I'm not sure whether this is the correct thread so apologies if it's not. I was looking for some impartial advice as my friends / family agree with me so good to get an outsiders perspective.
I've been homeschooling my DD7 since Christmas whilst working full time from home. I'm technically a key worker but am able to sort of do my job ok from home. DD7 is massively struggling with her schoolwork to the point where she has no idea what is going on in her live lessons. Her classmates don't seem to be having the same problem. I'm also really falling behind in my own work as I'm constantly trying to help DD (my line manager pulled me up on this last week).
DD's school have rung me and said they're concerned that DD is going to fall too far behind (she's starting middle school in September). They have said that technically because I'm a key worker there is a place for her at school to attend part or full time (there are hardly any kids in).
I have been with my DP for 3 years although we do not live together. He came round last night and I filled him in on the above. He got really cross and said that if I let DD go to school then he will no longer be seeing me. He does have a child who is currently vulnerable (who lives with their mother who continues to see all her friends and family despite this). His child currently has Covid but luckily is ok.
So I'm now in a situation where either my DD falls massively behind at school and I struggle to work but DP will continue to see me, or I keep her off and we keep on as we are and he will continue to come over. I really don't know what's for the best (sorry this was quite long).
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DP won't see me due to DD
Potplant32 · 26/01/2021 09:12
[quote Potplant32]@FantasticButtocks DD had a great day, thank you 
DP hasn't been seeing his DC whilst they were positive.
Yes I did respond to his text eventually. Debated whether to question his logic as it makes no sense, but in the end decided to keep it simple and along the lines of 'no problem at all!' 
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Well done.
Any response?
Good. I expect he didn’t know what to make of that one!
Well done OP.
Perhaps take this time reflect on exactly how much this man, who clearly has zero regard for your child is actually adding to your life.
So delighted that you have put your child first.
[quote Potplant32]@FantasticButtocks DD had a great day, thank you
DP hasn't been seeing his DC whilst they were positive.
Yes I did respond to his text eventually. Debated whether to question his logic as it makes no sense, but in the end decided to keep it simple and along the lines of 'no problem at all!' [/quote]
Fantastic news! 
There's NOTHING that makes us happier than when our children are happy
And yay for all those box sets! 🎉
Thank you all! I could have cried when I saw her happy little face coming out of school
I think what's pretty telling is that DP hasn't once asked how DD has got on at school since she's been back (he's usually interested in her but obviously can't get past his sulk).
@Potplant32
I think what's pretty telling is that DP hasn't once asked how DD has got on at school since she's been back (he's usually interested in her but obviously can't get past his sulk).
potplant he may have some good sides but this emotional bullying and emotional blackmail is not on. He's not a goodún; you can be happier with a better one!
so glad your daughter could go back though :)
@Potplant32
I think what's pretty telling is that DP hasn't once asked how DD has got on at school since she's been back (he's usually interested in her but obviously can't get past his sulk).
Wow that’s ugly. Your poor DD to have someone so emotionally cold and deficient in her life. He doesn’t care about her at all does he? His own irrational pique trumps the real life needs of a young child.
@Potplant32
I think what's pretty telling is that DP hasn't once asked how DD has got on at school since she's been back (he's usually interested in her but obviously can't get past his sulk).
Sometimes you don’t see who someone really is until the bad times. He’s showing you. Is it worth continuing with such a selfish, sulky man??
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