Oh Lindsay, what you must be going through.
Your head must have so much going through it, so much information from wise ladies on here.
The fear at the moment must be gripping you and its at that point you just wish pandora's box had never been opened, wish things to go back to normal.
I agree you need some time to get over this initial huge shock, look after youself, try and eat small ammounts when you can and sleep whenever you can.
The mumsnet ladies are concerned about his intentions...
His ability to do this so cruely with your friend shows he's a special kind of evil, and so is she, we are worried about what they are capable of.
Do not give him the benefit of the doubt about anything that comes out of his mouth now.
So many of us have been there, thought we knew our husbands but they change.
You will not recognise him in the coming weeks.
Ask your mom or someone close to help gather information for you, you are too upset to think straight. You think the hurt cannot get worse but when they fight for their money, well lets just say you havn't seen anything yet.
If he has made plans to move on with her he will want to take as much as possible with him for their life together and so will she, you must prevent this for your daughters sake.
Dreadful people, I'm sorry you met both of them.
Forever more their names will be mud.