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Unable to contact by boyfriend.

262 replies

Penny15 · 12/01/2021 11:55

Ive been in a long distance relationship for 7 years.

Over the last few weeks I’ve found it incredibly difficult to contact my boyfriend. We arrange times to ring each other so when I try he hasn’t been picking up for hours and hours on end. He had never done this until a few weeks ago. We never text we always call each other a few times throughout the day and talk for a hour at night before I go to sleep.

I’ve been unable to contact my boyfriend since 7.30 last night when he said he was going to sleep. This is highly unlike him as he’s usually up till 2/3am. I tried to call him at 10pm and he answered but didn’t speak then the call disconnected. He said he would ring me when he woke up. I woke up at 7 expecting a missed call and nothing so I tried to call and it’s ringing and ringing no answer. So I had a look on Amazon and he was watching Amazon prime he had watched 4 episodes so I kept trying and no answer. From 10am his activity on Amazon prime has stopped and his phones still ringing and ringing. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should be worried. I’m not close to his family but I’ve tired contacting his mum and she’s also not answering and I’ve messaged his sister who hasn’t responded but I expected that. Help me...

OP posts:
RickiTarr · 12/01/2021 18:26

@freezedriedromance

So at 10am he stopped watching Amazon Prime, according to your post, and 2 hours later you're posting on mumsnet about how you can't get hold of him. Is this a wind up?
This is why we’re all inventively placemarking. Wink
Coriandersucks · 12/01/2021 18:29

Busted

PaigeMatthews · 12/01/2021 18:30

This is so strange. If you are worried he is depressed and uncontactable, you could call the police. Or his dad.

Instamaticgreenery · 12/01/2021 18:31

I hope he's ok.

OhCaptain · 12/01/2021 18:39
Hmm
AngelDelightUK · 12/01/2021 18:46

Hope everything is ok

charliespie · 12/01/2021 18:48

Hi all, I’ve drove over to bury I’m currently sat at his mums house be are both desperately trying to contact him now with no response

He doesn't live with his mum though Confused

it’s now been 22 hours since he last contacted me and 19 hours since he was last active on social media

You said he was on Amazon prime until 10am Confused

SnoozyLou · 12/01/2021 18:52

It doesn't make a lot of sense driving all that way and going to his mum's house instead of his.

Dery · 12/01/2021 18:55

Sorry, OP, but now you’re being silly. If you’re concerned about him, drive to where he lives, not somewhere else.

Butterymuffin · 12/01/2021 18:56

Now you're there, you may as well go the whole hog and call at his house. The look on his face when he opens the front door will tell you what you need to know.

unbotheredbutbewildered · 12/01/2021 18:58

He’s an hour away and you’re describing it as long distance?! Jesus. I’d kill for an hour...

In seriousness though OP, if he’s 24/25 like you’ve said you’re probably suffocating him acting like this. And driving to his mums in a pandemic? Why? What does you being there achieve? Let his parents handle it from their homes and do it from yours.

I’m sure it will all be fine Smile

AcornAutumn · 12/01/2021 19:00

You need to go his house and his dad's

Anywhere really

Sorry OP

I spent three days driving round trying to find a friend who had been okay and then overdosed on heroin. Not just me, his parents, a couple of other friends. Someone eventually broke in and found him in his bathroom.

He's now about 20 years clean, so don't panic, just take the logical steps. Crossing everything for you.

AlternativePerspective · 12/01/2021 19:01

I can guess how this one is going to pan out...

Welcome to MN btw.

Nefbachmorf · 12/01/2021 19:02
Hmm
Slub · 12/01/2021 19:03

Fingers crossed

Wannabegreenfingers · 12/01/2021 19:06

If this is genuine I hope he is OK, but I suspect you've been dumped.

LionelMessy · 12/01/2021 19:07

To summarise:
your partner of 7 years hasn't used Amazon tv since 10 am,
so you broke covid rules and drove an hour to his Mum's,
even though he lives with his Dad?

Is this post some sort of experiment?

Blueskytoday06 · 12/01/2021 19:07

F

isthismylifenow · 12/01/2021 19:14

Crikey I thought he was overseas and uncontactable. Meanwhile he's an hour away.

Not sure why youre at his mums though as you said he doesn't live there.

tenlittlecygnets · 12/01/2021 19:15

Oh OP, where is your dignity?? If he wanted to see you or talk to you, he would contact you!!

He's been hard to contact for weeks but you know he's been online. He answered the phone to you last night but didn't speak.

He doesn't want to talk to you!

You're breaking lockdown. Go back home.

tenlittlecygnets · 12/01/2021 19:16

And don't be so needy. Stop calling him! Stop checking where he is and what he's doing! I'd hate that.

Jellybum2019 · 12/01/2021 19:20

Hope he’s okay!

Plussizejumpsuit · 12/01/2021 19:21

Have you been to his house? It's a bit worrying he won't answer to his mum either.

classiestgal · 12/01/2021 19:21

Any update?

HelloThereMeHearties · 12/01/2021 19:23

@Plussizejumpsuit

Have you been to his house? It's a bit worrying he won't answer to his mum either.
She's an addict who he doesn't get on with, and now his fiancee is with her hassling him.

Why, exactly, can't you go to his house? Confused

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