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Argument on NYE

190 replies

usersixx · 01/01/2021 11:35

So last night DH cooked a Chinese whilst I put the DC to bed. Earlier in the day I'd bought a big bag of prawn crackers from the shop to go with the meal.

Anyway I came downstairs really looking forward to the food, only to find that DH had demolished the entire packet of prawn crackers whilst cooking.

I asked him what the hell he was playing at? and told him he was greedy and thoughtless, to which he then started ranting on about how he'd only had a few, that he was hungry whilst cooking, that he hadn't realised the bag was empty etc etc - this is his usual behaviour btw, whenever he does something wrong he just denies and justifies. Never apologises.

Anyway I just came up to bed at about 9.30pm as I couldn't bare to be around him. He eventually apologised at 11.55pm and said Happy New Yr!

He has form for this type of greedy behaviour as well as never being able to own up to his fuck ups (well he does, but hours later). I'm just so fucking fed up with him today (generally)

OP posts:
confusedbeyond · 01/01/2021 18:00

Next time buy 2 bags, one is not enough to share! Also thank him for cooking, so what if he's "greedy" it could be a lot worse.

Allthepieces · 01/01/2021 18:07

It does sound annoying OP, but wow i would give anything to have that problem. You had someone sorting your dinner and someone there to share the new year with, I would put up with devoured prawn crackers for that.

And yes agree with other posts they’re v moreish!

Sexnotgender · 01/01/2021 18:10

@confusedbeyond

Next time buy 2 bags, one is not enough to share! Also thank him for cooking, so what if he's "greedy" it could be a lot worse.
It could be worse OP. You’re lucky!

FFS I despair.

JovialNickname · 01/01/2021 18:13

I think he was greedy and thoughtless eating all the prawn crackers but it is a shame that NYE was then ruined by being so angry and going to bed alone at 9.30. That will be what sticks in your memory, and his, about the evening, not that he ate a few crisps.

Charlie63849 · 01/01/2021 18:14

entire packet of biscuits in a couple of days

Hang on... a pack of biscuits lasts more then a day in your house?

If there is food in the house and I want it, then I eat it. If I wanted to eat the box of chocolates downstairs that are my partners officially then I would to be honest.

I would just buy more. It’s food and it’s meant to be eaten. Even my kids don’t moan if others eat their chocolate. We just share

XelaM · 01/01/2021 18:28

OP you really need to calm the f down. It's just food! This kind of thing happens all the time. It's really o big deal. Buy more food and calm down.

Original poster
usersixx · 01/01/2021 19:18

I'm still finding some of these responses hilarious! I'm actually agog at the number of people who are themselves, greedy and thoughtless and see no problem with this behaviour!

You'd all get on famously with my fella. In fact, he's quite a catch on paper, so if we do split up and there are any similarly glutinous single ladies on here then I'll pass on your details to him!

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Sexnotgender · 01/01/2021 19:20

@usersixx

I'm still finding some of these responses hilarious! I'm actually agog at the number of people who are themselves, greedy and thoughtless and see no problem with this behaviour!

You'd all get on famously with my fella. In fact, he's quite a catch on paper, so if we do split up and there are any similarly glutinous single ladies on here then I'll pass on your details to him!

It’s mind boggling.

In the meantime we can share a Chinese and wine with some of the sane people on here. I promise not to eat all the prawn crackers.

GravityFalls · 01/01/2021 19:33

My DP bought me a cheap box of chocolates for my birthday. To me, if someone buys them for you, they’re yours - but I would get them out often and pass them around so they do end up shared largely anyway. However, I went to start the second layer and found he’d started it before I’d finished the first one and taken some of my favourites because he doesn’t read the insert, just takes one at random. I said “that’s annoying, I didn’t want to start the second layer yet. You bought them for me and it’s spoilt them a bit with you going and helping yourself to handfuls at a time. Everything in this house gets shared and this was mine.” And you know what...he said “I’m sorry, you’re right, it was greedy and thoughtless, I’ll buy you some more” (he didn’t have to, I accepted it and moved on!). I’m happy to pass the box round and share them but when I choose to! Otherwise it’s not much of a present is it?

Northernsoullover · 01/01/2021 19:35

@usersixx

I'm still finding some of these responses hilarious! I'm actually agog at the number of people who are themselves, greedy and thoughtless and see no problem with this behaviour!

You'd all get on famously with my fella. In fact, he's quite a catch on paper, so if we do split up and there are any similarly glutinous single ladies on here then I'll pass on your details to him!

I can't believe the responses you have had. I hate greed. My children always ask before helping themselves to anything like crisps or chocolate too. Its called manners. I'm not stingy with anything but I would get cross if a box of chocolates I had fancied had been eaten by someone else. I wouldn't do it to anyone else either. I can't believe how many posters are pointing out how generous he was to be cooking for you. In this house its called cooking dinner which is just another household job!
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usersixx · 01/01/2021 20:02

Haha I know! I do find myself questioning the legitimacy of some of these posts, they're just too ridiculous Grin

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BronwenFrideswide · 01/01/2021 20:08

Count me in Sexnotgender, I don't like prawn crackers so more for the two of you to shareGrin

It is truly mind boggling: thank him for cooking be grateful for him sorting your dinner for you and having someone to share NYE with it could be a lot worse calm down and the list goes on and on.....

Gilda152 · 01/01/2021 20:31

Yep I agree the lack of manners on this post has been an eye opener

GravityFalls · 01/01/2021 20:40

I’m enjoying the idea that to buy one of something to share is always stingy - so if you’re having roast chicken for four, better get four chickens! You make a birthday cake to cut up and share? Well in my house I believe in actually catering for my guests so I made 24 birthday cakes for my last party.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 01/01/2021 20:46

Some people aren't reading the thread. OP's not very DH has several previous convictions for this type of selfish greedy behaviour. I say again, words twice this is not just about prawn crackers. I'm with you OP. I can hire the cement mixer in my name, no one will link us, as long can you can get him under the patio yourself :)

Sillysandy · 01/01/2021 20:52

@Bluntness100

Gosh, it never ceases to surprise me the petty shit people argue about. To the extent that there is a huge argument and you go to bed at 9.30 because you can’t bear to be around him because he ate your share of the prawn crackers,

And what’s even more surprising is some folks think this is a perfectly normal interaction.

And yet your replies surprise exactly nobody. "Gosh this is so petty, talk about an overreaction." Just copy and paste it.
TheSilveryPussycat · 01/01/2021 21:00

So suppose you were going to have some olives and bread to start a meal, it would be perfectly ok for the person cooking to scoff all the olives and bread while they were cooking? Is that what half of you are saying?

BillMasheen · 01/01/2021 21:01

@confusedbeyond

Next time buy 2 bags, one is not enough to share! Also thank him for cooking, so what if he's "greedy" it could be a lot worse.
Yeah OP

You slattern, this is ALL YOUR FAULT firstly for failing in your housewifely duties and purchasing sufficient food (despite it being a big bag and him wanting to cut back)

It is also all your fault for not being sufficiently grateful that he cooks, that he exists and you aren’t single, and that you didn’t immediately give him all your birthday and Christmas chocolates.

Do better OP. You simply don’t deserve this Prince among men.

Sexnotgender · 01/01/2021 21:01

@TheSilveryPussycat

So suppose you were going to have some olives and bread to start a meal, it would be perfectly ok for the person cooking to scoff all the olives and bread while they were cooking? Is that what half of you are saying?
Yeah you’ve pretty much got it. AND you need to be grateful that somebody is cooking the dinner.
thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 01/01/2021 21:09

Crux of the problem is that relationships are give and take, maybe there's an in-balance there that doesn't just include food.

SatishTheCat · 01/01/2021 21:14

He sounds as though he has an issue with impulse control and it’s clearly a problem for you. You are right to expect more from him.

Charlie63849 · 01/01/2021 21:17

@usersixx

I'm still finding some of these responses hilarious! I'm actually agog at the number of people who are themselves, greedy and thoughtless and see no problem with this behaviour!

You'd all get on famously with my fella. In fact, he's quite a catch on paper, so if we do split up and there are any similarly glutinous single ladies on here then I'll pass on your details to him!

oh yeh because we don’t have his and her chocolates that the other one cries over if eaten we are all greedy and thoughtless 😂 stop being tight and buy more.
Ianar · 01/01/2021 21:21

In my experience the folk that never see this as any kind of issue, are the ones that eat the most and never replace the food they promise to.

Ie- the arrangement works out for them the best.

Gilda152 · 01/01/2021 21:54

Why on earth should she buy more 😂 dead easy isn't it. Don't be a bad mannered fucking hog.

Sexnotgender · 01/01/2021 22:06

@Gilda152

Why on earth should she buy more 😂 dead easy isn't it. Don't be a bad mannered fucking hog.
Exactly. Never a thought to food budgets either. Just keep buying more🙄
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