Are there any men who don't cheat....

[Manda2725]

Okay, so I'm feeling a bit down tbh. As per previous thread I just hit rid of my first boyfriend in 10 years who I found out was chatting with women online. My partner prior to this had an affair and left me 7 months pregnant with our second child.
I feel so ready to settle down, get married and do all that stuff but what's the point with all these bloody men and wen who don't give a damn about cheating.
I literally had a message from a guy on my Facebook offering himself on a plate to me (he has a girlfriend)... And tbh it's the last thing I need and just confirms yet again that faithful relationships are hard to come by.
I'm actually giving up and I'm only 40 😔...
I asked the guy why men do this and he said "no man is ever really happy, they are always looking for something better"
That cut my soul deep. Do you guys think there really are decent, faithful men out there who are genuinely happy with what they have.

I have had a lot of men in the house over the years for various jobs in plumbing, appliance repairs etc. They havent all tried it on but a fair few have made it clear that they wouldnt object to a tip "paid in kind". One in particular who we gave the job to as he was a mate of my husbands best friend so knew without a doubt that I was a) married and b) fucking PREGNANT!

Needless to say his work through exDH's BF soon dried up.....

@Toorapid

I've run a house for 30 years, including 2 full renovation projects and numerous tradesmen. I've never had never had anything even vaguely resembling an approach, are you sure you haven't been watching too many dodgy films *@mumieone* ?

I'm with mumieone on this. I've had loads of work done on my house and most tradesmen have tried it on with me in some shape or form

Seychelles
@DeeCeeCherry I'm sure that Hotpoint engineer came to my house as he said exactly the same thing! Creepy isn't it... he must try that line everywhere is goes... Are you in London by any chance?

Bloody hell...! I did report the creep, thought he'd have been sacked.

Yes, I'm in London

My DH’s friend is a shagger. He knows it’s wrong, the rest of their friendship group have no idea and all think he’s really loyal. Which makes it really awkward when some of the other WAGs say what a catch he is in conversation (his wives family don’t like him - they can see through him I’m sure, so one of the women is always jumping to his defence). If his other friends knew there would be a backlash. My DH listens to his occasional confessions - he even lies to my DH then later admits it was worse than he first said. Ie flirting actually means he had full blown sex.

His wife is lovely. A real sweet girl who just wants a family and to settle down. He has strung her along for so long. She had to beg for a proposal, she wants children and he keeps putting her off.

I think he likes the thrill of the chase and enjoys the ego boost that comes with shagging, although he’s paid prostitutes too, but he likes the security of going home to his loyal wife who probably supports him in other areas of his life. I think he’s an insecure boy who needs a mum figure but likes getting his dick wet too.

@DinoHat

My DH’s friend is a shagger. He knows it’s wrong, the rest of their friendship group have no idea and all think he’s really loyal. Which makes it really awkward when some of the other WAGs say what a catch he is in conversation (his wives family don’t like him - they can see through him I’m sure, so one of the women is always jumping to his defence). If his other friends knew there would be a backlash. My DH listens to his occasional confessions - he even lies to my DH then later admits it was worse than he first said. Ie flirting actually means he had full blown sex.

His wife is lovely. A real sweet girl who just wants a family and to settle down. He has strung her along for so long. She had to beg for a proposal, she wants children and he keeps putting her off.

I think he likes the thrill of the chase and enjoys the ego boost that comes with shagging, although he’s paid prostitutes too, but he likes the security of going home to his loyal wife who probably supports him in other areas of his life. I think he’s an insecure boy who needs a mum figure but likes getting his dick wet too.

The irony is that your dh’s friend would be devastated if he found out that his wife was cheating on him

@Lampzade yup. His Dad cheated on his Mum in a similar fashion and he’s NC with his and detests his Dad for how he treated his Mum... the irony is totally lost.

@Lampzade A friend of a friend was a serial shagger. His long suffering wife put up with a lot. She went on to have a fling herself. Her DH was devastated. Like totally, he could not believe it, he had a mini breakdown over it. They soldiered on with the marriage but his wife was on the verge of leaving him when he was diagnosed with aggressive cancer. In between the time they patched up their marriage and the cancer diagnosis he went onto having another serious affair - my friend of a friend also knew the OW as well as the serial shagger. My friend (a bloke) was seriously tempted to tell shagger's wife despite feeling disloyal. He didn't think she should have to nurse him through cancer when she wanted to leave and he had a serious bit on the side she didn't know about. He didn't tell her, he was worried about shagger's kids. All very sordid and complicated. He died unfortunately so his shagging days were over.

@Melange99 he was doing well to be battling terminal cancer and serial shagging.

@TheViewFromDownHere
My Dp is 5ft 2 and we have been together 25 years and before he was with me he had other girlfriends and a long term relationship.
My Ds is 5ft 3 at 22 and i hope his height will not be an issue for him relationship wise.
Op ive met men who have cheated on their partner and men who would never do that
Do i think my partner would cheat?
I would like to say no but you never no

@DinoHat They patched up their marriage, he started the affair with a colleague whom he had known for years, and then after a few months he was diagnosed with cancer. I knew him vaguely through work, always very flirty, on the look out, had a reputation. My friend knew him very well, and his wife and the last OW. So he was on the outside knowing the three different viewpoints of the same scenario. He was tempted to tell his wife but thought his kids were already suffering from the diagnosis, and thought it might split up the marriage making the situation worse for the kids, so didn't. My friend had cancer himself a few years before, which he lived through, so thought it was unfair that the shagger's wife should play nurse when his mate was being unfaithful yet again. Shagger's cancer was aggressive and he did die eventually. OW went to funeral as a colleague. It was awkward, other colleagues knew her other status as his bit on the side.

I’m just relieved there’s no prospect of my washing machine breaking down, granny pants all the way.

God tradesmen either rip you off, patronise you for not being an expert on rockwool, or they behave inappropriately. Or they take a ten minute shit when they've been working for 53 minutes and then charge you for two hours.

@TheViewFromDownHere

Give a short bloke a chance!

Seriously!

Nobody wants us, so we couldn't cheat even if we wanted to!

Ha, my ex husband was short and had little man syndrome. It turned out he would shag anyone with a pulse.

I thought I had hit the jackpot with my current partner, 18 years of blissfull happiness, then we were going through a bad patch whilst I was suffering PND, turns out he needed my attention to validate his own self esteem.

He had a drunk one night stand at a wedding, then went through a very low period coming to terms with the fact he can no longer see himself as a 'good guy' . We stayed together mainly because I was too depressed to leave and in all other respects he is a good partner. Chances are he wont do it again, but I am very open about the fact I will never trust him 100% or devote my life to him again, even 6 years on.

Interestingly a few years later his father was caught out having been unfaithful to his mother throughout their marriage. He was devastated, none of us could believe it.