Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

Ahh nice well hope you enjoy the breather. Though some of my friends say theyre missing theirs! 🙂 I did used to read this before I started posting .. be nice just to see a familiar (good looking lol) face i guess!
Im going to start going back to the office 1 day a week in April. Be nice to see mr work and lots of other familiar friendly faces again ☺️

Morning all. I'm thinking of taking a break from OLD for now, the Computer Geek stuff has really hit me and made me realise I don't think I'm really ready for dating, I don't want to put my heart out there to get hurt again. I said to Computer Geek yesterday that I like him but wish I didn't as it makes all of this harder. I've just said to my housemate it's obvious we like each other it's just the wrong time and he isn't ready.

I just wish he wasn't so nice because if he was a dickhead I wouldn't be feeling the way I am. I think the hard part will be keeping our messaging to friend level messages and I'm trying my hardest not to send the usual Good Morning message an that is what I will miss(I've literally just started crying writing that).😭

Aww @Isitreally7777 yeah maybe take some time out, do things that make you feel good, can you spend any time with family etc? Get some hugs? Or just pamper yourself!

Im chatting to one on bumble, ill call him mr show. Thing is its run out of men so i want to delete it, but now cant as got one chat going 😂

Lol @Shayelle2009 - I Mr Show not really making an impression?

@Isitreally7777 - Im sorry you are sad, like Shay says, have a pamper night, even if its just painting your toenails and a facemask! And if you feel youre not ready, then take a break, we are always here for a chat

@Angelofdeath - Maybe School Runners might have been missing you! You never know!

Well, you might think Im a bitch, but I set Homeless a little"test" last night, we were supposed to speak on the phone, but I was getting the impression he was becoming a little "needy", so I swerved the call and said I was talking to a friend on the phone who I havent spoke to for a while, I thought he would be a bit arsey, but he was absolutely fine about it. He messaged this morning, and I asked if he fancied meeting up for a walk on Sat (weather dependent) ........that was 7 hours ago and he hasnt replied lol....serves me right!

He is a really nice guy, and I would feel awful if I just stopped talking to him, so Ive decided I would like to meet him if he hasnt blown me out

Oh....forgot to ask.....has anyone watched "Cat Fish" on Netflix......fucking hell! Its definitely worth a watch!

Hiya @pineappleonpizzaornot! Oooh no not watched that, i was after something to watch as ive just nearly (final episode tonight) finished Suits!!
Has homeless replied yet? Is it unusual him not replying for that long? Yeah can understand why a nightly call would start feeling like a definate chore! Like its a bit predictable isnt it, plus what can you talk about at the minute, lifes pretty mundane isnt it! Good plan suggesting a walk though, hope it happens!
Mr show seems alright, we’vd only exchanged a few messages, but he’s very literate, and hasnt sent any sleaze, so i havent blocked him so far 😂😂 he’s only an inch taller than me... so i hope he is that actual height rather than shorter than me as I am slightly heightest and just wouldnt like a guy whos shorter than me.. hes not hounding with messages either like the last one, gets on with his day then sent me a few messages after work. 👍

Ah pleased showy hasnt been blocked yet and isnt snapping at your heels for an instant reply!
Homeless still hasnt replied lol.....he finishes at 3pm so I shall see what happens, he has only sent me 2 messages today, and I like that. Cant be doing with it every half an hour, and there really isnt much to talk about is there! I did some washing, I did some work, I played with the dog, I ate, I went to bed! Thats it....such stimulating conversation!

Im like you Pineapple I like my breathing space! A guy whos needy is a big NO!! Physical was literally texting me hourly in the end. Even if i didnt reply! Mostly with a photo with a random thing he was doing i just felt like he was constantly looking for some attention /validation or for me to be like wow you're so interesting. All it did was kill off any vibe i had and make me irritable to the point of no return!! Such a shame as on paper the guy was fantastic!!! I still havent unblocked him, scared he’ll start texting again 😳
Thing is everyone has different communication styles dont they. I expect some people love that level of texting! I cant bear it.

It weird really, when I got with my ex, we literally didnt go an hour without being in communication, and we both loved it.

Maybe now I am wiser and older and I do like my breathing space. I am a lot more cynical now too, which isnt always a good thing! I just wish Homeless was bit more "funny", I really need a guy to make me chuckle!!
He has just replied and said yes to a walk, jeez I hope he doesnt look like Shrek!

I used to like my last iron messaging all day BUT the difference was he was funny and I used to laugh.

Maybe its good after youve met them and you know theres chemistry there. The guy had never even met me and it just felt like pressure. So off putting!? Wonder if mr show will msg later! I kind of love being left wondering! happier that way 😂
God i hope homeless doesnt look like shrek either!!! Youve seen a good few clear pics of him havent you?

Yeah, and he sent another tonight, was the best one yet! Completely natural and no trying!
He has just sent me a really nice message...."I am who I am, I'm kind, Im nothing special but I do care and I hope you like me for who I am". I think that's really sweet. I know I need different from what I've had before, and I've also found out tonight he has a kinky side 😂 which I like, but told him things like that need to be kept under wraps until we have met each other (which he totally agreed with!)....but I like the fact there is a bit more than Mr Nice to him!

Awww... thats nice Pineapple as its straight from the heart.. hope it going to be enough for you though as you do need giggles and sillyness too.
Actually reminds me a bit of mr work.. just a very sweet guy... kind of makes you more fond of them doesnt it 💗

So after not messaging Computer Geek yesterday I messaged him this morning telling him how I was feeling sad that I think what happened on Sunday messed up whatever we had, and he did reply and explained he has to sort his life out and that is what he is going to concentrate on. He said meeting me made him realise what a mess he was. Apparently I can still send my good morning messages and pointless gifs so I have my uses even if it is to amuse him.🤣

It's obvious we have a connection just a shame it wasn't a bit further along for him. Our friendship though will hopefully keep bubbling along nicely.

Wtf @Angelofdeath!!! Psychotic weirdo!!!

Hope you feel a bit brighter today @Isitreally7777

@Shayelle2009 thank you. Yes I'm feeling a bit better today, I think knowing that he doesn't want communication to stop (which I thought he did) has made it less painful. I think because yesterday I thought I had to stop all communication I was struggling a bit. Yet again me avoiding the subject for fear of what he would say made me feel shit.

@Angelofdeath WTF what a weirdo.

I redownladed hinge this morning.. within 30 small seconds mr physical had seen me on there and messaged saying he didnt know what hed done to deserve me blocking him... i feel bad but i just deleted it, how can you say nicely that youre too needy for me and you ended up pissing me off with your relentless inane texts? I know im a coward i just cant be arsed having any arguments with random internet men right now. 🙈

I get it @Isitreally7777. Its lovely having that little line of communication on the phone isn't it. He clearly likes it too. I think you'll be ok x

God knows why but I still think about my ex sometimes over 4 years on. We did have many good times. But the bad outweighed the good too much. You wonder if youll ever find that connection again 😭 its fucking tiring dealing with all the shit.

@Angelofdeath mr show never showed... lol so i rebooted bumble again. For literally the 12000000th time. X