Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

Thanks ladies....I agree!

*,was 10 minutes

@Isitreally7777 That's brilliant! I was so sure he was a catfish after all these times. Hope it works out for you both.

@Eesha thank you. I kind of started thinking that too, I even mentioned it to him a couple of weeks ago when he cancelled again. Two of my best friends were equally shocked when I said I had met him as this time I only told my housemate I was meeting him.

I'm not sure how to play this one as he isn't ready for a relationship (my opinion as well as his) but we clicked instantly and chatted non-stop.

The funny thing is one of his daughters has the same name as me, one has the same name as my cat and the other has the same name as the neighbour's cat (I've never mentioned the cats names to him).

Has he mentioned seeing again? And did he look like his photos?

Having a wobble about spreaders and did i do the right thing. I've been scrolling through all the potatoes and am thinking maybe he was okay after all. Please tell me i did the right thing 😬

@bangheadhere40 - Thats why I havent told Homeless to do one yet, as I know what will be waiting on the apps! But you did it for your reasons, and I am sure it was the right one, I couldnt be bothered with my phone going off every 5 mins, luckily Homeless doesnt do that, he just doesnt really make me laugh, he is quite serious, but maybe he is just on his best behavior.....I like sarcasm and witt, and he doesnt seem to have any, so I will most likely be following down the same route as you and spreaders!

So pleased you met CG @Isitreally7777 - have you spoke since??

@pineappleonpizzaornot yes this morning but now my head is fucked as I like him, get the feeling he likes me but is no where near ready and that has scared him. He messaged earlier to say he isn't in the right place right now and needs to get his life and head sorted and needs to focus on himself. I've literally just sat in my car crying as I'm so frustrated and don't know what to do as I feel I've let myself get hurt.

Awww @Isitreally7777-I am so sorry you are hurting, bloody men!
I suppose he is being honest with you though. What is his living situation now? Im not sure what to say to make you feel any better. Maybe now you should limit contact with him before you get hurt anymore. My ex made it clear he didnt want a relationship anymore, but carried on sleeping with me - he was cruel as he knew I wanted more, and I thought I could change his mind via sex......it didnt work and I just made myself feel worthless, I wish I had just said a big fat "fuck you" to him! - I know its hard

to you @Isitreally7777 xx its sad that all this guy seems to do is bring you pain.
Dont doubt yourself @bangheadhere40 do you really want all that hassle again? You didnt even fancy him.

I agree with @Shayelle2009 Banghead, we shouldnt feel like we should "make do" with a guy we dont fancy just because they arent vulgar towards us.....we need more! A spark! You have done the right thing

Hi @pineappleonpizzaornot 😊 hope your hangover’s gone 😆 its a pity homeless is lacking in the banter department isnt it. What if hes funnier in real life though?
Why is it so hard to find a guy that ticks the right boxes. Funny and not a stalker/houndog being the first!!

Thanks @Shayelle2009 - My hangover lasted approx 48 hours .

I feel that I am being unfair to Homeless, he asked on Sat if I thought if he was messaging too much, and he isnt at all, its me.

Maybe I need to meet to know one way or the other! Any new irons for you?

No new irons here...and yeah I guess I didn't fancy him. What if he just took a crap photo though 🤔 no point pondering over it.

Sorry isitreally I hope you are okay. Does he want to keep on with the messaging still? It might be best to cut all contact, I know i would find that really difficult though.

Pineapple at least hes got the insight to ask. What about if you just started taking the pee out of him a little bit.. see if he comes back with the banter? Maybe hes just holding it back in case he offends you 😂 its obvious you have a good sense of humour though so i would have thought that would have come out of him naturally if he was like that too 😕 you dont wanna be bored do you!! It will get boring if theres no jokes!
Oh and a 48 hour hangover is standard practice at our age hey!! 🙈🤣🤣 so gutting!!!

No new irons for me either. Ive done them all to death, completed bumble yday and not one match 😭 feels pointless but if you delete everything theres zero chance of chatting to anyone ?!?! Ive never once got chatted up in the supermarket!

Sorry tell a lie i did have a match, msgd him but he never replied then the 24 hours expired!!

@bangheadhere40 he bugged the living daylights out of you! Remember what my dad said haha! He’d be an ‘irritating pest’ 😬
Just sing that destinys child song.. bug a boo 😂😂 that will help you remember!

Haha yes your Dad is right 😄😄 thanks Shayelles Dad!

Thanks everyone I'm feeling better now. We had a bit of a heart to heart earlier and have decided to be friends. Now I know where I stand it feels much better. I even offered him my plus one to my friend's wedding in Ibiza next year not sure if he will take me up on the offer though😂🤣.

Haha im going yo tell him @bangheadhere40 hes helping us ladies 😂 hes quite good at these things!! Glad i have him for advice!
@Isitreally7777 glad you feel alright but i still think youre going to he sucked in but maybe someone else will come along who you like more x

I can't talk to.my dad about this so if we can ask his advice instead that's really good! 😅

Sure any advice I can ask him for you then go for it 😂

Hey @Angelofdeath 👋 are your kids back to school now? Do you get you see school run man again?
Thing is if I ever do make eyes with a hotty on the high street usually out of shyness I look away immediately 😣 there’s quite a few hotties round where I live, trades.. always eye candy but never a conversation/flirt/swap number 😬