UK
I took the information off the government website, but I take the knee to people more knowledgeable.
After dealing with similar shit, quite some time ago, I tend to be more pragmatic about Op’s situation.
Here is just one possible and very real, very, very shitty scenario that could happen and why the only advice I would offer is, protect yourself and your children and ring fence your ‘ rights ‘
1.) OW women has baby, husband is found to be in fact, the father after a DNA test.
2.) husband has his name put on the birth certificate to give him parental and visitation rights.
3.) He involves himself in baby’s life.
4.) God forbid, Op and her husband are involved in a fatal accident some eighteen months down the line, but Op’s kids are fine.
5.) Love child has a cast iron right to a third of any assets / monies bequeathed to the children.
6.) OW essentially has control of the ‘ love child’s assets / monies.
Now let’s say Op’s and husband’s property is worth, say £300,000
And the insurance equity is worth £300,000
Then £200,000 or there abouts will go to the ‘ Love child ‘
7.) Guess who will control ‘ Love child’s inheritance ‘ !?
Now most people who get married, have children, build a life, usually plan to leave their assets / monies to their children so they can have a great start in life.
I’m sure Op in her wildest imaginations never thought that the life / assets she and her husband built to eventually leave their children would be split three ways.......
It isn’t just the emotional trauma Op and her children have to deal with, it’s the financial and legal ramifications as well.
I’m pretty sure, as harsh as it sounds, her husband never gave a second thought to Op or her kids when he stuck his dick in the other woman.