Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

Potatoes smell EVIL when they go off!! Reminds me of pof 😬 ha!

One of my irons just “jokingly” requested bath photos. He seemed one of the nicer more emotionally mature ones too. What a let down

So last night started chatting to someone decent on there. Ill name him Mr Physical 😍 haha.

Thats disappointing @cracracatlady 🙈

Mt Physical - He sounds hot! What a twat asking for bath photos, why o why are they so twatish!
Mr Homeless has been a bit errm weird....I think he is really over-thinking things! We were supposed to talk on the phone last night (at his request), he asked me at lunch time yesterday if I was up for "waffling" again that evening, I said yes. We messaged most of the day, then the evening came, and he asked if I minded if we chatted tonight instead as he is worried things will "dry up".
I agreed as I was quite busy anyway, but then I said do you still want to message, he said yeah, I will message you a couple of times this evening (as in last night) as I cant help myself.
Im confused, he then spent the entire night still messaging me, he said he really likes me and he is really interested, he thinks a lot of me already, he talked about where we could go on dates, said he has told his Mum he is chatting with me .
I dont think there is any kind of hidden agenda with him, he is shy and looking too deep into things, but now I feel Im not quite going with the flow anymore, and it feels a bit "stiff" - I think now we are both overthinking this, and Im not sure how to handle it?

Hmmm well hes obviously keen so just take it for what it is, hopefully he’ll calm down a bit and will call you, he seems a bit anxious doesnt he but hopefully that will calm down!! ☺️

Hi Pineapple,

Sounds like he's just overthinking things as he does really like you and doesn't want things to dry up as he says! I'm terrible for overthinking, we can post on here and hide the craziness quite well though 😄 he's probably just telling you what he's thinking which is quite sweet I think! Probably also cautious about over investing before meeting...sounds shy. If you are up for it I would just ask for a quick walk soonish like I had to.

Messaged Mr Spreadsheet all last night again, and he's messaged me today. We've spoken about loads of stuff. It's going to be a real disappointment if I don't fancy him / he doesn't fancy me in person.

I have an image of what he's like too...aah I'm overthinking now 😄

Thanks Ladies, I feel the call became quite a big thing when it didnt need to be, I really didnt mind if he wanted to put it back to today, but then it was like he basically said, I will only message you and there this evening, which I found a bit weird, but then he messaged me constantly anyway! Urrgh! I think he is anxious but probably didnt handle it in the best way....lets see what happens today .

Sounds like its all going well with Mr Spreadsheet! I know what you mean with the physical side of things....hopefully youll fancy the pants off him!

Yeah that is a bit odd saying he will ' here and there' lol. Hopefully it's just nerves....and see how you get on with him tonight if you speak.

How about messaging a bit less pineapple you could call him later randomly? Just keep it light and breezy, let him freak out whilst you stay calm and cool 😌

Yeah, I think you're right @Shayelle2009 - Im kind of feeling that all the balls are in his court, so I think Ill be a bit quieter today, and make him do the wondering! Shame I feel its got into a bit of game playing, but hey ho!
Any more from Mr Physical or Mr Work?

This is going to be such a letdown if Mr Spreadsheet isn't as expected as we just get on so well and are in touch all the time! ! 😆

Thats really cute @bangheadhere40 what stage are you guys at now? Has he sent you a pic yet.. are you gonna meet up? Really glad its all going nicely.

I think really it is all ok with you @pineappleonpizzaornot maybe it just needs a little time to ‘rest’ - both have a small breather, messaging lots can feel quite intense cant it , you guys obviously get on really well and have really clicked so just try and think of it that way than hes playing games or anything, maybe hes worried about messing it up with you somehow, maybe hes scared of being too much ir two kittle now hes plain old freaked himself out lol so just keep being your sweet funny self, and all will be well im sure 😇
Nothing more from mr work but we dont text each other... he just pops up and starts messaging on the work messenger every now and then, id say we have started talking more regularly but its a slooooow one with him.
Mr physical has messaged today 🙂 which is nice as he has a busy job (hence the name) one where you cant really have your phone out at all so im quite impressed he messaged me mid morning! We’ve matched before a couple of times over the last year but never spoken so its quite cool he's actually conversing x

@pineappleonpizzaornot I agree with Shayelle about pulling back a bit. Has he been in touch yet today?

@bangheadhere40 Hopefully he'll live up to your daydreams a

That's great about Mr Physical @Shayelle2009! Hopefully it keeps going :)

The nerves are kicking in about tomorrow morning now.. I hope I like him, even a little bit. Just to prove to myself I'm not dead inside at least!

Thank you again ladies, yes he has sent a couple of messages and apologised for being "quiet" today as he has been in meetings, I have left a good hour or more before replying, and told him its all fine. Think I just found it a bit odd, that he was the one wanting to talk, and telling me how much he liked me, he has definitely pulled back, so all I can do is go with it for now, but if I think something is out of place or he isnt being honest then I will say something.
Youre right messaging all the time can be intense, but with lockdown etc, messaging is all we have, if it dies off then it doesnt look good for it developing into a meet.

Ooooo fab news with Mr Physical @Shayelle2009, hope he carries on!

Eeek @OutingMyself exciting!! What are you going to wear for it?? Ive not been on a walking date so wouldn't know how to dress for it!

I guess all you can do @pineappleonpizzaornot is just sit back and see what he does.. you dont need this unsettledness though do you, its been a little up and down hasnt it, as he dithered about with the phone call the first time? It shouldnt be a drama should it.

Maybe some it is me, I dont know? When we talked on the phone, it became clear we have both been badly hurt, and our last relationships kind of flipped our lives on its arse, maybe we are just both wary.

Anyway.....enough about Mr Homeless, what will be will be.
@OutingMyself - Im so excited for you....you will like him! I can feel it

Im sure you haven't done anything wrong!! x

Hey @Shayelle2009...started chatting last Sunday. Been in about constant comms since! Meeting next weekend. I've had more photos yes and still all good.

Not heard his voice but he's very consistent with messaging and polite which makes a fucking change 😄

We've both said we have a good feeling about each other, I do! I hope I'm not proved completely wrong

I’m new to this, recently divorced. Just wanted to know if there are any code words or names? I don’t live in a particularly diverse area but roughly every 1 in 10 men on match seem to be called ‘Pedro’ in my area. Is this code for something?

@PishFood What do you mean by code words? Codes for what?

Thanks @Shayelle2009 and @pineappleonpizzaornot

I think I'm just going to wear jeans, converse and some kind of cleavage showing top under my coat.

I've come on my fricking period, which is super annoying.

Not because I'm planning on shagging him! Just don't want the pains on my walk.

As in is ‘Pedro’ code for someone that just wants a one night stand? It just struck me as odd that there were so many ‘Pedros’! I don’t want a serious relationship myself, just someone to spend time with once a week or so.