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Unable to contact by boyfriend.

262 replies

Penny15 · 12/01/2021 11:55

Ive been in a long distance relationship for 7 years.

Over the last few weeks I’ve found it incredibly difficult to contact my boyfriend. We arrange times to ring each other so when I try he hasn’t been picking up for hours and hours on end. He had never done this until a few weeks ago. We never text we always call each other a few times throughout the day and talk for a hour at night before I go to sleep.

I’ve been unable to contact my boyfriend since 7.30 last night when he said he was going to sleep. This is highly unlike him as he’s usually up till 2/3am. I tried to call him at 10pm and he answered but didn’t speak then the call disconnected. He said he would ring me when he woke up. I woke up at 7 expecting a missed call and nothing so I tried to call and it’s ringing and ringing no answer. So I had a look on Amazon and he was watching Amazon prime he had watched 4 episodes so I kept trying and no answer. From 10am his activity on Amazon prime has stopped and his phones still ringing and ringing. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should be worried. I’m not close to his family but I’ve tired contacting his mum and she’s also not answering and I’ve messaged his sister who hasn’t responded but I expected that. Help me...

OP posts:
Lougle · 12/01/2021 17:21

Does he live with his Mum?

Windinmyhair · 12/01/2021 17:23

Drive to where he lives?

Did you say that was with his Dad?

ThisTooShallBe · 12/01/2021 17:25

I hope he’s ok OP 💐

LST · 12/01/2021 17:27

I hope he is ok op. I'd be going out of my mind too. Ignore the unhelpful posters on here.

RandomMess · 12/01/2021 17:28
Thanks
ShalomToYouJackie · 12/01/2021 17:34

I'd drive to where he actually lives rather than his mums and go and check he's okay

ShalomToYouJackie · 12/01/2021 17:35

Hope you're alright OP Flowers

Turnedouttoes · 12/01/2021 17:39

Why didn’t you drive to his dads if that’s where he lives?

RickiTarr · 12/01/2021 17:42

@Turnedouttoes

Why didn’t you drive to his dads if that’s where he lives?
This.

Even if you don’t go on with his dad. You’re worried, so check.

Heartbeat3 · 12/01/2021 17:44

Hope he's ok xx

Mum4Fergus · 12/01/2021 17:46

Drive to his house OP, if he doesn't answer door then report your concerns to the Police, and message him that you have done so. If he is just ghosting you that might stir a response.

Itstimetoquit · 12/01/2021 17:51

Hoping he's ok x

Lougle · 12/01/2021 17:52

This is very confusing. Why wouldn't you go to where he lives? You've driven an hour to sit in someone else's house.

seensome · 12/01/2021 17:54

If it was a sudden disappearance I would worry too but he's not been that available over the last few weeks, I think he no longer wants to be contacted by you, I hate to say this but he maybe with he's with someone else. Leave a message to say you will contact the police for his safety if you don't hear back by this evening, hopefully you'll get some sort of response from him.

vanillandhoney · 12/01/2021 17:56

@Penny15

Hi all, I’ve drove over to bury I’m currently sat at his mums house be are both desperately trying to contact him now with no response it’s now been 22 hours since he last contacted me and 19 hours since he was last active on social media
But he was active on Amazon at 10am this morning according to your OP?
imalmosthere · 12/01/2021 18:01

He lives at his dads so why did you go to his mums to try contact him? Drive to his dads!

2020wish · 12/01/2021 18:09

Hope he’s ok

tigerlily20 · 12/01/2021 18:12

Has he been smoking since he's been off work? My ex used to smoke all day everyday and he'd be withdrawn, stay awake all night gaming/watching tv, sleep most of the day, maybe that's what's going on? Or he's with someone else.

3rdNamechange · 12/01/2021 18:14

@Penny15

Hi all, I’ve drove over to bury I’m currently sat at his mums house be are both desperately trying to contact him now with no response it’s now been 22 hours since he last contacted me and 19 hours since he was last active on social media
I thought he was on fb this morning? I'll say the same - why are you sitting at his Mum's?
OhCaptain · 12/01/2021 18:20

It’s no good being at his mum’s! He doesn’t live there!

If you’re worried you’ll either have to go over to his actual home or call the local police to do a welfare check.

freezedriedromance · 12/01/2021 18:21

So at 10am he stopped watching Amazon Prime, according to your post, and 2 hours later you're posting on mumsnet about how you can't get hold of him. Is this a wind up?

Whiskysoda · 12/01/2021 18:23

Change your password for Amazon prime. I bet he gets in touch then! Don’t give him the new password though sweetheart, he’s checked out.

sijjy · 12/01/2021 18:24

Hope everything is ok.

Lougle · 12/01/2021 18:24

So you've driven from a place with 1086 cases of CV per 100,000, to a place with 476 cases per 100000, to his Mum's house, then potentially on to his actual house, because he hasn't used Amazon since 10 am.

Honestly, I'd welcome you with open arms Hmm

Justcallmemamma · 12/01/2021 18:24

Please go to his dad's, he might be there

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