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I think there’s another phone

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Dissillusioned · 08/01/2021 09:56

I may be paranoid but a couple of things lately have me thinking dp may have a secret phone.
I’ve looked but can’t find one, so I could be totally wrong but my gut is telling me to keep looking.
What I’m asking is, those that have found a secret phone, where was it hidden? I’m hoping there’s places I haven’t thought to look. I’m also hoping I’m wrong and just paranoid as I do have form for overthinking things, but I’m watching dp like a hawk right now.

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Dissillusioned · 25/01/2021 09:13

Hi all, There is really nothing to update at the moment.
Its gone quiet on the midnight walk front and no further buzzing. Only thing might be that the charger appeared to be moved, but that could have been it being knocked or something.
I'm still keeping an eye to be honest, but unless anything else suspicious happens not much to report.
He may or may not have had one. If he did he is leaving it alone for now or came to his senses and got rid. Or there really wasn't one.
I will of course update should there be any development.

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Mintyt · 25/01/2021 15:24

Thanks good to hear I and pleased things have calmed down

chuffedasbuttons · 25/01/2021 23:24

Still here when you need us x

Loushome · 26/01/2021 21:44

Or if you need us xx

Hawkins001 · 26/01/2021 23:03

This is why we need x-ray Google's with variable zoom.

Boomboombroom · 28/01/2021 22:02

I’m glad everything is ok OP

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Dissillusioned · 02/02/2021 15:20

Not sure if this is anything to report, I'm still looking into things but I located the technical logs of our modem and it shows connections of devices and also what looks like attempted connections. So I'm thinking devices that have been connected before and so when in range 'look for' the wifi but don't actually connect, probably because password changed or something.

Anyway, dp's phone shows up on there, but then the exact same name phone also shows up but has been issued a different device ID. So think ID 24 and 28. The device ID shows in the logs along with the name of the device.
They show as trying to connect or connecting at different times to each other and the one with ID 28 seems to coincide connecting when I'm not around. I've kept an eye the last few days and noted when I've been at the shops or cooking dinner or putting lo to bed. I'm not jumping to conclusions again yet because it could be the same device issuing a different mac address (as iphones apparently do this) to prevent them being tracked on networks.

So my next step is to disable private mac address mode on his iphone and then see if the 2 devices still show up as 2 devices.

Interestingly though, and on a totally seperate issue. The phone name and ID of my eldest dd boyfriend has shown up as connecting or trying to connect between 3 and 4 am on a couple of mornings! So now I have a completely different situation to deal with! Doesn't look like it stays connected long so hes either just randomly sat outside the house doing.... what? or shes sneeking out, isn't she? All I bloody need. Bloody teenagers.

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Notverygrownup · 02/02/2021 16:15

Sorry, I know that it's a serious issue, but had to smile at you catching out your dd and her boyfriend, as by product of this whole situation.

Of course, you can't explain to them how you have caught them, can you, so are going to have to work out how to let them know that too!

Gobbeldegook · 10/02/2021 19:02

How are things @Dissillusioned

Mummapenguin20 · 10/02/2021 20:27

Teenagers Shock could be sat outside talking to her

still1414141 · 10/02/2021 21:12

OP just one other thing to think about if no one else has said it - my abusive ex used to go through all my things trying to find a secret phone or evidence - there was none as i had no secret phone and there would be no evidence as i wasn't being unfaithful - it is one of things I found abusive about his behaviour - the lack of respect it showed. If I lacked trust in my partner to the extent you lack trust, I would see it as the end of the relationship rather than a justification for going through their things and trying to catch them out. Trust is trust. Even if you find proof that there is no phone, you don't trust him and that will not change, you do not have emotional intimacy with him and you need to consider whether this is what you want from a relationship.

justanotherneighinparadise · 10/02/2021 21:21

Surely that’s him using two SIM cards in his phone? There was a thread last year where the husband had two SIMs and the wife found out as sometimes she was blocked on WhatsApp and sometimes she wasn’t. When he had his other SIM in he made sure she was blocked but his kids phones were still showing him as available.

LemmysAceCard · 11/02/2021 09:16

How are you holding up OP? I know what it is like to live with the anxiety, its a horrible way to live and eats you up. I also understand the need for proof before you do anything.

RantyAnty · 11/02/2021 09:38

Just wanted to say, if you're not in cybersecurity, you should be!

Onthedunes · 11/02/2021 12:54

The 2nd sim thing.
Isn't it easier now that they have e sims, no transferring of sims.

Onthedunes · 11/02/2021 13:02

And no need for a two sim phone.

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