I think there’s another phone

[Dissillusioned]

I may be paranoid but a couple of things lately have me thinking dp may have a secret phone.
I’ve looked but can’t find one, so I could be totally wrong but my gut is telling me to keep looking.
What I’m asking is, those that have found a secret phone, where was it hidden? I’m hoping there’s places I haven’t thought to look. I’m also hoping I’m wrong and just paranoid as I do have form for overthinking things, but I’m watching dp like a hawk right now.

If you have sky broadband and log into your account and do a broadband Chk and see all devices active

It doesn't matter now whether the phone exists or not, or why it exists. You have utterly no trust in your partner. No relationship can exist where there is no trust. Equally, if my partner were searching the house and my belongings because they didn't trust me, I'd be making an exit strategy anyway. I'd be furious.

Next time you hear the buzzing start searching for it in front of him., "I'm sure I can hear a mobile in here" kind of thing. His reaction will tell you a lot. The phone will definitely be there so that's your chance to narrow it down.

On top of a wardrobe?

Sellotaped underneath a chair / the seat of the car ?

In the hot press ?

You'll drive yourself mad. I did. Get rid of him if the trust is gone. Your gut isn't wrong

I think the advice to leave the relationship is a bit premature. Surely the OP needs an explanation first? It might be a gambling addiction?

Depending on how often the person would need to use it, it would need to be easily accessible at a moment's notice, be portable to get and go, and a location that's not Normally thought of or considered, I'd check the food tins, for those fake tin ones.

It’s not a duel sim as when he gets up his normal phone is charging in the bedroom.
Nothing as yet, he didn’t get up last night.
However I’ve sort of booby trapped a few doors to see what ones are opened in the night, if any.
I keep thinking back to his bizarre glasses behaviour. There’s definitely something he doesn’t want me to see to act like that.
Look I know everyone saying just leave as there’s no trust, but I want to know this. I also know I can be paranoid and I’m not giving up a relationship based on a hunch, I’m the sort who needs proof. If I didn’t love him, that’s different and I’d just leave but I do love him.

How long are you prepared to put yourself through this torture? Surely it would be easier to just speak to him? You sneaking around trying to catch him out is surely as bad - particularly if you are just being paranoid and there is nothing to hide? Maybe he is finding your behaviour weird and out of sorts and is wondering what you are hiding?

I just can't get my head around how it is deemed better to sneak around than communicate about it openly?

@SecondStageIgnition

I think the advice to leave the relationship is a bit premature. Surely the OP needs an explanation first? It might be a gambling addiction?

Lol surely a rambelling addiction is as bad as another woman. Actually, worse. Cause for all you know theyve gambled away your house lol.

*gambling.
Though rambling may also have its drawbacks xD

I understand that need OP.

If it's texts it'll be difficult... could it just be porn?
I think your kidding yourself if you think he's not using it. All men use porn.

Men generally only have second phones because they are banging prostitutes. They may be having affairs too but the prostitute shagging is normally the main reason.

There are thousands operating today across the UK even though we are in lockdown.

I can pretty much rule out prostitutes. I really don’t think it’s that because we do have a very active sex life and he hasn’t had the chance to go out and see any.
If anything it’s an emotional affair/texting it a dating site or may be open but I don’t think it’s porn either. Not all men look at porn.

Right…
Ok check online broadband to see if something is connected.
If nothing comes up then he may have it on data. Then he probably has Bluetooth on. Then try to connect something as if using Bluetooth. All the devices near with Bluetooth on will pick up. Try walking round the house to see if it picks up being closer.

places it maybe hidden
Somewhere Accessible.
Somewhere you don’t go often (his underpants draw, sock draw, try taking the bottom draw out to see if it is hidden there.)
Car (definitely look here)
Shoes
Bathroom draws (taking a look when having a shit )
Work bag
Under chairs

ill find more!!!

Just occurred to me that my friends dad was a secret alcoholic and he was hiding cans behind the bath panel.....

Have you actually looked in his glasses cases or close by to that area?

It could be up his bum.

Are you sure he's not swapping sims over rather than there being a second phone? The sim could be in the wallet/glasses case he seemed to panic about?

Personally I think it's porn. He knows you don't agree with it is hiding it from you. He's using it in the downside bathroom...

OP any heathy male with access to the internet is watching porn. You're only kidding yourself if you think he isn't.

@Changi 😂😂😂

Did you check whether any devices are/were connected to the WiFi?

There is no strange device connecting to the internet. There were a few random IP numbers, device not identifed which had connected but I think that may be out wifi extender, but not sure. Or could be the TV as thats not listed anywhere.
@LittlefairyMum sorry I don't agree that all healthy men connected to the internet are watching porn.
I'm not ruling it out though, but I don't think its that.
@Changi I'll check there next!

Behind a panel in the bathroom ...

I hope it's only porn and nothing else.

Would you put a voice recorder into the room where you think he's going ? See if he's taking ?

Talking