I think there’s another phone

[Dissillusioned]

I may be paranoid but a couple of things lately have me thinking dp may have a secret phone.
I’ve looked but can’t find one, so I could be totally wrong but my gut is telling me to keep looking.
What I’m asking is, those that have found a secret phone, where was it hidden? I’m hoping there’s places I haven’t thought to look. I’m also hoping I’m wrong and just paranoid as I do have form for overthinking things, but I’m watching dp like a hawk right now.

Under the front seat of the car..especially if he is putting on clothes to go downstairs..

@Bluntness100

Have you got another phone ? No, of course not darling!! At the same time thinking ummm I'm going to have to be a lot more devious now.

Fwiw OP, I think he's very obvious and sloppy and I don't think it's going to be too long before you find out for sure.

It doesn't seem suspicious to me but I think its always wise to trust your instincts.

If there is another phone,it might be an old type phone,like a burner phone which wont connect to wifi
I knew someone who had one and it was hidden amongst tools in the garage,which a woman isn't likely to bother with
Just an idea,but trust your gut instinct,hardly ever fails

Going downstairs to the toilet early morning could be to avoid waking you up? If he is texting, he could do that in the ensuite anyway.

If he is up to something, he's not very good at hiding it. As a couple, knowing each others habits, it can't be that hard to find times alone without you "just" missing what happens- in bathroom, while working, when other is definitely asleep etc.

I’m not going to ask him outright. I did say last night, you acted really weird, why did you say ‘what is that’. It was like there was something you didn’t want me to see. So I have probably already alerted him that I found it odd. He just said about not wanting me to sit on them and he didn’t know why he said that, then he changed the subject a bit too quickly I thought.
I will continue to act normal but I’ll definitely be watching for any other odd behaviour. And I’m still looking.
He does have a car but hasn’t used it in ages and the last time I was with him, so pretty certain it’s not there. If there’s one, it’s in the house.
Actually another thing I’ve thought of, we work together from him in our ‘office’ and a few times I’ve heard a phone vibrate (like a message coming in but no sound) neither mine or his personal or work phone have lit up. I just assumed it was his work phone and it didn’t light up on alert. It’s only ever happened when he’s been in there though as far as I can remember. So now I’m thinking, was it in his pocket? Or somewhere in office. I’ve checked office but he could’ve had it on him when I checked, hence not finding anything.

So OP when you heard the buzzing off the phone did your DP suddenly disappear to use the toilet or any other excuse? If he stayed sat in the room with you for hours after then it could be that he hasnt got another phone. If he left within a few minutes of you hearing the noise then could be leaving the room to reply? Just a thought.

Check the toilet , is it in the bit that lifts up where you flush the chain ?

Yeah I'd agree this is sus. Sounds like he keeps it on him. And he seems quite sloppy about it.

glovebox, gym bag, inside pocket of suit trousers or jacket/blazer hanging in wardrobe, in a shoebox at the top or bottom of the wardrobe

I heard that in prison they sometimes hide phones up their bottom! (This was with the older, smaller type not a smart phone! )

Not quite sure how one could steer a conversation in order to have a look...

He hasn’t immediately left the room when I’ve heard a buzz no. We are together a lot so if he has one, he’s obviously not on it all the time.
There probably is no secret phone and I’m just paranoid. But I’m the sort that when things don’t quite add up, i can’t ignore it. I’m really not one for believing in coincidences. I think his behaviour last night with the glasses has really set me on high alert, especially when I connect it to those other things. Time will tell I guess.
Thing is he is very loving, affectionate, compliments me a lot, we have great sex, says he loves me more than eanything, best thing that’s happened to him etc etc so me thinking he has a secret phone goes totally against all that. If it turns out to be true I don’t think I could ever trust anyone ever again because until he did those odd things, I wouldn’t have even considered it.

@Dissillusioned

He hasn’t immediately left the room when I’ve heard a buzz no. We are together a lot so if he has one, he’s obviously not on it all the time. There probably is no secret phone and I’m just paranoid. But I’m the sort that when things don’t quite add up, i can’t ignore it. I’m really not one for believing in coincidences. I think his behaviour last night with the glasses has really set me on high alert, especially when I connect it to those other things. Time will tell I guess. Thing is he is very loving, affectionate, compliments me a lot, we have great sex, says he loves me more than eanything, best thing that’s happened to him etc etc so me thinking he has a secret phone goes totally against all that. If it turns out to be true I don’t think I could ever trust anyone ever again because until he did those odd things, I wouldn’t have even considered it.

OP i believe you, i always trust my gut, i have had my instincts screaming at me and i have followed them up and uncovered an EA, broke my heart but i believe 100% in gut instinct.

Its not just him acting weird but small almost invisible things and very small changes to behaviour and routine get picked up on and build a picture. If your instincts are telling you something listen to them. You may be way of the mark with the phone thing but something he is doing is setting your spidey senses off.

Try this, you can do it from a laptop or similar without him knowing.

helpdeskgeek.com/how-to/determine-computers-connected-to-wireless-network/

OK, if you were hiding a phone, where would you hide it? Go and look there.
Then put yourself in his shoes, what are you not involved in and look there.
Eg, I know people who have hidden things in garages, tool boxes, car boots, the pockets of car seats..
The alarm sound, any chance it's a fitbit noise alerting to reaching target levels etc?

Somewhat missing the point, but I’ll always go downstairs if I’m using the loo early doors, or if it’s for a crap. It’s just good manners to do that, no?

A unit by the downstairs loo eg shoe storage

Box folder in the ‘office’

Inside a pair of socks/gloves inside a draw he can grab when you’re asleep

Oh I hope u find it. It all does sound a bit suspicious

Okay I'm going to sound really odd, but have you checked his socks while he's wearing them ? I once had a friend who used to hide their phone there during school and it's just so daft you'd never think to look there ?

Suddenly Getting down to go to the loo when you have an en-suite is NOT normal - trust yourself OP!

I meant to say : suddenly going to the downstairs loo when he normally doesn’t do that (if he always did no problem).
Similarly ... if he has suddenly started being very nice to you he may be overcompensating.

Yes I agree it's more the fact he never used to use the downstairs loo, but has now started using it which is suspicious, (that and the detour-object) not the act itself.

I also say trust your gut.

I would say trust your gut if something feels off it probably is. You’re going to be hyper alert now but try to remain cool. I really do hope it turns out to be nothing but trust your feelings for now.