if you want to take things further.
My oldest is 15 and she would be fine, but younger 2 would probably not handle me seeing someone else well. So for now I can only see Mr TG quietly without their knowledge (which means hardly ever 🤷‍♀️!)
I really hope it works out for you because you seem lovely and deserve it

@Mayzee aw thank you so much for your kind words and advice.

So I'm giving up with OLD, just can't be bothered with it and finding it difficult to strike up a conversation with any of my matches. I want someone who has had a decent long term relationship as they know what a long-term relationship is like and I'm not sure I'll get that swiping. Right now I'd even consider my ex if he asked to try again😬. I think because I connected so well with Computer Geek and I'm struggling to find that with anyone else I'm feeling a bit deflated.

All the Computer Geek stuff has made me realise what and who I want and I don't think I'll find it doing OLD. I'm currently concentrating on sorting myself out and applying for new jobs (last time Computer Geek and I spoke we said we were going to sort ourselves out).

But can someone tell me something. On Tinder one of my matches shows up in my chats and when I click on his profile it's there but there are no pictures anymore just the blank shadow thing. Our chat is still there so he hasn't unmatched. Has he just deleted his photos? I don't want to message him on there as I've messaged elsewhere today and he has read it(so I'm not blocked). I'm just curious.

Dont blame you on the OLD front @Isitreally17777.

Small update from me... mr work randomly sent a calendar invite for the walk that I said about a while ago on Friday .. so thats something I guess! Funny to send an outlook invite for it 😂🤔

How was your date shayelle?