Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

Lol. I got a photo of his lunch...😄 but at least he messaged.

Hi all, mind if I join you?
I'm terrible with names and keeping up with threads, but I've been lurking for a while and with the new announcements seems a good time to start swiping!
I'm seeing a FWB about once a week (met online; had hoped for possibly a LTR but he has more issues than the radio times plus he's not looking for a LTR).
I'm also been messaging two potential dates (very unusual to actually find 2 guys who I like the look of and can string a message together!)
First seems really nice, Mr Nice, and the second seems a bit messed up, but is hot (shock!) Mr Hot. I hope to meet up with Mr Nice next week for a walk, and I'm sure Mr Hot will have disappeared but then, he seems that type.

Lol @bangheadhere40 - at least it wasnt his "lunch box"!! Me and Mr Homeless have moved over to snapchat.....I have a feeling I will be seeing a photo of him soon! Oh jeez, I hope I like him! I have seen his photos on Tinder, but hey they mean nothing really! My anxiety levels are through the roof!

Ahhhh, thats nice @bangheadhere40 its ok you've been talking long enough and hes been good til now hey, im so careful about giving my number out usually have to message on the app at least a week to see if they're a twat or not, usually they are, so at least my phones not full of blocked numbers. Its good not to rush these things i think (thats just me though, no judging anyone whos different!)

Eeeeeek @pineappleonpizzaornot i am SO glad its going well for you! I felt gutted for you yday im so glad you stayed cool and it all turned around!
Yeah one of my downsides is that i can be very harsh which is prob why im still single 🙈 i just always think the worst and im well sensitive to rejection so i sabotage it ive done that a lot of times and dont like that part of myself 😟 the difference with mr work though is that he kept being kind to me and didnt give up, he really does want to be friends and im not used to guys being like that, hes just a caring soul but i dont think we’d ever date, its just nice to feel that someone in this world does actually give a shit lol!! I have a lot of amazing friends but with the guys its purely platonic and i trust them 100%, with mr work it feels more than platonic but less than an iron... its kind of hard to explain, but im sure you get me 🙂 maybe its because there is POTENTIAL there.... perhaps. I dont know. But oh well its nice 😇

Thank you @Shayelle2009 - I kind of flew down the psycho alley yesterday, but Im so used to them being twats, I thought he had just completely ghosted me! I feel the same as you, that its weird that someone actually "gives a shit" about me. Its been such a long time I have felt I have that off anyone, and in the last year I managed to convince myself that nobody would ever care about me again! Sad way to live really isnt it .
If nothing comes of Mr Homeless, it has proved I do still have feelings, and I can feel good again, these last couple of days I felt so happy (apart from my slight blip yesterday!). Im so worried about seeing a real life pic of him though, I dont want this bubble to burst....or he might not like me!
I think it sounds like Mr Work and you have potential, why do you think you would never date? Sounds like he likes you!

@cracracatlady I might have to try a scarf, even though it's supposed to be 'hot'!

@bangheadhere40 Yes, it's Saturday morning - eek! I've asked him where he was thinking location wise, I don't want to be the one to think Obviously I'll say no if he suggests somewhere deserted.

Ah, name change fail. Again!

Glad to hear there's a few positive things going on in here atm!

@pineappleonpizzaornot ‘flew down psycho alley’.. haha you always make me laugh!! Its so like that isnt it?!? I think thats why its good to post on here as all of us will be restraining you!! And thank god you stayed cool as now its all good... has he sent you a pic yet, has he got pics on his profile though? I completely hear you that even if it doesn't work out this whole episode has given you faith that there are decent guys out there who have personality, and arent just sleaze obsessed . Same with mr work seems just happy treating me as a fellow human being which is so refreshing isnt it 😇😇
Yeah I would go on a date with him! I just cant imagine it for some reason. I think cos hes quite posh and im a bit of a little punk 🤣🤣 lol. He seems to really want to know me though, which is kind of cute isnt it.
So what is mr homeless voice like... is it manly 😍😍 haha! I love a manly voice!

I think its natural to fall into that ‘no one will ever care about me again’ headspace when its been a looong time when actually anyone has. But at the same time i dont even think thats a bad thing as if you just accept that and think oh well maybe they wont but im gonna be happy anyway and love my life just on my own..inadvertently that positive and natural energy attracts other positive energy, and randomly without you even trying, someone decent comes along. I find its when you genuinely dont really give a fuck anymore, good things can happen

I know what you mean re photos. Mr Spreadsheet has 2 on tinder, one is good but quite far away and the other is okay. I know I don't take great photos though, it's just so hard to tell from the pics on there 😆

I don't want my bubble to burst either so hoping he's more like his first photo!

My last narcissistic twat of an iron was better than his photos, much better...wish he'd have been worse looking back, wouldn't have been so into him!

Tall guy only has two and they're both similar selfies. They're quite close up though. I've tried without success to find him on Facebook! I can't see his teeth in his pictures. I'm hoping he actually has some and that they're at least vaguely white 😬

I definitely go down psycho alley every time 😆

It was a bit of a scene out of fatal attraction brewing in my belly-but he doesn't have a pet rabbit!! Thank God 😂.
His voice sounds"young"-he is just 38 and I'm almost 42, but the old potatoes lurking around are far too baked and mashed up for me 😂.
Haven't seen a "live" photo of him yet as we have both been busy with work ive spent the afternoon putting makeup on.
We are talking in the phone tonight again, bit I know the photo swap is coming!! He says he really fancies me, and I can't say it back yet as I just can't until I see a pic properly. I really like his tinder ones, but there's one in crap lighting and it's made me wary! So we shall see! Keep your fingers crossed for me ladies! I really fancy his personality and his voice, I really hope he isn't another potato!
@Shayelle2009, I think your personality is similar to mine and a little pinky drives the posh boys wild 😜

Pinky lol....punky!

@OutingMyself, I darent search for mine on facebook, I'm so scared of being deflated!

@saltandsugar, welcome!

Haha @pineappleonpizzaornot i thought you meant dying your hair pink which i do a lot as well haha 😂 probably shouldnt at my age but what the hell! I love pastel hair!! 💗💙💜💛
I think 38 is a perfect age I always go for younger guys they just seem a bit less bitter and proprietary than men older than me but obvs again its a personal thing. Omg you get on so well, you have to fancy him!! 😆 dont forget a pic doesn't mean everything and sometimes people you dont think much of in a pic are the most attractive if they have that lovely personality. My ex was really good looking but i ended up having zero attraction to him as he was such an arsehole!

Baked and mashed up potatoes 🤣🤣 all stinky with eyes growing out all over them 😂😂 from Shreks own kitchen, hehe!!

I searched on Facebook, same pic as tinder, so is WA...he must only have 1 photo 😄

Good luck pineapple hope you manage to continue to find things to talk about.

Tell me about it with the potatoes on tinder, I'm just pleased this one has hair!

Enjoy your call tonight btw!! 💘💘

Hair is always a bonus at @bangheadhere40

A tip when you've found someone on Facebook - if you can only see their profile picture then look to see who has liked it and nose at their photos too. Especially if they have the same surname

I'm always terrified of liking someone's photo on Facebook by mistake. When I stalked my last irons ex I very nearly liked one of her pics, I try to avoid it now incase of any accidents 😆😆

Omg @Shayelle2009, I nearly wet myself at your description of potatoes....and don't forget them warty, twiggy beansprout things that sprout out of every oraphaus too, and the bad, had smell when they go off! 😂

Marking place!

Happy to see some of you hopefully finding a good guy, especially if younger!

Just been swiping on the potato catalogue that is bumble. Jesus it gets worse everytime i look at it....

@bangheadhere40 thats exactly the sort of thing id do plus send them a friend request haha.. dont have any social media thankfully 😬 gives me a bit less stress!!