Anyone want to join the breakup club?

[Herewegoagain22]

So today, my partner of 3 years ended things with me. Deep down I know it was for the best (for both of us) but it doesn’t stop it hurting like hell. There genuinely is no going back. It’s just going through this horrible period of looking for his texts, wondering what he’s up to, missing him in general and generally just feeling lost that I can’t stand

Funny part is, he can't drive so his mum is actually taking him to look for me!😱

@MotherHaryy I'm feeling really concerned for you now after saying you've escaped a DV situation and what he is doing now is literally stalking and harassing you. Can you not get the police involved, he sounds dangerous x

@anditgoeson thank you! I will order that. Need a book to take my mind off things and that sounds perfect x

I've woken today feeling OK ish- the killer part for me was that morning waking up feeling when your stomach drops and you remember everything that has happened- I don't have that anymore thank God- although I sometimes just wake and feel fatigued at the thought of another day to get through!
Slightly worried about the weekend too- it feels like a big chunk of time to fill!

I genuinely just think I'm just scared for the future now without my ex, he's all iv known, I'm only young, I have my whole life ahead of me but it's just totally different now.. just need to get over the fear

@wow1111

I genuinely just think I'm just scared for the future now without my ex, he's all iv known, I'm only young, I have my whole life ahead of me but it's just totally different now.. just need to get over the fear

This is how I feel too. 12 years together since I was 16 so I literally have no adult life or experience without him in it. It's the evenings with nobody to talk to, and the empty bed when you just really want a cuddle. The hardest part is knowing how well we still get on, we can chat for hours and love all the same things so it seems so stupid being apart. I genuinely believe we are soulmates.

@wow1111

I genuinely just think I'm just scared for the future now without my ex, he's all iv known, I'm only young, I have my whole life ahead of me but it's just totally different now.. just need to get over the fear

I feel the same- although he is not all I've known- but I did think he was the last one/ the happy ending and our future looked brilliant- I am 46 so I am worried I am too old to meet anyone else. I miss him, but I also miss the surety of being in a relationship- it made me feel secure

I was doing well for a few days but this morning woke up feeling irritated and down at my ex for just walking off like I never existed. It’s hard when you’re the one to give more to the relationship and then you’re discarded like an old toy. I know for a fact he isn’t suffering like I am, he’s away back to his friends and family, breaking lockdown rules and drinking, that makes me even more annoyed at myself for being so upset over all of this when he isn’t even bothered and hasn’t been for months, even before the split. I can sympathise with the morning ‘sinking’ feeling. I’m weeks in and it can still happen a couple of times a week.

Saturday is usually his ‘wine/beer’ night so I hope he doesn’t reach out this weekend like he has the last two after a drink as it really isn’t fair on my journey to healing. It’s all breadcrumbs anyway, and last week he sent a message and then immediately deleted it...so of course I over analysed what it could be for days. Not this weekend though....I hope 🙄.

Rant over.

I hope you are all doing ok today and have some self care things planned for the weekend

I get it, my ex has no house, no car, no money. I was the one who put so much into the relationship and I'm the one holding down the house and earning double what he does, how can he just walk away and leave it all behind without a second thought.

My DS is away to my ex's sister for a sleepover as I have a long and busy day planned tomorrow. I have just arrived home after dropping him off so will clean the house a bit, light some candles, bring my duvet through to the sofa, order some food and watch some trash TV. Ex watches my instagram stories like a hawk so I like to post happy pictures on there to show that I'm doing fine by myself.

My stbxh is away tonight so I'll be ordering take away too
No doubt he'll be off getting shitfaced

Can I join you? Escaped from a nasty relationship a few weeks ago( my thread is on here with gory details..) Feeling up one minute, rubbish the next. Finding it so hard to fill the time and get motivated. I've started over loads of times in my life...and here I am yet again....

@meanwhilebacktobasics yup I hear ya
I really don't think I'll bother again

Im laughing today, ex came to pick the dogs up and I was happy as anything and he still seemed very snappy and stressed.. and he said I caused him being unhappy.. just proves doesn't it sometimes that it is genuinely the men unhappy in themselves and they blame it on the partners .. feel happier today knowing i am glowing (still having down days as I thought we was set for life)

@meanwhilebacktobasics welcome to our breakup club, it is growing by the day! But we are all here for each other. I think it’s tough to be motivated during a pandemic anyway, let alone going through the aftermath of a relationship ending. Take your time, everyday will be different. I had a rubbish morning then a better afternoon. Treated myself to a Chinese, ate half of it, only to realise the chicken was WAAAY under cooked and very pink. So I reckon I’ll be filling my time on the toilet tonight 😂

Ive matched on bumble tonight with someone from my younger days who I always had a crush on. Likelihood is that it will go nowhere but it's filling my mind with giddy thoughts and helping take my mind off things. Hope you're all having a peaceful Friday night x

@Rodeodown am tentatively thinking about OLD for when lockdown is lifted. Which apps would you recommend? Good luck with the match!

@ThisTooShallPassOneDay I would recommend Bumble too. And Tinder, largely because it has a bigger population of people. I’ve never had any good experiences with POF, but that’s just me.

Hi can I join please?
5 weeks in after an 8 year relationship, still in touch as young son together.
Ran on adrenaline for first few weeks because he was a compulsive liar and serial cheat so was glad to see the back of him but starting to feel so lonely now.

Hi @The4ks welcome to the thread

Today a mutual friend of mine and ex got in touch and we spent a socially distanced afternoon together which was actually pretty lovely, Ex DP informed me today that his sister is coming up tomorrow (well today) to collect some of his stuff before he moves fully on Monday, can’t think of anything worse at the moment then seeing her and crying (we always got on well and have text since the break up but I hate to feel weak)

Glad I have found my people! But sorry we are all going through this.
What are you all doing to fill the time this weekend? I find it really hard,thinking how many hours there are.
So far I have decided to have a pamper session with all the stuff I got for Xmas but not used yet and start one of the many self help books I mass ordered ( Possibly Paul McKennas one on healing a broken heart).
Anyone have inspiration?

I have started filling my weekends with new hobbies.. started meditating, journalling, trying new make up ideas, rollerblading and walking to new places, I have also been in contact with old friends and had some walks with them which has been lovely

A book I absolutely love is good vibes good life and I also listen to the podcast law of attraction changed my life, they're both really good and also helped massively with my anxiety

Well I'll mostly just be looking after dc and doing internet shopping as I need so much new stuff for the house

Ladies we all need to remember, we've got this 💪🏼💗

@Herewegoagain22 thank you! Plan for today is do a bit of research and plan a profile

@meanwhilebacktobasics just heading out for a run now and then think it'll be a pamper and have a few books to read - Louise Redknapp and Rosie Green.