What's the worst thing your parents have said to you?

[again2020]

Posting on here for solidarity and to prevent me from venting to anyone in real life.

I've been offered 4 days at work from September, up from my usual 3. My parents used to do a bit of childcare before my daughter went to nursery. I broached the subject with them today about childcare 1 day a week (support bubble) and my dad had a huge rant and lost his temper with me, saying he finds DD hard work and he doesn't enjoy seeing his children or grandchildren and he doesn't have many years left to do what he wants (he's 71). Fair enough, a bit upsetting but I know not everyone wants to be childcare for their grandkids.

He later came and said his children (me and DB) have been a huge disappointment and he wouldn't recommend being a parent to anyone.

So as not to drip feed, DB is a recovering addict. He's getting a lot better though. I'm in a difficult relationship and am on antidepressants. But I don't think we've been terrible children or become terrible people. I'm sat on my own upset waiting for DD to finish playing with my mum and I don't plan on coming back to see them anytime soon.

Handhold, anyone? What's the worst thing a parent has said to you?

“You’ve never been any good with children”. I’m a single mother and worked in a school for years. My mum. She’s probably said 10,000 things like that to me.

On crying after coming out of court (domestic violence from my children’s father) “you’re only crying for yourself. You’re not upset about your children”. My dad. Extremely rare for dad to say nasty things and I’ve no idea why he said it.

And “you’ve had so MANY men”. For my mum. I’d had 2 boyfriends at that point and I’d married one of them!

My Mum grew up with a hyper-critical mother who treated DM like shit her whole life. Consequently DM was a very fragile and negative person who found it hard to be a nurturing parent.

Remember distinctly her (slightly drunk) calling me a bitch one evening because I'd contradicted her (and turned out to be correct.) I came close to walking out that day. I think the only reason I stated was because was going back to Uni for a new term 48 hours later so just stuck it out.

@Hen2018

And “you’ve had so MANY men”. For my mum. I’d had 2 boyfriends at that point and I’d married one of them!

Oh this reminds of another one .

"You're a hooker, but a dumb one because you give it away for free. Smart ones make money out of it."

I'd had several boyfriends but only slept with two and in a long relationship with my second.

to all posters here.
I am completely shocked, saddened and frankly baffled by these awful and unforgivable words spoken to you by your parents.
I really hope that you can find comfort elsewhere but know that for many this means an adult life of heartache, sadness and much worse.
You have my utter sympathy for and outrage at being on the end of such emotional abuse.

"A school trip to Paris is only going to give you unrealistic ideas above your class."

"Whats the good of educating a girl? Your only going to get married and have babies."

And when I said I had no intention of ever having children:-

"You will have what god gives you."

All in 1950s.

I never had children.
I have travelled the world.
I have educated myself to Ph.d standard.

One in the eye for my parents.

Hmmm which one to chose..
'I hope you will never have children'
' every time I look at you.. You remind me of your father.. I hate it'
' I was so disappointed when I saw you after giving, I was convinced they swapped my real daughter'