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- Dissatisfaction with their marriage
It doesn’t take a genius to figure this out. If he is dissatisfied with his marriage, then he’ll seek to find satisfaction elsewhere.
This is just one of the reasons a married man can develop feelings outside his relationship.
For example, if sex with his partner has become tiresome, and the partner is showing no signs to improve or make it better, then he may search for sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
It may have nothing to do with sex, either. Perhaps his wife is neglecting him emotionally, making him feel empty and hollow.
Subconsciously he has worked out that he needs to fill that emotional void somewhere else.
Getting to a point where you want to cheat can be an incredibly difficult and hopeless path, and for many people, the dissatisfaction forces one to travel down this path must be long-term and immense.
We all have needs, and keeping those needs satisfied is an important part of keeping a happy relationship.
- They feel a lack of emotional connection
A key factor for leaving a relationship is feeling unvalued and neglected.
He may want to leave and find someone else to connect with to feel a sense of value within himself.
We all have feelings, and if his wife is not validating those feelings, then staying in the marriage may make him feel worse. Men want to feel appreciated and loved as well.
According to social psychologist, Dylan Selterman “lack of love is a powerful motivation — it’s definitely one of the stronger ones.”
It’s a good idea to talk to your husband about how they are feeling in the relationship.
You might think things are great, but how does your partner really feel? Are there areas of your relationship that could be filled by someone else?
You don’t have to be all things to your partner, but a sense of support, love, and understanding is important.
If your partner is in a situation where they unload their feelings on someone else because they feel like they can’t talk to you, the likelihood of that relationship progressing into infidelity increases.
- He doesn’t feel needed or essential
A surefire reason that a husband may leave their wife for another woman is if he no longer feels essential to his wife.
Perhaps his wife is an independent woman that has her own life on lock and doesn’t need a man in her life to make it complete.
You’re probably wondering: How could this possibly be a problem for a man?
According to the “hero instinct” theory coined by relationship expert James Bauer, men have an innate desire to feel needed and essential to their woman.
In other words, they want to feel like a hero to their woman.
But if his wife isn’t giving him this feeling, then he may seek that feeling elsewhere.
I know it sounds ridiculous. Women these days don’t need a man to be her hero.
And I couldn’t agree more.
But the truth is, this is deeply rooted in male biology. Men have a thirst for the respect and admiration from their woman.
They want to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives and provide for and protect her.
James Bauer says that it’s up to women to bring this instinct to the fore in men.
While this desire is usually innate in a man, if his wife isn’t providing him any opportunity to act like a hero to his wife, then he may lose interest.
To learn how to trigger the hero instinct in your man, check out his free video here. James provides several unique tips to make him feel like a hero.
Yes, you’re an independent woman and that’s great. This isn’t about losing that side of you.
In a completely authentic way, it’s just about making the man feel more needed and essential in the relationship.
Here’s a link to Jame Bauer’s video again.
Some ideas are game-changers. For relationships, I think this is one of them.
- Different drives in the bedroom
This is a common reason relationships end.
After all, if one partner finds themselves wanting it all the time, and the other doesn’t want it at all, then that’s obviously a problem.
According to Dr. Rachel Sussman, a licensed therapist and relationship expert, “action in the bedroom is really important, and it shouldn’t be something you avoid having”.
If you’re in the early days in your relationship, then it’s normal to want each other all the time.
After that period wears off, it’s natural for that desire to taper off, but it shouldn’t taper off completely.
According to Sussman, “sex is a good barometer for how the relationship is going” and that “either side of the spectrum isn’t good.”
So, how can you work out whether your sex life is the real issue in your relationship?
According to Carol Queen in Bustle, your relationship shouldn’t be too dependent on sex that “you don’t seem to have a connection beyond the sexual.”
But on the other hand, lack of attraction shouldn’t cause emotional issues in the relationship, either. If it does, then clearly there’s a problem.
However, if you’re experiencing issues in the bedroom, it doesn’t mean that you must end the relationship right away.
It’s important to try different things to see if you can work through it.
But if you feel like you have tried all that you can and the issues aren’t improving, then he might be thinking that it’s time to end the relationship.