Argument on NYE

[usersixx]

So last night DH cooked a Chinese whilst I put the DC to bed. Earlier in the day I'd bought a big bag of prawn crackers from the shop to go with the meal.

Anyway I came downstairs really looking forward to the food, only to find that DH had demolished the entire packet of prawn crackers whilst cooking.

I asked him what the hell he was playing at? and told him he was greedy and thoughtless, to which he then started ranting on about how he'd only had a few, that he was hungry whilst cooking, that he hadn't realised the bag was empty etc etc - this is his usual behaviour btw, whenever he does something wrong he just denies and justifies. Never apologises.

Anyway I just came up to bed at about 9.30pm as I couldn't bare to be around him. He eventually apologised at 11.55pm and said Happy New Yr!

He has form for this type of greedy behaviour as well as never being able to own up to his fuck ups (well he does, but hours later). I'm just so fucking fed up with him today (generally)

@Bluntness100

Your pleasure isn’t important

And yet, there he was cooking her a meal.

Cooking dinner for both of them, while she put their children to bed.

Yeah it’s inconsiderate and the lack of apology sounds really immature behaviour. Sounds like he can’t take responsibility for his own actions. It is selfish to eat the lot and I don’t believe for a second he didn’t realise.

Time to have separate food cupboards?

@BronwenFrideswide calling someone greedy for eating when hungry is extremely abusive. And sorry but I missed the part where OPs partner wasn’t making her dinner and she starved all night. Oh wait.....

Well eating stuff which is yours ie gifts is outrageous and needs dealing with. I can see how the prawn crackers were the straw that broke the camels back.

[quote JustLikeStitch]@BronwenFrideswide calling someone greedy for eating when hungry is extremely abusive. And sorry but I missed the part where OPs partner wasn’t making her dinner and she starved all night. Oh wait.....[/quote]

Presumably he had access to an entire kitchen of food he could have used to stave off mild, temporary hunger. The prawn crackers weren't standing between him and imminent starvation?

It is annoying 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I couldn’t imagine being so hatful towards my partner over it or in general 😳

Makes me really appreciate my relationship!

[quote JustLikeStitch]@BronwenFrideswide calling someone greedy for eating when hungry is extremely abusive. And sorry but I missed the part where OPs partner wasn’t making her dinner and she starved all night. Oh wait.....[/quote]
Funny I thought the OP's dh was making dinner for them both, or do you know something we don't and he wasn't actually going to eat the Chinese meal he was making and was just going to sit there with an empty plate?

This insistence from some posters on here that OP's dh was making dinner for her and therefore should be allowed to eat all the prawn crackers which were a part of said meal and then be given a medal for being so wonderful to cook is nauseating.

Totally agree with bluntness here ( I feel like I've woken up in the twilight zone 😁). To all those saying he should have apologised, upon learning of her husband eating some prawn crackers the OP went straight to "what the hell are you playing at" and called him greedy and selfish. (Also even saying he "demolished" the prawn crackers is contemptible and this is the next day, how angry was she last night?). I wouldn't have apologised to that. Hell no. And then she went to bed for over two hours on NYE. She's a flipping nightmare.

Also love that her husband eats a packet of biscuits over a couple of days, and she never gets a chance to get one . Slow mover is she?

Some people eat like this, I do. It's one of the reasons I can't have certain foods in the house. I was seriously undernourished as a child and it's a result of it. My body learned to lay down food when it can. I'm not saying that happened with the OPs husband, just we are all different.

I agree Bronwen, it’s really quite bizarre!

I’m sure he could have found a dry piece of bread or perhaps a cracker if he was on the brink of starvation.

What he did WAS greedy and OP has said it’s standard for him to help himself to her stuff. It’s a total lack of respect.

God there is some real hysteria on here. Anyone else picturing joey from friends shouting “joey doesn’t share food” .

And to the posters who point out he was cooking a meal for them both. Exactly. He wasn’t cooking just for him.

As said though, there is clearly a bigger issue here in the relationship. Yes he ate her prawn crackers. Yes he’s occasionally done it before. But the sheer fury and revulsion she then had for him, where she couldn’t even be near him ans had to go sit in her room at 9.30 on New Year’s Eve, indicates a real issue in the relationship.

Anyone who thinks this is normal when someone occasionally eats your share of some food stuff isn’t in a healthy relationship. On either side.

@Bluntness100 💯 Agree.

Some of the posts on here are madness & feel sorry for the DP!

@HmmSureJan of course not.

I should have added that I think OP should address the crux of the matter that her partner never properly apologies for things that annoy her - when she is feeling calmer.

Very easy to solve. Chocs with laxative fillings left in the cupboard. Extra extra chilli sprinkled in packets of prawn crackers. Then protestations of innocence... "I spilled chilli in them by mistake I didnt know you were going to eat them!" And "I've been having tummy trouble I didn't know you would eat them all!" Rinse snd repeat a few times and perhaps he will get the picture. In the meantime he gets to buy you replacements for anything he eats especially if it's a gift! Send him out today for replacements. With a hangover, in the freezing cold. Don't get mad, get even. He eats it.. just shrug snd say you'll need to replace it. Today. Not my problem. 🤷‍♀️

No time like the present. See a solicitor next week. Beat the rush.

I normally agree with Bluntness on most things but seeing as I also have a greedy twat of a husband (whilst maintaining his weight and being fit grr) I have a dog in this fight.

It's fucking annoying when they eat half your food. I actually have to hide nice stuff from DH because he's like a mindless locust on crack just vacantly munching his way through everything whereas I can have stuff sitting around for days without compulsively praying on it.

Reader - I'm the fat one. The injustice of being a middle aged woman with a slow metabolism. FML.

Agree with that @Bluntness

Unless you were both pissed it was a v petty thing to argue about.Id have just come downstairs called dh a greedy twat then got on with the night tbh.

And to the posters who point out he was cooking a meal for them both. Exactly. He wasn’t cooking just for him.

So why keep saying he was cooking it for her as if it was some kind of medal worthy event that she should be grateful for, or that he was doing her a huge favour and thus makes him entitled to behave inconsiderately rather than just a bog standard way of dividing up chores and responsibilities?

Anyone else picturing joey from friends shouting joey doesn’t share food

Perfect description of her husband.

Gilda 152 I actually have to hide nice stuff from DH because he's like a mindless locust on crack just vacantly munching his way through everything

I have this vision of a PacMan like creature chomping its way through the house then upstairs for more..

Bang on Arnold it's infuriating 😂

Maybe OP didn’t eat the chinese, in which case she posted when she was hangry, would explain it 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

@usersixx

As I said he does have form for this greedy behaviour. Like he'll demolish an entire packet of biscuits in a couple of days before anyone else has had any. He tucked into a box of chocolates that I'd been given for my birthday, there were about 3 left! He also ate through a bag of chocolates someone gave me for Xmas!

So I appreciate this latest scenario isn't the end of the world in isolation, except it's not. It's more about him being selfish and not considering anybody else!

It's greedy behaviour and I can see why you'd be annoyed if he knew you'd bought them for everyone to go with the meal, but sounds more like he has a issue with himself around self control around food if it's something he does regularly. Does he have an issue with his weight too?

It doesn't sound like he ate the other main meal food that's for other people. You should have just asked him to replace the prawn crackers and that packet will only be for everyone else.

The vast majority of people don't respond well to constant criticism and arguments, it's not really going to motivate anyone to change. Try a new approach of being more understanding that perhaps control around food is an issue for him (like it is for a lot of people), encourage him to go to weightwatchers or whatever works for him. When he improves his self control around food, then he'll be less greedy.

@SueDeNimm

Very easy to solve. Chocs with laxative fillings left in the cupboard. Extra extra chilli sprinkled in packets of prawn crackers. Then protestations of innocence... "I spilled chilli in them by mistake I didnt know you were going to eat them!" And "I've been having tummy trouble I didn't know you would eat them all!" Rinse snd repeat a few times and perhaps he will get the picture. In the meantime he gets to buy you replacements for anything he eats especially if it's a gift! Send him out today for replacements. With a hangover, in the freezing cold. Don't get mad, get even. He eats it.. just shrug snd say you'll need to replace it. Today. Not my problem. 🤷‍♀️

Wtaf? I hope this is an unfunny joke. Worst advice ever.

mixmatch she already said no weight problem just a greedy/self entitled problem.

Also, we wouldn't buy just one big packet of crisps for two people! It's Christmas and unless you're hard up, food doesn't need to be micromanaged! Perhaps next time buy one packet for each of you then problem solved.